[aubers68]

So I've been really curious, what do your husbands think of TTC? Do you tell him when you are about to O? Does he talk with you about your cycle and trying for a baby? Does he ask questions or do you just tell him on your own?

My DH is really distant from anything TTC. He doesn't want to know when I get +OPKs. He doesn't want to know when I think I'm about to O. He says it's too much pressure and it puts him on the spot. He tells me just to initiate BD when I'm fertile (or think I am) But then whenever I initiate he automatically assumes O is the reason. (when in fact it isn't always!) Of course he wants children just as bad as I do but acts as though he doesn't hurt emotionally. He will never talk to me about it. I got on him a little bit and he admitted that he doesn't like to talk with me about it because he wants to be strong for me and doesn't want me to see that he also hurts because of our fertility issues. I understand why he is like this, but it also drives me nuts. Sometimes I wish he would be more curious and ask more questions. I don't know why he would feel pressure... shoot when I tell him about possible O he could always initiate BD in a fun "Let's go catch that egg and make a baby!" kinda way. lol

[~* Natasha *~]

My DH fluctuates actually. But for the most part, he is pretty good about things. He knows how to handle me when I'm on hormones (oral or now injected) and has gotten really good at realizing when he just needs to calm me down. LOL

But I'll tell you what he tenses up about- scheduled bd and and the pressure that goes with it. AND with our hopeful upcoming IUI, the fact that he has to go into RE's office and "give up the boys" in the office setting stresses him out also.

But he's good about taking the vitamins/supplements I put out in the pill box that he kids around about but knows that the reason I put them out for him is because I think it will keep him healthy and help keep the "boys" more healthy.

I think ttc'ing is stressful on our guys, and we just tend to be more vocal about our feelings when they feel like it's their responsibility to be strong for us. I know that's what Price has expressed to me about it.....

[yrlilangel]

"I think ttc'ing is stressful on our guys, and we just tend to be more vocal about our feelings when they feel like it's their responsibility to be strong for us. "



This is our 1st month, so I have not experienced your frustrations yet. But I am sure they are bound to be there after a while. Right now Shane listens to what I have to say about everything I am learning. But then he turns around and makes fun of it in a funny way. He will grab his tummy and say ouch! I think I'm ovulating, I'm gonna go pee on a stick. LOL. I know that will get old after a while.

I do feel akward saying, lets do it bc I think I might O. So instead, I keep mum about it. Even tho I want so bad to say "hey, I think today I'm ovulating, lets do it!"

I hope it gets better for you and he opens up a little more. But if not, you always have us to vent to !

[3Sapphires]

Mike has never wanted to be in the "know" I don't know if it is because of the pressure, or what, but it is infuriating sometimes.

I always have to initiate sex - always for any reason, O or not. And he always asks me "why?" do I want to have sex.

it really bothers me.

[Sk8ermaiden]

Chris is very "in the know" about what my chart means and all the other various fertility things. We charted as birth control for years, so he learned with me. It's nice because if I say, my OPKs are getting darker but I don't have any CF! Or my temps are so ambiguous this month! He knows what I am talking about.

But in the same vein, I don't really tell him about taking a million OPKs (now that we're TTC) or necessarily when they're positive, or taking soy or anything. I am TTC right now but I just want him to be having sex. Don't ask me why. I think partly because who knows how long it will take and I don't want him to get burned out on anything, you know?

Except sometimes, when I finally gear up to ovulate in a looong cycle I get so excited about it. But he is used to that, lol.