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I guess I have a hard time telling DH to help or do a chore. I don't want to be the nagging wife. But I guess I have to learn to ask him to do something around the house if I really do want help with it.
When Dan worked he was gone 6 days and worked 10-12 hrs a day and on the 7th day he rested and didnt wanna be bothered much.
I didnt ask him to do much except take trash to the curb for pick up on his way to work and he couldnt even "remember" to do that regularly so I stopped bothering a while ago.
He says if I need help or whatnot to ask but when I do he spaces it cuz he wont do it right then, he waits til he feels up to it and by then he either forgets or Ive done it cuz it needed doing quicker.
Nowadays he's home all day cuz of his illness but he's still the same about doing stuff to help. If its important to him(like cleaning off the satellite dish to get tv reception back) then he will do whatever he has to despite hurting after but if its something I may need or want he forgets or hurts too much/too tired and so I just dont even bother.
*but heaven forbid you say anything like this to him cuz he'd deny it up the wazoo or say "all you have to do is ask and Ill do it." which is a load of crap cuz I have and he blows it off. He thinks he does a ton around here for everyone and sadly, its not really the truth but he doesnt see it that way LOL*
I can totally relate at times! But I have no prob telling my dh I need help. Sometimes he doesn't listen, but usually he does. He's actually the one who does most chores, I'm just not a cleaner and he's obsessive about it, yet with a baby our house is still a mess. =/ It's hard w a high needs baby that doesn't like to nap too long. I'm very lucky that if he goes to work late I can sleep in while he watches her and he has no prob changing diapers or giving her a bath. The only thing he doesn't do is feed her as she's still ebf.
My hubby is the greatest dad and hubby! He does whatever needs done (most of the time) and often without me saying anything. If he notices dishes piling up he gets in there and does them. Same with the wash. Just about any chore he does it. If Kynslee needs a diaper change, bath, whatever he's in there to help. I don't believe there has been a day go by that DH hasn't changed a diaper so far.