[Sillylittlefishey]

A little backstory:

I was young and stupid and moved in with a total loser which resulted in my oldest daughter, Lexi. He was a total drunk and when I finally accepted that he would never change and that his alcohol would always come first I left him. Initially I tried to let him come see her, but he would only come once in a blue moon. She missed him and would cry for him and just about the time she'd forget about him, he'd show up and start the whole mess over again. But when he did come see her, he wouldn't spend the time with her, but trying to get back with me. I told him he either had to be a father all the time or not at all and he chose not at all.

Then I later married my husband. I was always worried about Lexi being forced to live with the ex if something ever happened to me and I didn't want my family stuck in a situation where they would have to fight to keep her. So we went through legal channels and terminated the ex's rights (he chose not to appear in court to fight the petition) and my husband adopted her.

A few months back the ex friend-requested me on fb and it gave me the major heebee-jeebees. I blocked him so he couldn't see my kids pictures as they are usually my profile pic. His niece has since friend requested me twice. I always liked her and I don't think she'd be feeding him info, but I can't take the chance so I ignore her requests.

So my husband who rarely checks his fb logged in tonight and the ex had friend requested him!! So my husband blocked him.

I was talking to my sister about it and she went to check out his page and he has shared albums of my kids (even with my two I've had with my husband) off of my husband's and my mom's fb accounts (as mine are only viewable to friends )on his wall. He has all kinds of crazy comments directed toward me (some about him loving me even and some hating me for taking his daughter away) and Lexi. He never even mentions his current kids except one post about his kid having rotten teeth and medicaid not doing anything about it that was posted on his kid's b-day. But he has pages and pages of stuff on me and my kids.

I'm completely freaked out and totally pissed. I haven't been involved with him in 11 years...why he is he still so freaking obsessed??

So my mom and husband have him blocked now, but I need to make a point to call my mom tomorrow and make sure she changes her profile to only allow friends to view it just in case he would create another account.

I'm also annoyed that my daughter will never be able to have her own fb account without having to deal with his crap. She knows my husband isn't her real dad, but she doesn't remember much about the ex.

And he tries to paint the picture of a devoted father on his wall that ruthlessly had his kid taken away....whatever...I'm so freaking annoyed.

Sorry for the vent!!

[SkyBaby]

Sounds like someone needs to draft a restraining order for the Internet. I'm sorry this guy is being such a pain. I would tell him to shove off and keep him blocked. You did say you liked another member of his family, but it may be worth it to sever all ties with all of them. With as creepy as he sounds, that might be the only way to keep him out of your Facebook. Block them individually as they send you friend requests. Your daughter can have her own Facebook eventually. Just give her the list of your ex's family members to block straight from the get go and voila, ex free facebook.

[Cheshire]

I'm sorry. I have just finally had the discussion with my oldest's father about terminating his rights and letting my husband adopt her but I still haven't told them my last name because I don't really want them stalking my Facebook either.

[Sillylittlefishey]

Thanks girls!! The family member that I did like of his, I didn't accept as a friend...I just didn't want anybody to be able to update him on goings on in our lives. But I'm planning to block her and be done with it.

As for terminating his rights....money well spent!! Just the peace of mind alone is worth it...knowing that no matter what my daughter will never be forced to live with him!!

[Aidan~N~Haileys Mama]

wow..that's a little, ok a lot, creepy...why would he have pictures of your kids from your husband..I mean even his own daughter is creepy, but why have pictures of another man's kids on your FB!! wow..I think I would email him or something and demand that he take those pictures off his profile, because who knows who's looking at them..*hugs* I'm sorry hun

[Sillylittlefishey]

Well he was linking from my husband and my mom's photo albums on fb, so now that they have blocked him and made their albums private, nobody should be able to see it, but I have to test it...guess I'm going to have to make a fake fb and look just to be sure since I have him blocked I can't see it on my own....such a a pain.

[Aidan~N~Haileys Mama]

well i hope that worked and he can't see them anymore...what a creeper!!