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March 28th, 2012, 08:25 PM
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I am so proud of myself tonight. My MIL commented on how fussy Riley was tonight and I told her it was because we were taking a sabbatical from solids because Riley was having problems with constipation again...I don't know if you guys remember but she went almost a month and a half without pooping on her own. So anywho, she started asking me why I would starve my baby girl and that it was evil not to give her solid yada yada. So I told her that technically, in the first year of life there are plenty of children that only take BM or Formula. And that the AAP recommends FF or BM for the first 6 months anyway. And that is why WIC does not provide any solids until they are 6 months of age.

She then started getting all uppity with me saying how she wouldn't allow ME, the mother of Riley, to starve my child and she would make sure her son fed Riley her solids. I told her good luck with that because he doesn't feel comfortable feeding her solids and would go with whatever I decided. And if he didn't he would be moving back in with his mother and she could feed him the solids. I told her that she was the grandmother and if she can't follow my rules for MY DAUGHTER then she would not have unsupervised visits because I couldn't trust her. AHHHHH!!! On the inside I was smiling so big for finally putting my big girl panties on and standing up to the devil!!! I love her to death as long as she isn't criticizing my parenting. I may be a new mom, but before I do anything new, I research it and if I still feel uncomfortable I call the Pedi. So suck on that one MIL.

Then, MIL and FIL were lecturing me about boat safety with an infant. I am accompanying my parents to NC to pick up a boat so that I can drive there truck home and they can sail the boat back to Baltimore, MD. They kept saying how dangerous it was and what if she fell overboard, etc. First of all, do they think I am going to dangle her over the side?! NO. Do they think I am going to let her roll off? How would she do that when ever side is closed in (its a 41' Carver....BIG BOAT lol) And they kept telling me over and over that I better not let anything happen so her and that she should sleep in her carseat so she doesn't roll anywhere. Now, let me say this, we will be docked the entire time. The only time they are moving the boat that I might be on it with her is Saturday and thats only 1 mile down river to a marina so we are not in the guys backyard on the boat. We are already sleeping on the boat until Sat from Thurs night. I seriously want to record them so they can hear how ridiculous they sound. I mean this boat has 2 state rooms, 2 bathrooms, a kitchen, salon/living room, an upper deck where the boat is driven from, a middle deck for sitting out in the sun, and a lower deck that leads to the swim platform. I mean really, its a floating house. (my dad named it "The Dog House" how appropriate. )

My parents love Riley and would never let anything happen to her. The even bought her this cool life jacket made of neoprene made for infants up to 30 lbs that has flashy lights, lots of reflective bands and a piece/pillow on the back that inflates so she stays face up. She will be well protected on the boat. She will never be alone and will either be held by someone or in her exersaucer. The kids got protection!!!! What are they going to do the saturday of Easter when we go for a short sail in the bay instead of sitting stationary? Make me take them with us so they can make sure I am parenting correctly?!

GAHHHHHH. Sometimes I wish I could just take her and disappear from everything and everyone.
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March 28th, 2012, 09:05 PM
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Good girl! I'm proud of you, too!
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March 28th, 2012, 09:34 PM
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I guess I was just tired and fed up with her know-it-all attitude about my wrongdoings as a new mother....
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March 29th, 2012, 10:47 AM
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You do have on your big girl panties!
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March 29th, 2012, 12:25 PM
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Wow your MIL sounds like a real piece of work. Good for you on sticking up to her though!
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March 29th, 2012, 12:45 PM
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Sounds like she means well, but it's pretty stupid to think you'd be irresponsible. Let's be real here, everyone makes mistakes, but a little common sense goes a very long way. Good for you!
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March 29th, 2012, 08:06 PM
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Good for you for sticking up for yourself..she has some problems, and a little (ok maybe a lot) overbearing..I think you stopping solids is the right decision for Riley, especially if she gets constipated from it..You aren't starving her because you aren't giving her solids, she's still getting BM/FF..ugh..i'm sorry hun, but I'm glad you stood up for yourself.
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March 30th, 2012, 07:27 PM
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Good for you! I'm so glad my mil is not like that...
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