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very well written Sarah and a great topic. We are done, DH had the snip when Jack was teeny, he certainly doesnt regret it, I do sometimes and it saddens me to realise the next babies i will hold will probably be grandkids but deep down I know we made the right decision, when I think of money, the age differences ( any my age) and issues with kids we are now experiencing it would be wrong to have bought another child into the mix.
I shared the link on my FB page and wall as well (think everyone I know on here is on there so easier than going board to board). Hope you get some more responses.
It's definitely spooky about the fairy card though.
With me I know it's time now to focus on my career and what to do with my life, and as commented on your blog I had such horrendous labours I know I can't chance another one, not to mention in our current financial situation we can't afford another child, but I'm not 100% happy being "done" though not sure if that's because I originally wanted 3-4 children. However my heart and my arms are full with the two I have so maybe it's not that, maybe it's just a woman's instinct to have baby fever until she reaches the menopause and her hormones change. It's very interesting indeed, I'm going to check back in to read again in a few days and see what others have said.
It took me 18 months to convince James to have baby number three; he did it for me knowing how desperate I was to have just one more baby. He's going for the snip later on this year and I completely support his decision. I don't think i'll ever completely feel like I'm done but I am so blessed to have the family I do have and I look forward to nurturing them and watching them grow into remarkable little people and beyond. I'm happy, life is good and I couldn't really ask for more.
I thought i'd never be done even for a while after i had Keeley, i was really sad knowing i was never going to be pregnant again. I knew in my heart thou that i could never cope with the stress of another pregnancy after losing Jessica and then being pregnant with Keeley. I have no ''good'' memories of her pregnancy it was filled with fear. I then had to convince myself not to have another baby a year after Keeley was born. it took a few years to actually decide that i need to permanently stop myself being tempted to have another because it would be a selfish reason to have another baby and that would be because i was broody and wanted the newborn stage again. so we talked and Lee decided to have the snip which he did have last year. I am happy with our decision 5 kids are hard work.
You are right Claire, it is a selfish reason to have another baby for the sake of going through the newborn stage again, and I think it's the only reason why I even stopped and thought "am I really done?" Because I was sad that I wouldn't get to experience the newborn stage again! I felt at ease with my decision to be done when I was pregnant and confident 4 kids was it for us so my feelings must be because as a woman I love babies lol. Tbh I don't think we will have anymore. I bet in a few months I will feel better about being "done" it's just hard right now because everything has suddenly come to an end in regards to bringing more babies into the world.