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I don't know why I'm so focused on meals right now but I am.
When you sit down to eat a meal as a family do you let your kids leave the table before you and DH are finished, is it the same rule if it's a long drawn out meal where the adults are leisurely eating and talking? Alternatively do you leave the table is a child is being slow eating and the rest of the family finished?
DH and I grew up with different ways of doing this so it's now a struggle for us to find a happy medium of who gets to leave the table when.
If it's get a normal meal, they don't ask to leave the table because they have to wait for all of the other kids to finish before we serve "dessert" (usually something light), but if it's a meal that's drawn out because we're talking, the adults are late eating, or some other reason, we allow them to leave when they are finished. These were the same rules for DH, but I was allowed to leave the table whenever I was finished.
Our kids have never asked to leave the table early yet, so we all just sit until everyone is done, but our meals dont really take long (maybe 10-15 minutes) if we were having a really long meal, where we had guests and were talking then yes i would allow my kids to leave the table when they were done
Right now, we eat super quick, or if we want a nice meal we feed Cam first. I think I'd like him to stay till the end, but we eat fast. Like we can be in and out of a restaurant in under 40 minutes LOL.
When I was younger, we were supposed to ask to be excused if we were done, and we pretty much always were allowed to go. My sister was super picky and always one of the last ones
DH never really ate as a family growing up so he values sitting down at the table to eat as a family.
DS1: C 8/12/2012
DS2: L 3/30/2014
Surprise baby! due 3/27/2017
I let the kids go when they are done too, but DH likes to have everyone sit until the last person is finished. That's great and all but sometimes Dh and I will sit at the table for an hour or so and if it's like Christmas dinner it could be as long as 2 hours, there's no way I want the kids to sit that long it's not fair to them. The other thing is, sometimes I have something that needs to be done after supper and one of the kids is taking forever picking at their plate, I don't want to sit there waiting when I need to be doing something else.