[aubers68]

So today we found out that DH has a possible job opportunity. Well, he can apply for a "dream" position. We're not really certain how much of a pay increase, but it's a position he desires. The thing is it's out of state. We have both lived in Michigan our whole lives. Our family and friends are here. This job would be in Springfield, Missouri. His company would help us sell our house and help us get into another one. But I just don't know how I feel about all this. I'd love to get out of Michigan, I hate it here (other then my family being here). But just thinking about it scares the crap outta me. What would you do? Any advice or experiences similar??

[-Brandy-]

Take an adventure or maybe just a weekend trip to check out Springfield and see if you would like living there. I personally say if it is his dream job, and you two (soon to be 3) will be together then whats stopping you?

[3Sapphires]

DH and I were both born and breed in new jersey and eastern PA, an opportunity came up last winter in west virginia, and we took it.

it was actually less money, but we didn't want to stay in NJ anymore.

We ended up living apart for 4 months until we found a house and got moved. but the risk was well worth it!!!!

[melissamarie247]

Well, there is a lot to be said about happiness. I think happiness in your family is worth going anywhere for. My opinion is a little biased, though because we have no choice to leave every 3 years where ever the military sends us..

In October 2010, DH was sent to Afghanistan from Fort Lewis, Washington. I moved in with my parents for 6 months and they drove me crazy. He came back in late March and we knew we were moving soon so we stayed with my parents until July. During that time, he really did not like his job with the Army. His leadership was not good at all. The mood at home was just not as positive as it was before. We took a month-long vacation on our way to Germany to do a little traveling and when we got here we came into a really great community. I have some really great friends and DH really likes his co-workers here and leadership. Home life is much better when he is enjoying his job. We now have been here about 5 months and he is probably looking at being medically retired and sent back home where he will have to find another job that he may or may not like. I am looking forward to the move, though. Each place is what you make it and if your DH likes the job, I would say the move is worth it.

But then again, I was born into an Air Force family, they got out a couple years, then went Army, so I grew up in the lifestyle of moving. I know for most people it is more scary. But if you have the support of DH's company helping you move, then I'd say what do you have to loose?

...sorry about kind of rambling, I just wanted to say where my opinion is coming from. Good luck on making the best decision for your family.

[*Manda*]

I LOVE Springfield! You'll only be about 6 hours from me and in the same town as DH's uncle so we visit sometimes

I can give you more info about the areaish type stuff. What do you like/dislike about Michigan?

I understand how scary it is but you have to do whats best for your family ya know? We moved away a year and a half ago but ended up coming back luckily because of a job. I still liked it when we were gone though. And if your DH is really gonna be happy in his new job it might be worth it then too...

[gumonyershoe]

If it could potentially lead to a "dream job" then I'd say go for it. Yeah, it'll probably be hard to be away from your families especially if you've always lived near them. But really, I think the good will probably out weigh the bad. I would say do it.

[Ritzbitz]

This is a head scratcher. As far as a dream job goes, yes moving would be fantastic! You'll only be a car ride (plane?) away from your family and friends and yOull make new friends I'm sure! Here's the thing to consider... Your baby. How often did you intend on your baby seeing your family? How involved did you want them to be? My hubby and I are dying to move out of NYC but we are waiting til olivia is older because in all honesty, we love that our parents are close enough to help with her whenever we need. It's important that you know that you'll need time for yourself when you baby is here so making arrangements for someone to sit may be difficult in a new area. These are important things to consider so make a decision youll both be comfortable with. Hope that helps somehOw

[melissamarie247]

yeah, but babysitters are always easy to find. All you need to do is go to the local YMCA and they should have a list of certified babysitters in the area. That means they are red-cross certified. However the family part is the huge thing. When we get out of the military we are going back to NY to be near family. We are going to be 1.5 hours from NYC and 3 hours from our families in Mass.. so, it is a drive but we are going where is good for us. It is still across the country from my parents and we will travel to Puerto Rico at least once a year to visit family there. You could maybe look into how close you are to the nearest airports?

[aubers68]

I think we're staying in MI. We talked to our families and both would be upset if we left. Understanding none the less, but upset. This will be my moms first (and probably only) grand baby and she is super super excited and to take that away from her I would feel terrible. DH and I both talked and feel if baby wasn't in the picture it would be so much easier to pick up and go. But being our first child I know I am going to want my family around. No doubt about it. So I guess for now we're "stuck" in MI.

[3Sapphires]

It is really nice of you to stay for your family - couldn't pay me enough to do my families will though! haha!

but then again, my mom moved over 13 hours away after we begged her not to go, and my IL's well - I never have liked them, and I am so glad they are 90 minutes away.

Good luck, I am sure this decision is the right one.

[melissamarie247]

Well, that is great that it was not a long drawn out decision.. I also think it's great to have your family there like you want. =) If that is what makes you all happy.. that's all that matters!

[*Manda*]

As long as you're happy with your decision then I think that's the best one. Maybe in a few years you'll be more comfortable with it.

[~* Natasha *~]

I'm all about family, so I can completely understand how this decision came about!

Right now, My Dad is 30 mins away and My Sister is 10-15 mins away and that's far enough for us now! And we don't have a LO to consider at this time...

I hope you both find that this decision is a great one for you all right now!