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This was posted on the main ICAN list tonight. I thought it was so relevant - so true. The first paragraph in particular is exactly how I feel now - looking back at what I went through. I have to believe that things happen to us for a reason, and that is definitely what I have come to believe the reason was.
"The effects of suffering are not limited to its immediate consequences. It
has an impact on life as a whole. Sometimes one needs it in order to grow
more tender. As we reap our own harvest of grief, it is hard not to learn
compassion. Our love for others is purified: the pain we have experienced
makes us less and less willing to hurt anyone else. We become more human.
"When life is very difficult, people sometimes lay hold of resources that
they never knew they had. The easy-going, self-centered exterior is cast off
and a person of heroic stature emerges. Under pressure, the one who has lain
dormant these many years, tyrannized by an outward image bearing little
resemblance to what was within. Suffering causes the mirror to crack. As the
pieces fall away, we see what is hidden behind.
"In the culture of the industrialized Western world, it is difficult to
accept suffering. We are led to expect that it should not occur. If we lack
acceptance or love or self-confidence, perhaps some consumer item will
redeem the situation. Like some vast pharmacy, our technological society
offers a remedy for almost every ailment. We come to believe it is not right
to experience pain. We are encouraged to block it out, to forget our misery,
to act "normally." Millions of people walk around pretending to be "normal."
"As human beings we are vulnerable. The surest mark of adulthood is the
capacity to accept that vulnerability in oneself, and in those one loves."
-- Michael Casey
Every time I read something like this that strikes home, it reminds me that I am not alone in my grief - maybe grief is too strong a word for how I feel now. It is a mourning of what should have been. But someone - many someones - from all over the world have trekked carefully though the same emotions before me. And they capture it so much more eloquently than I ever could.
I may no longer be physically whole, but I am more emotionally complete.
Last edited by Sk8ermaiden; April 11th, 2010 at 09:29 PM.