[VikingMamma]

If you have a boy, will you choose to have the child circumcised? Why or why not?

[Love-my-Family]

Yes, I have no reason not to do it, so that's why we will

[TheOnlyPink]

Its not optional here. It will only be done in medical necessity, and wont be done before the child is 3 unless its an emergancy. My son had some issues with his foreskin being too tight, but they did everything they could and its loosened plenty, so he doesnt need the circ now.

I'm a firm believer in his body his choice tho. that goes for ear piercing for girls too.

[ratladee]

Yup! We will do it Ya know as a girl that has seen both, I don't know why guys are so concerned about it, either way is fine!

[MommyX2boys]

Mine will get it done. I have two boys already and both of theirs were done. I believe in doing it for health reasons. Ive done lots of research on it and its much easier to keep clean and less chances of UTI and all of that.

My oldest was not done right when he was born and most of the skin was still there I had such a hard time keeping it clean that when he was a year old he went in for surgery and he got it fixed. It was much easier after that.

That is just my opinion I dont disagree with those who choose not to. I believe you are the parent of your child so that means you know whats best for your child

[TheOnlyPink]

Originally Posted by MommyX2boys

My oldest was not done right when he was born and most of the skin was still there I had such a hard time keeping it clean that when he was a year old he went in for surgery and he got it fixed. It was much easier after that.

how are you supposed to clean it? I'm sorry if i sound judgemental or like i'm trying to cause drama! i am really just curious. I was told you dont have to clean it, its self cleaning. never pull the foreskin back, just make sure there is no poo or anything on it. I'm just wondering what advice you were given on cleaning a boys penis.

[VikingMamma]

I want to start off by saying that I intend no offense to either party by posting the original question or by posting a response to my own question lol. I just love how open our group is and we are currently having arguments in my own family.

DF is not circumcised and explicitly stated from the minute we found out we were pregnant that we would not be circumcising the child if it was a boy. I was fine with this, except my own spiritual beliefs (I am Christian) suggest that a boy is not "a son of Abraham" if he is not circumcised... basically not a Christian. I was really troubled by this because from a medical standpoint, there is absolutely no reason to cut off a part of the body that we originally start with.... Think about it. All vestigial organs of the body no longer exist because we evolved to lose them over time, yet the foreskin persists. Also, while there are medical studies supporting both sides, uncircumcised men are less inclined to contract HIV. Yes, there is cleaning involved, but as a woman.. I am much more reassured that my 20 year old boyfriend cleans his thing everyday when he gets in the shower. Circumcised men "have no reason to" and therefore probably provide their manhood with less attention (just my own personal opinion)... Also the reason circumcision was initially started (outside of the Jewish faith) was to prevent masturbation in the 1800s, there is no longer a religious or medical relevance to American circumcision. After further examining the scriptures, I learned that in Acts and Romans, the Bible states that uncircumcised men are considered to have as much validity as Christian as circumcised men... That it’s more about what they do than rules (which is my own view of Christianity anyway). I also personally believe that I have found greater stimulation as a female from uncircumcised men. Medical studies have also shown that uncircumcised men can experience more stimulation than circumcised men simply because they have the nerves that are meant for that purpose still. Again.... Not judging anyone here, I am just interested in everyone’s reasons for their choice, should they have a boy

[jessicab25]

I let dh choose since hes a boy and he wanted it. Ds only cried when they took the diaper off then he stopped and slept thru it pretty much he wined with the numbing shot. This baby will be too. Its a parents choice.

Originally Posted by Mom2J

how are you supposed to clean it? I'm sorry if i sound judgemental or like i'm trying to cause drama! i am really just curious. I was told you dont have to clean it, its self cleaning. never pull the foreskin back, just make sure there is no poo or anything on it. I'm just wondering what advice you were given on cleaning a boys penis.

It is not self cleaning at all. DH is not and he hates it and wants it done. You need to clean it everytime you pee and DTD. When naked it does not look as big and causes self esteem issues. DH did 2 tours in Iraq and when it was shower time he was extremely embaeassed.

If we have a boy we will DEF get it done. No question. DH is very upset with his mother that she didnt get it done for him.

[OurSweetLabs]

Ds is and any future sons will be as well. It is what is best for our family.

No! It is not my choice to have part of my son's penis cut off. If he wishes to have it done when he is older, then that's his choice.

Don't pull the foreskin back ever when he is little. When the boy is older he should be taught to gently pull it back and cleanse with soap and warm water.

[TheOnlyPink]

Originally Posted by jojow

Don't pull the foreskin back ever when he is little. When the boy is older he should be taught to gently pull it back and cleanse with soap and warm water.

Thats the cleaning advice we were given when we sought medical advice for my sons penile issues. I have never pulled his back, just make sure he is clean on the outside. My husband does pull his back gently and washes it every day, but he says its literally a 2 second thing and isnt a big deal.
I just think its crazy how different advice is given on the same subject in different parts of the world.

[sockomom]

Both of my boys are circ'd. So is my husband. I let it up to him whether he wanted our boys circumcised or not. If we have another boy, he too will be circumcised. I read up on it, debated it, thought long and hard about it. What I came up with its a personal choice for everyone. I asked my oldest ds how he felt about it. He will be 13. He said he's glad I got it done when he was a baby and he doesn't remember it. He also said that being in gym class with the other boy, he would be embarassed if he wasn't circumcised.

[QuixoticKatie]

If it is a boy, we will circ. Hubby called the shot on that one.

[VikingMamma]

Cool Cool! Thanks for responding ladies Very interesting for me to read all the points of view

[ComfortablyMum]

I wont. SO isn't and I couldn't bare to put him through pain even if he wont remember it... that's just me

[Fiddlist]

I think both sides of this debate have always had compelling arguments, and I honestly don't really know where I stand, but I know dh will want to circ, so if it's a boy, we probably will.

Oh, and once again, the JM ladies deftly handle a delicate subject with grace and decorum! I've seen this particular subject get pretty heated on other forums. Love you, girls!

This is one of those "arguments" that will always have strong opinions on both ends and no ones "answer" / "opinion" is wrong.

[VikingMamma]

Originally Posted by Jessemarie

This is one of those "arguments" that will always have strong opinions on both ends and no ones "answer" / "opinion" is wrong.

Totally agree. It’s not something that can be a blanket statement right or wrong! It was never raised as an issue on my radar for me until I met a European man who was a firm believer in not being circumcised and we debated the subject.

[Meg1227]

If we have a boy he will be. Just our personal opinion.