[LoveMyFuture]

Does anyone get mad when someone else that's pregnant decides to name their baby the same name as yours after you came out that you were naming your LO that name?

I have a friend, Fanea, that is pregnant with a little girl and since the day she found out she was pregnant has said she was going to name her Kinlee if it were a girl. Last week another friend of ours that's due around the same time announced on facebook that she will be naming her daughter Kinlee as well. As soon as Fanea found out that the other gal was naming her baby the same thing she was mad and said something to the other girl. The other girl replied by saying how she had made the name up. Anyway, Fanea can't stop fuming about it now.

I was just wondering if anyone else feels like this. I see there are a lot of women that won't disclose the name of their LO until birth and I wasn't sure if this is why. Would you be mad if someone in the DDC chose the same name? What if it were a friend? Family member?

This isn't to stir controversy or anything...BTW. (:

[dixon0511]

I wouldn't be mad if someone on here took the name, cause its not like most of us know each other outside of here or that our kids will be going to school together or anything. But if I disclosed my name to friends and neighbors and then one of them took the name I would be very mad! In fact for all three pregnancies I had names that were on the top of my lists that neighbors ended up using for their babies, I hadn't even mentioned the names being top choices for me so they had no way of knowing and I was still upset! But again if someone on here used the same name I decide to use or even one I mention on here I wouldn't mind at all. Especially because there are so many of us on here trying to come up with names it is almost inevitable that some of us will share names I think!

[rebecca0217]

I think that if someone on JM took a name I had i wouldn't care either cuz it isn't like our kids are going to be hanging out together!
On the one hand I don't want to share my names with anyone in RL because I would be scared of them stealing it, but on the other hand if I kept them to myself and someone took the name (some of my boy names are pretty common) I wouldn't be able to be upset cuz they didn't know. Fortunatley for me, the only person I would worry about being a name thief isn't pregnant right now!

[Irish_Wristwatch]

i really wouldnt care if someone wanted to name their baby William or Ross, no one "owns" a name and IMO its silly to get upset over it. Its basically inevitable that your child will meet someone else with the same name even if your friend thinks she made up the name "kinlee" she did not, i personally know 2, in fact there is a Kinley in my DS PR

so no i wouldnt care if someone else in this DDC wants to name their son William, in fact i think there is another mama planning on using that name if she has a boy, I also would care if a friend or family member used Ross or William, i might think they were slightly uncreative but it wouldnt bug me

[love.our.logan579]

Originally Posted by dixon0511

I wouldn't be mad if someone on here took the name, cause its not like most of us know each other outside of here or that our kids will be going to school together or anything. But if I disclosed my name to friends and neighbors and then one of them took the name I would be very mad!

[meganmacg]

I wouldn't care if someone here "stole" a name but it would bug me if I told a family member/friend and she ended up using that name.

But then again, I'm the youngest so I don't like to share.

[carisma]

If I told someone specifically what the baby's name will be and they used it, I would be annoyed. If someone happens to choose the same name and had no clue about me wanting to use it, then there's nothing I can get mad about there.

On JM, I don't see it as a big deal on having the same names because we don't see each other in real life. I think there are 2 Kieran's. I really like that name, but it's my nephews middle name, so I wouldn't use it. But would have if it wasn't.

[MrsR]

If someone here used the same name as me I don't think it would even register to be honest. If I told someone close to me that I was going to use a certain name and then they used it, I'd hope they were prepared to have two children with the same names hanging around each other.

[Seattlite]

My best friend named her second son John, which is a name we were seriously considering naming a boy if we had one because my grandfather who died in the Korean War was named John. I was actually kind of annoyed until another friend reminded me that my best friend lives in DC and I live in Seattle and although we talk all the time on the phone, we rarely get together. So it's not like the kids were going to spend that much time together anyway. Also, she calls her son Johnny, which I'm not a fan of.

Now apparently she's annoyed because we're naming this baby Maggie, because her sister (who died in a car accident when my friend was in middle school) was named Maggie and if she ever had a girl she was thinking of naming it Maggie. Except, she already has 3 kids (all boys) and I really, really hope she doesn't have any more (her husband is AWFUL and she's basically holding that family together single-handedly at this point, the last thing she needs is another kid to raise) and even if she does, who's to say it'll be a girl? Plus the whole "we live on opposite coasts" thing.

Not that either of us talked to each other about it, we both just kvetched to this other friend.

[pamphilia]

I might be slightly disappointed if someone in the DDC had the same name as I had picked out (but I wouldn't consider it 'stealing'), just because I want the names to be fairly unique. If someone I knew stole the name, that is a whole other story! I would be TICKED!

[Jacobbbsmommy]

Someone in our DDC is going to use the name Noah I believe... I just don't remember who. When I saw it, I just thought she had good taste hehe.

