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Can someone tell me or point me in the direction of the benefits of bed sharing? I'm afraid I'd roll over on him. He is going to sleep in our room in the crib, but I just want to know because I see so many people raving about bed sharing and it seems dangerous to me...
To sum it up
- Baby's breathing is regulated
- Mom gets more rest
- Reduces risk of SIDS
To quote from the article: Popular media has tried to discourage parents from sharing sleep with their babies, calling this worldwide practice unsafe. Medical science, however, doesn’t back this conclusion. In fact, research shows that co-sleeping is actually safer than sleeping alone.
To be totally honest, what you feel and think now will change after the baby comes on so many levels. I know it did for me drastically. I never imagined I would bedshare, allow the baby to self wean from breastfeeding, etc, but that is the direction I am going.
We bed-shared with my DD from the time she was born until she turned 10ish months old and went into her sidecar crib. I would have thought it would be dangerous, but let me tell you, your mama radar turns on big time and you will be so aware of your LO!
About the time she outgrew her mini-co-sleeper, we took her regular crib and side-carred it.
There are many documented benefits of co-sleeping, including a reduced risk of SIDs as long as the parents have not had alcohol or drugs, are not obese or taking sleeping pills or other heavy meds. It's something you'll have to figure out when the LO arrives. My plans changed when baby came and yours may also.
In my case, there was NO WAY that tiny, precious little baby was going to sleep in a dark room down the hall where I could not reach out and touch her to make sure she was breathing. It just wasn't happening. I still enjoy co-sleeping and my DD will turn 2 this month.
Thanks for the info! To answer the first posters question, I was talking about actually having the baby in the bed, like the benefits and dangers of it. We are technically cosleping since the baby will B's in the room with us, I was just curious how bed sharing affects the child.
I believed the hype that bed sharing was dangerous while pregnant. By the time DS was 2 weeks old I was sleeping so little from worrying about him and he was in the room (in an arm's reach at that!). It was hard staying awake while BFing in the middle of the night. We worked on side lying nursing in the middle of the night and he just stopped ever leaving the bed. I plan on cosleeping from the start this time.
I realized during my son's first two weeks that there are safe ways to cosleep and reduce any concerning risks. It is not for every family though!
I bought foam bed bumpers (goes under the fitted sheet) so that DS could sleep on my outside and not between DH and I.
I turned up the heat some and stopped using blankets above my waist.
Kept the pillow away from DS.
We were BFing - risks are higher technically for FF moms.
I am not overweight (not considered safe for morbidly obese).
I never let him sleep in the bed with me if I had been drinking at all the previous hours or was on any medicines (we kept his swing in the bedroom and he would sleep there fine on those rare occasions at night).
My husband was okay with it. He realized that I needed more sleep and bed sharing helped that SO SO MUCH.
Bed-sharing can be done safely and has many benefits like reduce the risk of SIDs, higher breastfeeding rates, regulate breathing, regulate temperature, closeness and bonding, etc.
I was worried about rolling on baby as I was a deep sleeper. But after I had ds1 I was no longer a deep sleeper and I'm actually a light sleeper now and always know where my children are. I don't put pillows, blankets, toys or anything near baby. If you take medications, drugs, alcohol, smoke or have sleep apnea then it could be dangerous to bed-share. Otherwise if you're a healthy, light sleeper, and follow the steps to safe bed-sharing you can have a great bed-sharing experience.
I've been bed-sharing for 5 straight years. I bed-share until my kids wean, ds1 weaned at 3 years and ds2 is still in bed with me at 2 years and I'm due in Feb with #3 who will also bed-share. I love bed-sharing and getting the benefits from it.
Mama to G, L & twins F & M
Started off 2013 homebirthing suprise twins Fia Celesta & Maddalena Isabella