[mamatomaica]

i just wanted to come here and spread some love after seeing someone post about it. I greived over the birth of my first daughter for years, and it affected bonding with her for a good few months it wrecked our first year i feel.
I did everything out of duty for her but didn't feel the love.
I just wanted to say everything you feel is normal, and you're entitled to feel it. its not just about a healthy baby its about a healthy mummy too and if you didn't get the birth experience you wanted it can hurt so much.

I found healing in my second daughters birth, in the process and preparation for it, and the eventual successful water birth.
you will heal too, it takes time, alot of it.
feel free to PM me if you need to, i'm happy to listen.
x

[tubyren]

Giving birth really is not that easy. It's okey to grieve.After all you will relieved.