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Does it pee you off when your SO (if you have one) goes to bed without saying goodnight, hugging/kissing you, or whatever it is that they do before you go to bed? I mean this question for those of you whose SOs normally DO say goodnight on a routine basis.
Okay, so hear me out...
When the evening goes the way that John wants - he gets to fart around on the internet, play video games, watch TV or whatever else his heart desires - he's always lovey, happy, and all up in my grill. He actually gets cranky when I retreat to my office to do work (which makes me nuts because sometimes the late night is the only time that I get to do my work, but whatever) because he wants to spend time with me during those precious moments when Miles actually sleeps.
However, lately we've had some nights when John hasn't gotten to do whatever he pleases in the evening. I've been busy with some business events so he's had to do some solo parenting, and now Miles has also gotten into this weird little groove where he only wants John to rock him to sleep instead of me nursing him to sleep (which I am LOVING but shhhhh, don't tell ). Anyway, whenever these nights happen John always gets in a mood and literally doesn't speak to me. He puts the baby to bed, SENDS ME A TEXT from the basement letting me know that the baby is asleep, plays around on his gadgets and then goes to bed. Without a word. No goodnights, no kisses, no hugs. Nada. He says it's because he gets tired really fast and forgets to come say goodnight to me. Riiiiight. On any other night he's up my butt to the Nth degree, but on these nights he coincidentally forgets to say goodnight to me. I'm sure.
I'm gonna be honest. It's starting to tick me off!
I know it's a little thing and no, I am not going to start a nothing fight over it. But what gives? Why give ME an attitude because our son has decided that he wants YOU to put him to bed? I've only been doing it all by myself for the past seven months - what do I know about how time consuming and frustrating it is?? Seriously, passive aggressive BS like this gets on my nerves.
Anyone else get this sort of treatment when the other half has to step into the trenches of nighttime parenting?
Grrrrrrr.
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This would tick me off as well and honestly I would call my DF out on it lol. I can't keep little things like this inside because it just grows into a much bigger issue that has nothing to do with the original problem and then we have a fight over nothing kwim?
My DF has done this a few times and it annoys me, but I don't like going to bed angry or annoyed with each other. I have kept DF up until 2 in the morning try to talk about why he is annoyed (which makes him more annoyed cuzz he wants to sleep ) but I can't sleep unless we talk about it lol.
Yep quite often since T has been born. It's funny bc it is totally a passive aggressive thing amd when I bring it up bf comes up with and excuse like "oh I thought I did say goodnight" or "well I couldn't find you". Umm we live in a one story 2 bedroom house so if he couldn't find me then I must be freaking Houdini. Tbh I've done it to him a couple times too but he knows that I'm mad when I do it lol. A couple nights ago my bf got up at 4 bc I fed T from 3-345 and told bf that he just wants to party. My bf was so put out over the whole thing and I was like "okay picture doing that at least 3 more times every night for 8 months and you'll see why I'm do cranky sometimes." sheesh men!!
Yea, I would say something. I wouldn't go at him all confrontational , but I would tell him how important it is to you & to please make sure it's priority, tired or not.
It will make you feel a lot better than holding it in!
D ALWAYS give me attitude whenever he has to do ANYTHING with Savannah. It bugs me to NO end!!
This would tick me off as well and honestly I would call my DF out on it lol. I can't keep little things like this inside because it just grows into a much bigger issue that has nothing to do with the original problem and then we have a fight over nothing kwim?
My DF has done this a few times and it annoys me, but I don't like going to bed angry or annoyed with each other. I have kept DF up until 2 in the morning try to talk about why he is annoyed (which makes him more annoyed cuzz he wants to sleep ) but I can't sleep unless we talk about it lol.
This is my dh and I...lol we HAVE To talk about things. I think I'd wake him up even when I got in there and say "Why didn't you say goodnight to me? are you mad? lol...
Id be irritated as well! Saying good night has always been a big deal to me. My feelings are hurt if its dismissed, overlooked or forgotten. Ask him about it. Tell him you've seen a pattern. It makes an even bigger deal when you arent having sex. For me it does anyways.
Id be loving it if Colton all of a sudden wanted daddy to put him to bed as well! You certainly are getting lucky there!
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Yes, that would bother me. I would probably say something to him. Like is it a problem that "YOU" have to do something with "YOUR" son? I always feel guilty for requiring any help from DH too, but lately that is changing and I'm loving it!!
And yes we usually do say goodnight/kiss/etc before bed. Almost every night still but sometimes we forget or fall asleep or whatever.
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I'd also be irritated. DH does this to me randomly...just goes in the bedroom and shuts the door. It doesn't have anything to do with Jacob, he just does it sometimes and it is annoying.
My hubs routinely goes to bed without telling me. I think he's just going pee pee cause he uses the bathroom first, and then I think he's looking for something and will be back "any minute" until I finally go and check on him and he's out cold in bed. The jerk.
And lately we stopped our bedtime prayers together cause he doesn't want to wake the baby (granted she's gotten to be a really fragile sleeper) but still. I am irked.
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). Anyway, whenever these nights happen John always gets in a mood and literally doesn't speak to me. He puts the baby to bed, SENDS ME A TEXT from the basement letting me know that the baby is asleep, plays around on his gadgets and then goes to bed. Without a word. No goodnights, no kisses, no hugs. Nada. He says it's because he gets tired really fast and forgets to come say goodnight to me. Riiiiight. On any other night he's up my butt to the Nth degree, but on these nights he coincidentally forgets to say goodnight to me. I'm sure.
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