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July 24th, 2012, 09:58 AM
LiamsMother's Avatar Amanda (Amahnda)
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Do any of you celebrate conception dates? DH and I have been arguing about this for the last 6 years. I think that that's a day to commemorate when our children became people and God gave them a soul, not at birth. Will thinks the kids will think "Ewww...this is when Mama and Daddy had sex." I don't see that ever happening, no matter how old our kids get.

Liam's conception date anniversary is in 2 days and I want to do something to celebrate it but Will isn't too keen on the idea. I wouldn't go into graphic detail with Liam, I'll probably tell him that 7 years ago, in 2 days, is when God put him in my belly. I think he'll be excited about that. He likes presents and celebrations and he knows about babies growing inside their mommies before (in our case) being "cutted out".

So what do the rest of you do, if anything, for conception dates?
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July 24th, 2012, 10:31 AM
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I have never actually thought of it, but I like the idea. My second knows that God put her in my belly when Mommy and Daddy were on vacation in Las Vegas, and mentions that every time she hears/sees something about Vegas. My oldest knows that God put her in my belly on Easter Sunday many years ago, but we never actually "celebrate" those days.
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July 24th, 2012, 11:35 AM
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Sorry, but I have to side with your husband on that one. I can see stressing the importance of us becoming "persons" at conception and not just at birth, but I wouldn't go out and celebrate it. I think it's too much, plus what if a mother plans her 5 children and then has an "oopsie" and wouldn't know exactly when the baby was conceived.. What would she tell the youngest, especially if his/her older siblings are already used to celebrating conception days? I think simply telling the child that he grew in your tummy for 9 whole months prior to being born is enough, so that he/she knows that they we created 9 months prior to coming out, exact day isn't needed (in my opinion).

We only celebrate birthdays, but I know some families also celebrate baptism days. But I have never heard of celebrating the day of conception. To be honest, I do not like the idea at all.
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July 24th, 2012, 01:59 PM
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I've never heard of that. It seems strange to me as well - it could be that it seems strange because it is not something we do in our culture though. My DH and I don't use NFP though and we don't chart and so we wouldn't ever really know what the conception date was. I mean, I'm sure I could guess if I wanted to but I don't see a need. I don't think that celebrating birthdays discounts that life begins at conception - it is just a tradition people have had for a long time - to celebrate the day of birth.
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July 24th, 2012, 07:43 PM
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We don't. I think it would probably be weird for the kids, but it would mean picking a somewhat random day to celebrate. Even with meticulous charting, it's impossible to know the *exact* day of conception. We can know when we've enjoyed days with fertile signs and we can identify all the signs of ovulation; but even with all those signs there's a discrepancy of a few days during which ovulation could have occurred.

Maybe celebrating the BFP day would be cool. "This is the anniversary of when we first discovered you were on your way!"
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August 8th, 2012, 12:59 PM
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I agree. I woudln't know what day I actually became pregnant, only the days I had sex, so really it would be celebrating that in my eyes.

I say using the birth day is a good day because it's physically marked by that, but stress to your kids they were people long before that day.
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August 10th, 2012, 07:25 PM
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I think it's a cool idea.

My family always celebrated my adoption day and my birthday, as my adoption day was when I actually went home with my parents and my birthday was when I was born
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August 12th, 2012, 06:06 PM
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I celebrate it for me, but not the way I celebrate a birthday. And for me the birth is such an amazing thing because the pregnancy is so hard that I truly do want to commemorate the first time I got to truly see them. (Yeah, the ultrasound, but so not the same). Terra outside is far more enjoyable than Terra inside. But on the days they were conceived, for the ones I know, I think about it, but with my first I had no chart so I didn't pay attention to the date and the second I think we tried just about every day, so again, no idea.
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October 13th, 2012, 07:53 PM
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No, we don't. I can appreciate the sentiment of it though. We do birthdays and we've started feeling like we really want to make huge deals of re-birth days (baptism anniversaries).
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October 13th, 2012, 08:45 PM
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I might "celebrate" privately. All of my pregnancies were lovely surprises and I would have to pick a general time frame. The most I would do with my children is say a prayer of thanksgiving and praise on the night of celebration. I agree that you can't predict your children's feelings toward celebrating something like this, so I would keep it between my husband, my self, and God.

Honestly, I'm horrible at birthdays even. We celebrate birthdays and feast days of the saints that my children were named for and each child can blow out candles on their feast day pancakes. My husband also cooks a large meal for many feast days in our house. I can't imagine adding in more to the calendar.

But, you know, we celebrate the conception of our Savior. So it's not totally bizarre. And I am a lover of celebrations as well as fasting and each has their appropriate context. I guess if it's something you want to celebrate, you should just do it in a way that works everyone in your family and ultimately glorifies God.
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October 13th, 2012, 11:22 PM
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I've also never heard of that--not sure what I'd do about my three adopted kids, kind of awkward. But you can totally do what works for your family, of course
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