Been a long time

~*Jess*~ · #1 August 1st, 2011, 10:56 AM

Well hello ladies. It has been a very lOng time. I have had so much going on I swear I'm a basket case right now. Little miss is doing very well. Eating solids and still bf and taking bottles. Sleeping through the night. Trying to talk. Pretty much crawling. She is amazing. I love her to pieces. But my life is crashing and burning.

First I moved a "friend" in my house to help her out. She had no one else to help so like always I lend a helping hand. She moved in July 1. Her and mike are now dating and he is totally putting her before the girls. She is trying to be mommy. I'm tired of her. So I gave her til today to mOve out. I told mike he could stay but she was not to be at my house ever. I don't want her in my life period after some of the crap she has pulled. So he decides since she can't be in my house he is leaving too.

They are moving out tonight. Together. Living in his dads basement. The thing with this girl is she is going to use him and drop him hard. It's her pattern. Gets a guy to spend all attention on her then she gets tired of him and she finds a new guy without telling the first and just up and leaves the old one. This is time 5 in 6 months.

The way we are working the schedules for now is he will pick then up when I go to work and will bring then in the morning. I have then my days off and he has weekends since I work 22 hours on the weekends. Soon I'm changing my schedule and will work 12 to 8 and they will be in daycare like 11 to he time he picks them up. Then he brings them to me at 9 and he gets weekends. He doesn't expect me to go for child support or anything. He is wrong.

So my life has been upturned and in not supposed to be sad angry or hut that he is throwing in my face the fact he never cares for me. And now he has a new girl. Also the other day I flipped. I came home and all 3 girls were asleep in the living room while the door was unlocked and he was on the third floor doing her. No monitor or anything and he didn't get why I was upset. I tried to take my keys and he grabbed me and wouldn't let me go do I bit him. He let me go and I backed away and he put me in a choke hold until I was blacking out then let me go and got in the car and left me there. Yeah. Glad they were sleeping for that.

So if I'm not around it's bec my life is upside down and I have no time to breathe or anything. I just hope I don't collapse too hard right now. I'm sinking deeper and can't get out.

Ava Black · #2 August 1st, 2011, 04:01 PM

Jess I'm sorry things are so bad. You need to kick his *** out and change the locks. You cannot EVER tolerate someone putting their hands on you EVER! I would personally call the cops.

Lolly13 · #3 August 1st, 2011, 09:47 PM

I'm sorry you are dealing with all this. It sounds like you have your hands full for sure. It is probably for the best that they are both moving out...while it might be tough at first financially or whatever, it is the safest thing for you and your children. We're here to listen when you need to vent....Hang in there!

(PS... I used to be Lariena13....just changed my user ID...But I replied to several of your posts in the Hollow under the old ID. Just didn't want you to think I was a random stranger!)

~*Jess*~ · #4 August 2nd, 2011, 06:22 AM

Thanks

last night was the first night alone. I cried a bunch. So did the girls. It's like my world is tumbling. Tonight the girls won't be here but my friend is going to stay with me so I'm not alone. And he is letting me stay on the weekends as well so I don't go crazy. I just hope I can do thus alone. Ugh.

Lolly13 · #5 August 2nd, 2011, 09:03 PM

I'm glad you have a friend staying with you... A shoulder to cry on is always nice. You CAN do this...It might not be easy but you will get through it and end up stronger because of it all. Hang in there! Vent anytime you need to...

AndrewsWifey · #6 August 2nd, 2011, 09:36 PM

You're gonna be okay honey. I'm sorry he is doing all of this....but in the end you and your girls will be better off. Be strong and know that you will get through this. *Hugs*

jojo1207 · #7 August 3rd, 2011, 11:24 PM

Wow Jess - that's no way to live. Just the fact that Mike is dating some other girl IN YOUR HOUSE is just completely morally wrong, nevermind the physical stuff. This is a very toxic situation for both you and the girls. I don't know how you allowed that so long but I'm sure you have your reasons. It is a blessing that he is going to follow her out. If she leaves him in the 5-6mo time, his problem, not yours. Keep your chin up. We're here if you need to vent!!

~*Jess*~ · #8 August 4th, 2011, 01:09 PM

Well today was a true show of his character. He brought them home and didn't being formula for kalista. I asked about it and he said he didn't have enough so I asked him to pick some up at the store and I'd give him the money. He could'nt because he didn't want his new witch to wait at work too long. So I was going to walk the mike and a half with 3 kids but they were not cooperating. I called him to ask one more time and he said its my responsibility and he wasn't going to help. So I asked a friend to help. And mike is being a dbag and thinks everything's fine again. The girls wanted to see him today just for a hug and kiss he told me he has plans and doesnt have time to stop and say hi. Yeah. I'm done with him. He is not anything close to what a father should be and I'm done with it.

jojo1207 · #9 August 6th, 2011, 01:50 AM

And sometimes they're not. It is what it is. It's sad for you and the girls but it's him who is missing out, not you guys. Keep your chin up, do your very best to plug on without him, and be the best mama you can be in the meantime!!