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I am getting more than ever before! I had such insane problems after I had Kairi, and honestly didn't DTD for well over a year. We DTD to conceive Alexis 3 years later, and it was STILL uncomfortable and painful. After Alexis, the Dr. fixed me up, and the first time after her birth was GREAT. It was such a relief to have control of my body back! Now we're at it any chance we get!
Argh, I hate you Angie!
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Now that our babies are sleeping more .... not this one! He sleeps less and less. He cries most of the night, we finally get sleep after 3. Then hes only up a couple times after that. And df isnt really to 'go getter' type. So between lack of opportunity, and my df's lack of drive Im not getting anything!
Amen, girl! I should've tried to get some more often when Miles was a newborn. He slept more back then than he ever does now.
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I sure hope we can bump uglies soon or I need new batteries.
HA, I would settle for even a little private time with my B.O.B. I'm not even getting that!
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We have some form of sex every other night, sometimes every night. I kind of just do it to do it though. I have never really been that into sex, but especiallay since I have been on the pill....I dont ever want to do it. I sort of view it as my nightly chore that I just have to get over with so I can sleep.
We have some form of sex every other night, sometimes every night. I kind of just do it to do it though. I have never really been that into sex, but especiallay since I have been on the pill....I dont ever want to do it. I sort of view it as my nightly chore that I just have to get over with so I can sleep.
That makes me sad. Not gonna lie, some nights I feel like it's a chore, but generally I enjoy it.
This whole thread makes me sad Our sex life isn't perfect but I do think a healthy sex life helps to maintain a healthy relationship. Heck If me and DF go long periods of time without it(longer than 10 days at the most) we are both kinda snappy and easily annoyed with each other and even if we do it once a week, its amazing. I never really enjoyed sex either until I got with my DF, I just kinda done it to get it over with but since being with my DF its amazing the emotional connection I feel with him I know its Corny but its true. Also my DF is the only person i've ever been with that I experienced an O with (never even had one by myself before)
The thing I am going to work on even more is initiating sex, I always wait for him to make the moves on me and I know it turns him on if I do it. I always enjoy sex but sometimes getting the energy to do it is hard....totally worth it though haha
Add me to the baby-not-sleeping list. Ugh. Plus DH works weird hours. Plus we are coming up on the one year anniversary of me finding out about his affair. Ugh Ugh. So no action around here.
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Lew, 1, DSD Lauren, 18, and Chuck, 4
This whole thread makes me sad Our sex life isn't perfect but I do think a healthy sex life helps to maintain a healthy relationship. Heck If me and DF go long periods of time without it(longer than 10 days at the most) we are both kinda snappy and easily annoyed with each other and even if we do it once a week, its amazing. I never really enjoyed sex either until I got with my DF, I just kinda done it to get it over with but since being with my DF its amazing the emotional connection I feel with him I know its Corny but its true. Also my DF is the only person i've ever been with that I experienced an O with (never even had one by myself before)
The thing I am going to work on even more is initiating sex, I always wait for him to make the moves on me and I know it turns him on if I do it. I always enjoy sex but sometimes getting the energy to do it is hard....totally worth it though haha
Just to be clear - I DO like sex. A lot, actually. Our situation just blows. I could feasibly get passed the "touched out" feelings and be intimate but we literally just cannot find a time & place to get it on. If John and I lived in our own place we could get away with the afternoon delight when the kids nap or just get busy in another room at night after the kids are asleep, but with my parents around that's just not an option. I guess there are people out there that don't mind going into another room and getting busy while others are awake in the house and know what's going on, but that's just not me. I am not uptight about sex whatsoever but it mortifies me to even risk my parents hearing/seeing me do it. I mean, obviously they know I am sexually active, LOL. But yeah, I can't even fathom the idea of getting busy in a bathroom or closet while my parents are running around the house. Yuck. Gag.
But for the record, I do miss it and look forward to getting it again regularly. We also tend to get snappy and disconnected when we aren't physically intimate on a regular basis, and heaven knows that having a baby around only makes that worse!
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The sex is good, when we have it. Which isn't as much as before. Dominic isn't a great sleeper but he typically is down for quite a while and sleeps quite soundly when I first put him down for at least 3 hours. My sex drive has actually been pretty low with the BF'ing, the lowest it's ever been. I don't expect it to stay that way once I wean him. So I don't have a problem with getting it less than before. We average maybe once a week or so.
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After the baby, we barely ever DTD......like maybe 2-3 times in 5 months. Were/are so scared of how fertile I am....lol But the last 2 months it's been more regular...by that I mean...At least 1-2 times a month but sometimes several times a week. Dh broke down and got condoms...lol
I do have to admit though, both DH and I agree the Sex doesn't make or break our relationship. I used to joke that the day after we DTD we'd always fight...lol Just seemed that way to me. But for us in our relationship we don't feel any less connected without sex, especially when it's for good reasons, no privacy, tired, babies/kids, etc etc. I used to always be worried because we'd go for sooooo long with no sex and I'd read stuff that said having a good sex life is key to a good relationship.... or the a bad sex life is the reason why some fail.... I'd say..."Is it crazy I don't feel any less connected to you, or in love with you even though we haven't DTD in 2 months?" He say he feels the same..so I'm glad for that because DTD can get to be few and far between around here... lol...
On another note...maybe we'll start doing it more soon because DH is getting his vasectomy next Friday!
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I started keeping track of our bd'ing cause we're NTNP and the last time we did it was Feb 25th.
We're still co-sleeping with baby but she's been doing really good in her bassinet if I transfer her over. I told DH we need to get a sleeper-sofa so we can do it in the living room. But then again, I hate sex anyway so what's the point...
I haven't had sex in over a year, and when I did I was pregnant and in an awkward situation (ex). So, to me, I haven't had good sex since January 2011, when I was newly preggo and full of raging hormones. No sex til I am married at this point.
Sex? yeah right.
I think we've done it about 4 times since the babe was born. Sadly this is not any different from before he was born, only difference is now it hurts. I keep thinking I should go to the doctor and get checked out. But I don't really care to have sex with my husband anyway...
Next time we do it will probably be when we decide to have another babe.
Sex? yeah right.
I think we've done it about 4 times since the babe was born. Sadly this is not any different from before he was born, only difference is now it hurts. I keep thinking I should go to the doctor and get checked out. But I don't really care to have sex with my husband anyway...
Next time we do it will probably be when we decide to have another babe.
Does your DH know how you feel?, I personally know my DF would be upset and hurt if I didn't want to have sex with him.
I guess me and my DF are a perfect match for each other because if I was with a man who had low sex drive I would go crazy. Different strokes for different folks I guess
Sex? yeah right.
I think we've done it about 4 times since the babe was born. Sadly this is not any different from before he was born, only difference is now it hurts. I keep thinking I should go to the doctor and get checked out. But I don't really care to have sex with my husband anyway...
Next time we do it will probably be when we decide to have another babe.
It hurt for me the first five or six times as well. I kept thinking time would fix it, but now I think it's usage lol
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Our sex life isn't perfect but I do think a healthy sex life helps to maintain a healthy relationship. Heck If me and DF go long periods of time without it(longer than 10 days at the most) we are both kinda snappy and easily annoyed with each other and even if we do it once a week, its amazing. I never really enjoyed sex either until I got with my DF, I just kinda done it to get it over with but since being with my DF its amazing the emotional connection I feel with him I know its Corny but its true. Also my DF is the only person i've ever been with that I experienced an O with (never even had one by myself before)
Does your DH know how you feel?, I personally know my DF would be upset and hurt if I didn't want to have sex with him.
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