Forum: June, July, August & September 2011 Playroom
Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.
We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
and register
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
I apologize I didn't do this sooner, but I really did not want to log in (however infrequently it may be at this point) and see my thread on this over and over again.
I had a few pm's asking me about my loss, so I thought I'd update everyone. I had a m/c last month. I still can not believe it. I had spotting almost the entire time, but I didn't think anything of it, especially after we saw the hb. I was not excited about being pregnant at all at first, and right when I began to really get used to the thought, the baby was gone. I feel that my negative feelings about the pregnancy tipped the scale in an unfavorable way. Everyone tells me that it's silly to feel that way, but I can't help it. It's not my favorite topic to discuss, but I feel sooo much better than I did last month.
So anyway, thanks to everyone who sent me pm's checking on me, and a BIG thanks to Suzanne! It was so helpful to have someone to talk to "in person" about something like that.
The thought of someone telling you it's silly to be sad sickens me. You have EVERY right to feel however you choose to feel about it. It's heartbreaking, whether you wanted to be pregnant or not.
I have had 4 losses & I know just how empty & helpless they can make you feel.
I'm so sorry Rae! I saw you mention it in a few other threads, so I thought I had missed your update and didn't want to dig it up. ((hugs)) Still just over 2 years out from mine and I feel it everyday.
Awww, Rae, I missed the whole thing. I'm so sorry.
I wouldn't say it's silly to feel like something you did caused it. I think that any of us who have had losses feel guilty for one thing or another. HOWEVER...it's not your fault. If negative feelings caused losses I'd only have Allison. And I CERTAINLY wouldn't have Patrick. I was not at all ready to be pregnant right then and I think I resented it the entire pregnancy.
I'm so sorry. Give yourself time. It gets easier. You never really get over it, but you learn to live with it better.
I'm so sorry Rae, I had no idea. No need to appologize to us. Take the time you need to sort through your feelings and come to terms with what happened. Know that we'll still be here for you when you need us.
Rae- I so very sorry for your loss. Brittanie is right, you never get completely over it, but it does get easier. I rarely talk about my losses IRL, but so many of the ladies here understand. If you ever are at a point that you want to talk about it, we're here for you. You are in my prayers.
JustMommies Message Boards
» 2011 Play Rooms
» June, July, August & September 2011 Playroom
»
Update...
I'm so, so sorry for your loss!
Linear Mode
