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Hmmmmm I just wrote a big post, but i'm scared it may have upset people.... so i'll try summarise what i was saying!
Basically this is leading on from the post about the sound & movement monitor.
My nephew died of SIDS, so when Gab arrived I was really paranoid about Gaby dying of SIDS - or any other means. Losing Brodie, I guess I realised that bad things do happen to good people. Which scared me!
I bought a few different products to help reduce the risk of SIDS & other things which could cause infant death. So many people told me I was paranoid, had an overactive imagination, had mental problems (! ha!), or they'd just give me a look as if to say "oh dear... this girl needs help".
It upset me when I got those reactions, but you know what - I'm GLAD that I did what I had to do, to give myself some reassurance, no matter how outrageous it seemed to other people
I guess what I'm trying to say, is do what you feel you have to do, purchase the products you feel you need to, to make your life with baby as relaxed as possible, to reduce your anxiety levels, to give you some reassurance etc etc etc... If someone tells you you're a flaming idiot for buying such & such, for doing this & that - just remember that it's YOUR baby, it's YOUR life - and they have absolutely no idea what you're feeling, or the effect those feelings are having on you.
For me I NEEDED the sound & movement monitor, so that I wouldn't wind up with a breakdown of some sort. My anxiety levels for the first 10 days (? i think) of her life increased daily, and I barely slept at all, because i kept getting up to check her breathing... And obviously no sleep for a new Mum is a bad bad thing!!!!!!
I probalby could have summed it all up easier by saying TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS - DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO!
Thanks for the great advice Emma. I totally agree and will be doing whatever I need to in order to get through this with as much ease as possible. I know I got a few nasty comments when I bought my doppler but I just ignored them. It helped me get through it so it was worth it.