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I never thought it would bother me, I always shop at thrift stores for my own family but I never thought of shopping there for gifts. Suddenly though thrift store and regifted gifts are starting to bother me. Maybe it's because the past 2 birthdays my girls have gotten obviously used gifts. DD1 received an address book with names already in it and the pen to it missing. DD2 received a colouring book with writing and colouring in it and a necklace that was all tangled into knots. She also got a game with missing instructions, open box and game pieces and a really odd musty smell to it.
These gifts are from the same 2 aunts. DD1 pointed it out to the one aunt when her book had writing in it and the aunt tried to claim that it was new and she had no idea.
I guess it's time for me to start shopping thrift stores for their kids too instead of purchasing new gifts $25-$30 per gift for all 6 nephews. I hope that doesn't come across as petty because it's not meant that way, I'm just starting to think I need to adjust the way I gift shop, especially for them.
we buy used clothes and toys for my kids, but i wouldnt for a gift unless i was really on hard times for cash, and then id make sure it was something new, at our stores sometimes i find stuff with tags on it.
if your relative isnt low on cash then i wouldnt spend 30 bucks on her children when she cant even be bothered to pick out a nice item for your kids. If she is on hard times, id probably privately ask her to just skip the gift or maybe give her time as gift, doing a fun activity with the kids instead
The thing is both of DH's sisters are better off than we are. Way better off. They take lavish trips every year, new vehicles, trailers near a lake, name brand clothing, etc etc. We struggle to make ends meet, only have one income and some months just barely get by.
I'd almost rather they didn't buy the girls gifts than buy them ones that are obviously used.