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I'm new to this board. I need to hear others' experiences and/or opinions. I don't know where to start. I have a son who is now 4. My first pregnancy was good, except for a lot of morning sickness.
I recently found out that I'm 5-6 weeks pregnant. I've been having a lot of cramping. I called my OBGYN about a week ago (I have my first prenatal check up next week) and the nurse confirmed that what I described is normal. I was told that it is just my uterus getting back to my pregnant stage and shape. I was fine with that until I started spotting. I gave my Dr. another call and again was reassured that it is very common. I did not have any cramping or continuous spotting during my first pregnancy. I do remember 2 days of implementation bleeding and that was it.
Last night it got worse. I had some light red blood come out whenever I urinated, that happened twice. Then around early morning I had some bad looking discharge and I told my husband it is time to go to the ER because it freaked me out. It was dark red and very clumpy looking, almost like a mucus plug. I hope this isn't too much information for you guys.
The ER did a urine test to confirm the pregnancy, and a blood test, however my hormone levels were too low for them to do a proper sonogram (16000? I think). They did one anyway, which now irritates me that they did not wait on the blood test but put me through that belly and vaginal sonogram anyway... I guess just to make sure I'm ok down there? I hope so, if not that was stress I didn't need.
We got the results, the ER Dr. said from what they can tell I seem to be healthy but from what I've described and the chunk of mucus coming out that I'm now considered a 'Threatened Abortion' aka High Risk for a Miscarriage. He said that I have a 50/50 chance of either keeping or losing the baby. He also said that I should not have any cramping at all and that my uterus isn't anywhere near getting bigger. This totally contradicts from what my nurse told me. Who is right?
I will have to wait until next week to see my OBGYN and he put me on bed rest until the bleeding and cramping stops.
Now, I come to my second dilemma. I did have a lot of stress at work lately. I don't want to even begin explaining the kind of office circus I work in. I was so fed up recently that I managed to get another position within the firm. My starting date should be in 2 weeks. However, now I'm not so sure anymore. It is a big pay increase, which would make life easier for all of us... but considering what I'm going through I might have to turn it down now. I'm not upset at being pregnant, I'm just a little thrown off that literally every time something looks good for me career wise ...it just doesn't work out. I'm afraid that in this economic time that if I don't jump on this that I might never make it out of where I am now. It wouldn't be the end of the world. I'm just worried that if I lose this position or the one I just acquired that we will lose the house etc. The thought alone about moving in with my MIL makes me nauseas.
Have any of you gone through something like this right at the time of being put on bed rest?
Is there anything I can do while being on bed rest that could make things better for me and my baby? I'm going stir crazy already. It has only been half a day.
Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy! It sounds like you have been through a lot. The best thing you can so to make things better while you are on bed rest is to stick to the doctor's orders and stay on bed rest. I was put on bed rest with both of my pregnancies, though never for more than a few weeks and though it was hard, it worked for me.
As far as the work situation, I would fully intend on taking the new job and see where things are in a week when you see your ob. You could always reevaluate then.
I hope that the bed rest does the trick for you! I know that all of that uncertainty can be horrible.
You might want to post on the main high risk board since this tends to be a slow board and you are likely to get more traffic there than in the subforum.