In RL however I only really associate with my family. No friends or coworkers or anything. And my family is really big about being NOT reusing names unless it is a family name, like Sam (4 of those variations) or Nick (5 of those variations) is in my family. So I know I have nothing to worry about. Besides most people I know in RL want to try to be 'creative' with their kids names and I prefer biblical boy names so not really an issue at all.

[LessthanThree]

With Nathaniel, I was pregnant at the same time as Michael's cousin's wife. We both decided on the name Nathaniel though I know she didn't steal it, we just both decided on the name. However, they decided to name their kid William Nathaniel and call him Nate. I was miffed at first but I don't really care anymore. We only see them at family cookouts, which don't happen very often.

[east to west coast]

We've only told about 5 people our names and we're waiting to tell the rest of our family and friends until after the baby's born, but it doesn't have anything to do with name stealing. We just don't want to hear people's opinions. I don't have any problem with really anyone naming their child the same name as we've chosen. And, actually, one of my bf's (one of the few people who knows our name choices) has always had our girl's name on the top of her list, and very well may name her kid the same thing as ours if we both have girls. The way I see it, they're not "our" names--anyone could have come up with them and chosen them.

I find it really irritating when people "call" names when they're not even pregnant. I've had a couple people say things like, "Well, if it's a girl, you can't name it such-and-such because that's what I'm going to name my son/daughter if I have a baby".

[Mbeth]

I wouldnt mind at all if anyone here used the same name but it would bug me if someone I was close to in RL did

[kara74]

I wouldn't mind if someone here used my name since we dont' know each other IRL.

I wouldn't like it if a family member or RL friend used it the same time I was but if they decided years from now, I wouldn't care. I don't like having more than one of a certain name in the family unless it's a distant cousin or a junior. My husband really wanted to name our daughter, Yasmeen, but it's his sister's daughter's name so no way. Too close of a relation.

[Anna.Loves.Toast]

I couldn't be mad at anyone in this DDC if they give their son the same name that we're using. It wouldn't be stealing, since we're not sharing his name

I know I've mentioned this before, but SO's sister is pi$$ed because she knows that the middle name we've picked out is the same name she gve to her son who passed away. We found out the other day that she's planning on using it for a future son also. It's not like it's a unique name, it's actually very common!

[LoveMyFuture]

I think it's odd how a lot of the ladies that replied to this mention "stealing" the name. Is this because the title of my post? In my post I never said the word "stealing" once. LOL. I just realized I haven't given my opinion to my own questions. I wouldn't be mad if someone in the DDC used the same name because we don't know eachother in RL and wouldn't have to worry about our children playing together or going to school together. I would be a little upset if a close friend or family member chose the same name after me because that could get confusing at times. I can understand where my friend is coming from at being mad at the other gal. We live in a very, very small Indiana town and their girls will both be in school (and probably class) together. I think to top it off, she was more frustrated by the other girl giving her the dumb excuse of saying she made the name up. Duh, obviously she didn't.

Originally Posted by east to west coast

I find it really irritating when people "call" names when they're not even pregnant. I've had a couple people say things like, "Well, if it's a girl, you can't name it such-and-such because that's what I'm going to name my son/daughter if I have a baby".

That's bizarre!

[eccomi]

i wouldn't mind at all if someone here chose the same name for their DS. on the other hand, we live in a very small village and there are a TON of women pregnant right now with boys. our kids will no doubt be friends and classmates and in such a small community (where EVERYONE knows each other) i think it would be confusing to have two kids of the same name and age. in fact, as soon as we found out that we were having a boy i made sure it was known ASAP that he's going to be marco. i haven't heard of any of the other moms saying that their DS will be marco, too, but at least they've been forewarned.

[ReedsMama06]

I really don't care what anyone else names their kid. LOL I thought of mine all by myself... Most people do. Now, if it was word for word with the first and middle names, someone I know, I might raise an eyebrow. His first name is pretty unique. Carter is more common and I am prepared to see alot of them. I do hope that Lane doesn't meet many kids with his name. Same with Reed. I like to use names that are different yet completely normal. With my first I was way more defensive I think! I have calmed down alot on the names... Nursery themes... It bugs me a little when someone i know well snatches up my ideas. Even though they didn't "steal" it from me I can't use it without looking like I am copying them. lol I am silly, but I can't stand it when something I love gets really popular all of a sudden. Like owls? I have collected them as long as I can remember... I have them dating back to the 80's! And now they are EVERYWHERE and sooo many people are doing them as a nursery theme!

[carisma]

Originally Posted by east to west coast

I find it really irritating when people "call" names when they're not even pregnant. I've had a couple people say things like, "Well, if it's a girl, you can't name it such-and-such because that's what I'm going to name my son/daughter if I have a baby".

I had names in mind (not that I "called" them for myself) and now I wouldn't even consider those names. Even from my last pregnancy, the boy name I had chosen, I wouldn't choose now. I guess they don't realize they may actually change their minds when the time comes.