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I miss the days when I felt good about myself. Now that I'm getting towards the end of my second consecutive pregnancy, I feel so lost.
I'm so looking forward to getting back in shape, losing the baby weight, getting my hair colored and cut and wearing clothes that I like. I'm so happy to be a mom, but I need to have a little time to myself, I rarely spend any time on self-care... Yes, I shower every morning, but I can't remember the last time I spent any time on myself besides the absolute basics....
Will I ever feel normal again? Will I ever feel attractive again?
I remember the days of getting dressed up to go out. Heels, make-up, nice clothes - where did that person go????
Yes, I know exactly how you feel. I went for a haircut last weekend for the first time in about half a year, no joke. I'm still losing the weight from my last pregnancy too, but am happy to say that I'm almost there at least.
But yeah, it's hard to find me time sometimes, but soooo important to if you can fit it in. Like today I went to see Titanic with my brother in law and feel rejuvenated.
Steph mom to Ayla and Elizabeth
i think part of the issue is that we've recently moved and don't have any support network. So it's me and DH - and he generally works 6 or 7 days a week. I've met other moms that I like through play groups etc. but there really isn't anyone we can leave DD with so we could have a date night....
I'm sure things will get better once our children are a little older.
I just had my spring break last week. I got a new hair cut (short bob look) and got a new wardrobe which consisted of summer dresses, shorts, capris, cute shirts. I had to finally get out of the rut of wearing black pants/shirt to work all week and jeans/t-shirt on weekends.
I feel so much better about myself now finally, 11 months after Lily was born. So have hope that it will come back!
Aww mama...just think of it this way, you are getting it all out of the way now, and soon enough (and it will go by fast!) you will have some time for yourself. But Sharon did have good advice, even if you take 15 minutes to do your nails one evening or wear some makeup, it will make a big difference!
__________________ Pam, mom to Sarah born on 3/24/11
Baby #2 due 11/30/12
39 y/o, from Boston, MA