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I'm really f*cking p*ssed off with Dale! Not helping me around the house! I do everything and he does absolutely nothing apart from make a mess and I get no appreciation for anything I do EVER!
It would be bad enough anyway but it makes it even worse that I am 9 months pregnant and looking after a toddler too!
He is so f*cking selfish all I have heard about is his tooth ache for weeks and I am at the point where I want to rip his f*cking teeth out myself!
This morning he has come downstairs and given Emma her breakfast, sorted himself out with his breakfast and then watched me do a load of washing, put all the rubbish away, wash and dry the pots from last night, clean the sides down and sweep the floor! BEFORE my breakfast/cup of tea because the kitchen should never get that dirty and I can't just leave it like he seems to!!
He even came in and moaned I was in a bad mood! He hasn't even thought about changing Emma's nappy yet!
I'm sat in the kitchen out his way because I want to hit him
I know a lot of blokes are like this but it doesn't make it ok and he never used to be like it!!!!!!!
I know what you mean (apart from being 9 months preggo that makes it 10 times worse!!)
I have days where i feel like this about Gary. Do you know what I do? Sit and do bugger all - I mean i know its hard because i too hate my house being dirty but if he can do it, its good enough for you too.
Tell HIM to do things and if he moans just throw it in his face that your 9 months bleeding preggo for god sakes!
I have tried that Emma but he just leaves it and I can't cope with it being a pig sty! Yesterday we went out and left the house in a mess and it spoiled my day because I knew what I was coming home to! When I ask him to do something he will huff and puff and moan about working all week or his tooth ache and then I will moan and we will both be mardy. If he ever does anything he don't do it right anyway and only ever does half a job so I don't know why I bother! All I want is some appreciation or some thanks or him to just ask me if I'm ok or even just recognise that he is a lazy git would be nice!!!!!!!!!!!
lucy i HATE men, lee is the same he sat on his arse this morning while he watched me clean up then when i had he then decided to make his, he always makes a bloody mess, and now he has stormed out cause i asked him to go to asda for some stuff before the kids go to the cinema he never decides what goes on his life he said....lol he has known all week that its lucis birthday infact he has known for ten fooooooooking years...lol and that she was going with her friends....and i didnt order him to go i told him he was gonna run late if he didnt go. i tell him stuff all the time and on the day he has the cheek to say i order him round and never tell him, its not my fault if he chooses to ignore me is it?
i swear i could smack him sometimes too....lol
sack the men i say
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Claire mummy to Joshua 22.11.96, Luci 16.11.98, Amy 26.8.01, Bethany 23.11.03 ^Jessica^ born sleeping 17.6.05 and Keeley 16.4.08
I know what you mean Claire, they say we moan and nag them but if they would just do things without being asked in the first place there would be no reason to nag would there!
Oooh heres one for ya ladies... When i worked and it was HIS days off I was still expected to come home and clean up, sort Mia out etc etc while he stayed on his fat arse playing on his games consoles!!
The last time he got up with Mia in the morning was when I was so ill i couldnt move without throwing up but even then i had to beg him to get up with her and he did it with such a FFS i do this all the time attitude
Right now he is still in bed, Even though we went to bed at the same time last night.
Its not like we resent what we do is it? and i totaly get what you mean about apprecation, it would be nice to have a thank you every once in a blue moon to know your apprecated around your house, espeically as its their mess you always seem to be cleaning!
Emma that is not on! Thank god we don't have a games console any more because that would be the icing on the cake right now!
It's bugging me even more because Max could come at any time and so I'm trying to keep on top of things!
I'm worried what he's going to be like when Max is born now, I can imagine he is just going to think he can look after Emma and I will do the rest! I don't know what he will be like if Max cries a lot I dread to think!
Im sorry Lucy ( and everyone else) big group Hug . men just really dont think at all sometimes, you need to ask them as they cant see that you need help. Unfortunatly so many people dont see staying at home and minding kids a *proper* job at all. I was playing a scrabble game the other day and in the chat at the side I was talking to a policeman and a male mature student, one of them commented that I had the hardest job in the world, the policeman made the comment that I was also doing the best job in the world - that most of the crimes he saw could be led back to bad parenting. it made me feel good okay i went off on a tangent there sorry
I know when i 1st went back to work on my 1st day there Gary said he was sorry because he didnt realise how hard it was to acutally do the house work and run about after a baby at the same time.
Shame he dosent appear to remember how hard it is...!
I don't think he's having a last minute panic about Max at all I just think he's being an arse!
That's lovely for 2 people to actually recognise that it's a hard job to look after kids and run a house Rach!
Dale only treats looking after Emma and doing housework like work when it's him doing it, when I do it 24 hours a day 7 days a week it's just one of those things I do because I don't work! (Actually I DO work and I'm getting paid Maternity Pay to rest before my baby comes and then to look after my baby once he has arrived!).
He's come into the kitchen to get some fishing bits to take into the loft (I have been asking months) and said that he is going to clear the drive... hmm those things don't involve being out of the house away from me and Emma by any chance to do they?!
It makes me laugh because he said the drive needs doing as it doesn't look very good when people come to visit when Max is born... err and a messy house does? Your dirty socks on the living room floor, that is ok is it??
I know what you mean Lucy, Dec is taking a week off at the beginning of December but im sure its because he has a list of things he plans to do! He wouldnt think of taking a random week off in the summer hols when the kids are at home all day to spend time with them!
when i was due woth daniel i cleaned the whole house to keep on top of things, well paul came home and left a right mess so i picked up all his things and put them in the bin, then he stressed when he couldn't find them
. men just really dont think at all sometimes, you need to ask them as they cant see that you need help. Unfortunatly so many people dont see staying at home and minding kids a *proper* job at all. I was playing a scrabble game the other day and in the chat at the side I was talking to a policeman and a male mature student, one of them commented that I had the hardest job in the world, the policeman made the comment that I was also doing the best job in the world - that most of the crimes he saw could be led back to bad parenting. it made me feel good 
at the dirty socks.
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