[jessicag]

Is anyone else dealing with a husband/boyfriend/fiance that is very annoying right now? I love Devin to death but lately he has been really frustrating. I try to be really nice and considerate and I get up with Orion almost exclusivly at night, the only time I wake Devin up is when I need something done, while Im doing something else (example: Orion pee's and is soaks through everything in his bassinet-I need to change and wipe Orion down but I need thebassinet sheets changed, so Devin is recruited to change the bassinet sheet). I do this because he gets up and goes to work. SOMEHOW thats still not good enough. Somehow Im lucky because I am home all day with Orion (and I have said being home all day doesnt mean anything when Im running on disrupted sleep because I am up all night with Orion too!) and he deserves to be able to relax every.single.night. because he goes to work.

really? I mean Devin helps alot when he wants to which is awesome, but I get really frustrated when hes like this most of the time. Last night I was cooking and took Orion out into the kitchen and put him in his swing. I cooked out there alone while Devin played games, not really a big deal till I go to ask him to get the onion chopper down for me (its up high in our cabnit and I didnt want to be climbing al over the counter cause my c-section cut was hurting) and he gave me attitude about it!

UGH! Okay rant over. I feel a bit better now

[Irshtripletsmommy]

Oh, I totally get where you're coming from! They really have NO CLUE how good they have it sometimes, it's infuriating! It's like all you want is a little help or some gratitude and they just don't get it.

[PennyLane1121]

Yep. I could have wrote your post. I have no advice for you. Guys are just like that. And somehow they are allowed to get away with it.

[*Mrs.ToyaJae*]

hmmm....no advice but I understand. My husband is acting like he really took his vacation for VACATION purposes. He's been pissing me off since we got home. I'm with Zion all night. Then when I do feel like I'm delirious and need a little help he gets all irritated like I'm ruining his vacation...ugh! I just try to ignore him.

[Tree_Love]

Originally Posted by PennyLane1121

Yep. I could have wrote your post. I have no advice for you. Guys are just like that. And somehow they are allowed to get away with it.

I even told him I feel bad asking him for help because he works all day but I feel overwhelmed. He still only changes 1 diaper a day and I have to force it out of him. I guess it's mainly frustrating only because there is someone to help and they don't. Like I can do it all on my own, but it would be nice if I didn't have to. It seems like he only offers to help if it absolutely necessary that he step in...

Like last night Roghan puked on me. Like super spit up... It was all down his onesie, my shirt, my pillow and a bit on the couch. First off I had to yell to get him to wake up in the first place and then he was irritated he had to get up and get me something to wipe it up before I got up so it didn't get all over more stuff. Then he was mad I asked him to change Roghan while I changed and washed my boobs off!

And once I asked him to change Roghan after I handed him over and he was watching TV. He seriously turned to our roommate and was like "Get busy nanny." I was livid. I had already made it to the hallway and I came back and told him I would do it if he was too freaking (but a different f word) lazy or occupied to take care of his son. We haven't had an incident like that since. Maybe the freak outs do the trick?

Sorry to hijack your thread. Thought you would appreciate a couple stories to let you know you're not alone.

[*Mrs.ToyaJae*]

smh....we all need to boycott and let them see how it feels. =( my poor babies will never survive with just their father taking care of them.

[AnnaBanana77]

Have you tried talking to him about it? My husband has acted like that in the past, but we have had some talks, and it made a world of a difference. He now begs me to wake him up and just ask for help. I don't like to wake him up at night because he has to work, but I will if I really need him. Or he will hear the baby crying, and he will take him and get him back to sleep.

It's one thing to not wake him up in the middle of the night, but he isn't "off duty" the rest of the dang day (I mean evening once he's home)! He needs to step up and help you out whenever he can, he helped make the baby, he's the daddy, he has just as much responsibility here!

[Tree_Love]

Originally Posted by AnnaBanana77

It's one thing to not wake him up in the middle of the night, but he isn't "off duty" the rest of the dang day (I mean evening once he's home)! He needs to step up and help you out whenever he can, he helped make the baby, he's the daddy, he has just as much responsibility here!

Hahaha.

Anyhow, I have talked to him about it. The "change" in him lasts about 10 hours. Or until he falls asleep.

[fancypants27]

I feel very fortunate...DH and I take turns most nights on who is "on call". (Benefits of formula feeding I guess). Of course when its his turn, I help out my mixing the formula while he consoles the baby, and he does the same when its my turn. He still does all the cooking, I do the laundry and cleaning. (He will help out but ONLY when asked).

I did get upset with him once...I wasn't feeling very weel and told him, and instead of coming home after his long day of work (6am - 5pm), to help me out...he went out for a bite with my dad. (Could be worse I suppose).

[Rae-of-Sunshine]

ouch ... I hope he steps up and helps more before you go crazy.

I know I am blessed to have DH home full time, and that has made things SO much easier. I still do all the night feedings, because I would have to be up to pump anyway. (plus at the beginning when we weren't sleeping much, one of us needed to be awake enough to drive to appts). I actually don't mind the night feedings at all, but I am generally up only once and for about 2 hours (by the time I get them up, change them, feed them, get them back to sleep, and then pump - which I am doing now). I am not sure what we are going to do with night feedings when I go back to work though. I would love the sleep, but I would have to get up at least long enough to pump, even if he bottle feeds them for me. Maybe we will alternate. Right now I am doing more of the baby stuff, because I feel like I spend half my day on the couch feeding them. DH has been great about other things though. He has been cooking most of our meals, and even finishes what I start when they get hungry and I need to feed them (like the bread I made last weekend, and the cookies the other day .. he finished baking both for me). He has left most of the dishes and laundry to me though Ah well, I was spoiled when I was working, so I don't mind throwing a load in now that I am home.

Anyway, it is the middle of the night and I am rambling. I do hope he helps out more though!