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Ugh, what a night. Michaela hadn't been well or seemed like herself all day. She fell asleep in the evening, and when I do my turn for the night I usually wake her around 10.30 for a last bottle, but I left it an hour because she hadn't been able to nap all day and was sound asleep, and I had started feeling nauseous and having a bit of an upset tummy after dinner, so I figured I wouldn't sleep just yet anyway. She then didn't get back to sleep until after 1am - she's very snuffly so was just struggling to settle - and it was even later for me by the time I relaxed enough. Then, she was making noises all night with being unsettled and though she wasn't actually waking up, it was making me up. I think I've had a total of 3-4 hours sleep, all broken. I had plans to start clearing out today and I have no energy, no motivation and ache all over.
This pattern just seems to repeat and repeat for me right now, every time I think there's been a shift and some improvement I end up right back here. Stop the rollercoaster, I wanna get off! lol.
So I did make a start, I went through my paperwork and did a big clear out.
My P45 is missing from my last job, I vaguely remember DP posting it off when he appealed his benefit claim (I was pretty poorly at the time, it was just after Michaela was born), and he says he never got it back or heard back from them. I am SO pissed off. I mean I'm going to need it if/when I get a new job....he never even chased it up when they had other people's important documents?? I've just ranted at him about it and he's STILL just playing his game and not really saying anything. I'm furious!!!!! I don't even know what you're supposed to do about this, it's just one of those documents you're not supposed to lose - and I didn't!!!!
Oh Sharron, sending you lots of big sounds like you're having a really crappy day. And why is Shaun just sitting playing a computer game instead of helping you figure out how you sort out the situation with your P45?! You're a saint compared to me, I would have launched his computer as his head by now! Stupid computer games.
Believe me Lou it's about the fifth time in the last week or so that I've wanted to take a hammer to the bleeping thing. If he carries on like this he'll be lucky if it doesn't happen. I've told him he needs to contact the Jobcentre he sent the stuff to and ask about it, as well as ask what to do about it if it is lost. He just said "yeah" and I'll let it go for today because we're all a bit under the weather, but I will ask him again tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day until he darn well does it. If he still hasn't done it in a week or so I've got a good mind to phone Virgin and ask them to disconnect the internet for a few days. Yep, I'm THAT mad.
I know!! I mean, I go on JM and Facebook, but honestly, if there's something that needs doing or someone is upset or the kids need me I jump to it. He doesn't even crawl to it these days. It's doing my head in.
It must be a man thing. If I ask James to do something you can almost be certain I will end up doing it myself because he just never seems to get round to it. For example the lightbulb in our bathroom has needed replacing for weeks now. He has the old bulb in his car so he knows which one to get and I have asked him on numerous occasions to sort it but it never gets done. It frustrates me no end! Not quite the same as sorting out a lost P45 but you get the idea.
It's the same principle Lou. It's like the shelves Shaun has been supposedly putting up to house all his books and board games...since he moved in...last JULY. And he hasn't got a job so it's not like he only has the weekends!!!!
I imagine in terms of the lost P45 I will eventually have to contact Salford City Council and pay for the privilege of getting a replacement even though it's in no way my fault that it's lost. I cannot see the Jobcentre finding it now, he should have chased it up months ago. So lazy. He will be the one paying that's for sure.