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October 31st, 2010, 07:03 AM
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I don't know what more to say about it. It all started Friday when I said I'd be uncomfortable having MIL present at the birth. He spent 12 hours golfing and drinking with his buddies yesterday. He came home finally and I was really upset and crying. I tried talking to him and he blew up again. He said that he's not happy in our marriage and he's "done." He left. I just can't believe it. Not only did he walk out on me. But he walked out on Kennedy, and I can't forget that.
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October 31st, 2010, 07:33 AM
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OMG Jennifer I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry you're going through this!
Is it possible he's just blowing off some steam? I mean it's still a crappy thing to do even temporarily but maybe he was not in the right state of mind? You mentioned he was drinking too.. oh hun I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a big hug. I'm so sorry.
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October 31st, 2010, 07:49 AM
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Oh Jen, I'm sorry to hear that. I agree with Judy and hope he was just having a lapse in judgement and didn't really mean it. But you do what you have to for you and that baby girl. Hope everything turns out ok, keep us posted.

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October 31st, 2010, 04:59 PM
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Well, he's back. We haven't really talked a lot. He's agreed to go to counseling, and he still wants to go on the babymoon next weekend (***? You threaten divorce and walk out on your wife and unborn child and still want a romantic weekend away?) I told him we have a lot to talk about and work through. I guess we'll see what happens.
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October 31st, 2010, 05:13 PM
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I hope you guys work something out.
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October 31st, 2010, 05:47 PM
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I'm so sorry Jen...... I saw your post in your DDC and I really didn't know what to say. I really hope that everything can be worked out for the best for the both of you and for Kennedy....
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Jen, oh Jen. My heart hurts for you. I keep swearing I won't come back here because it hurts too much, but now I'm glad I did so I know what's happening. I wish we didn't need men for anything at all. Let's talk soon. Our hearts can hurt together and we can be confused together but know that there are good things in the world, like friendship and sisterhood. <3
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Oh Jen, I am so sorry!! I thinkabout you all the time, just wanted you to know that I still am!!! I hope things get tons better!!!!
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I'm glad he came back - how have things been since then?
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November 3rd, 2010, 06:46 AM
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Jen I am so sorry! I hope you are able to talk and work through all of it. I am thinking about you!
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November 3rd, 2010, 12:54 PM
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Well - it's completely ridiculous. I found out where half of these *ideas* in his head came from. One of his friends! When they were out drinking. Apparently they were B*tching about their wives and things got carried away, and his friend said a bunch of crap that was very exaggerated. Needless to say, he's been set straight. He's also doing some serious sucking up these days! I'm still demanding that we go to counseling though.
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November 3rd, 2010, 02:24 PM
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Good for you, Jennifer!!! I'd also demand he lose that friend... Clearly he's not conducive to a healthy relationship. Has he relented on your MIL being in the delivery room?
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Good for you, Jennifer!!! I'd also demand he lose that friend... Clearly he's not conducive to a healthy relationship. Has he relented on your MIL being in the delivery room?
I haven't gone down that road again. I figure I'll let the midwife or doula bring it up! I've done some thinking and thought of some new "arguments" and compromises, when it does come up again. Hopefully he'll see it my way. Otherwise, my doula said she'd gladly give her the boot if she shows up.
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November 3rd, 2010, 04:26 PM
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It should be your choice who is in the delivery room with you, you need your choice of support team. He needs to understand that!
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November 3rd, 2010, 07:53 PM
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Ugggh sometimes my DH's friends piss me off too!! MEN!!
I'm glad things are starting to get straightened out and that he's sucking up, as he should be!!
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November 4th, 2010, 12:39 PM
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this Jennifer! I really hope you can work something out. Good for you for demanding that the two of you go to counseling! I agree with Judy, he SHOULD be sucking up and then some. It really should be your decision who is in the delivery room. It's a very private time and you need to feel as comfortable as possible.
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