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Who have to asked to be in the delivery room with you?
For us home birthers, will you have anyone come over to be with you?
I asked my Mum and my best friend of 14 years if they would like to be a part of it all and they both said yes! I think that they would also be much help with keeping boiled water going to keep the water temperature at 37°C.
A few months ago I just wanted it to be me and the SO, but I think with my Mum and best friend there, it may help me get through it all
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Eve Alexandra Mae | 30.12.11 | 9.44am | 8lbs 7oz | 20.8"
Just my husband My mom will be watching the girls. She watched Natasha when I had Veronika. But she was in the room with DH when I had Natasha... wasn't really my wish, but didn't have the heart to tell her not to..lol. I much prefer just DH.
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Julia - Mommy to 3 sweet kids Natasha - 6.5 Veronika - 5 and Sebastian - 17 months
Just my husband My mom will be watching the girls. She watched Natasha when I had Veronika. But she was in the room with DH when I had Natasha... wasn't really my wish, but didn't have the heart to tell her not to..lol. I much prefer just DH.
Aww I'd probably feel the same. I have a hard time telling people "no" or what I really want when it feels like an awkward situation (like your one!)
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Eve Alexandra Mae | 30.12.11 | 9.44am | 8lbs 7oz | 20.8"
I keep going back and forth between just DF and Mom/DF...... Any advice?
I would have my mom there. I did when I had Stella and thank goodness she was there or we would have no pictures of newly born Stella! Dh was so amazed by the whole thing he was completely useless!
This time it will proably be just me and DH. My mom will have Stella. Or I might have my Dad keep Stella is my mom really wants to be there.
Alissa, it depends on your comfort level. My mom was not in the way at all, it's just that her & I are not super close and don't have that mom/daughter relationship. So it was awkward for me, but I didn't wanna say, "can you go home?" either because she DID help me with both the contractions (mentally) and the baby since with my first, I had noooooo clue what to do. She did not take any pictures, my husband took plenty!! So it depends on your relationship. Last thing you want is for her to get in the way and to offer unwanted advice... every mom is different.
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Julia - Mommy to 3 sweet kids Natasha - 6.5 Veronika - 5 and Sebastian - 17 months
Only DH. That is not something I want to share with anyone besides him. Not to mention, once Drake is born I want it to be a mommie daddy moment and no one else. AND I dont want my mom to see me like that. Julia im with you. My mother and I dont have a great relationship either so it would be very awkward.
Just DH will be with me, as it was with DS. Although while I was dilating away and waiting to push (I had an epidural and was quite comfortable) I had several visitors to help pass the time! But for the actual delivery, just me and DH.
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Mom to Luke, born June 22, 2009, and Brady, born December 6, 2011 weighing 7 pounds and 19.75 inches!
We'll be at home and for the most part it will be DH & I with the Midwife and Doula. My mom and daughter will be around, but I doubt they will be right there with me the whole time.
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Katie
Author, WAHM, wife to Nick and mommy to Alyse (8) and Hunter (1)!
Just the hubs will be there during the actual delivery part of it. Last time I had a bunch of family & my BFF there but when the doctor said it was time to push everyone left the room except hubs. Then we got about an hour of family bonding time before anyone came back in. It was perfect ♥
I had actually asked the doctor ahead of time to ask everyone to leave when it came time so I didn't have that "feel bad" moment where I was like get the he!! out.
I think I will definitely have my MIL bring my son there for a little while as we're waiting for progress. He knows that my doctor is going to "get the baby out" (I wasn't specific) so I'd like him to see me in the hospital environment. He has been to all my doctors appointments with me & loves to be involved. I don't want him to feel left out.
In addition to my DH i would have my oldest sister if she is able to be here from NY. She is like a mother to me, we are very close so i would be happy if she will be able there...but if not it will just be DH, my mom will not be in the room. My middle sister sort of invited herself in but yeah that's not happening
It will just be me and DH when it comes to actual delivery. I will however not object to guests if I go into labor and am just hanging around for awhile. I plan to have DS there before ( as long as I am not in too much pain) then he will come back after baby is born. WIth DS1 my sister and cousin were in the delivery room with me.
My momma and I have a GREAT relationship and it sucks she won't get to be there. Even if she could fly here to make the birth Patrick said absolutely no one else in there except us and the workers... It was very hard to tell my mom that and she did not take it well and now I think the relationship between DH and my mom will be strained because she knows I would rather her be there too... IT sucks having to please everyone. We did make a compromise and promise we would video (from the side) her being born. I don't want her to see my junk like that. Even if my mom could make the birth and agreed to leave the room for the big moment I think there would be tension and fighting going on. It sucks
Lol whats the matter... Um nothing mom I have a tooth ache
My mom and the SO will be in the room while I am doing the pushing. My BFF and my youngest sister will probably be in the room up until that point. Any sign of SO's mother security will be escorting her out
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I think my sister to take pictures(she offered ) & SO. he orginally wanted his son but I extremely uncomfortable with that...hes still kinda disappointed, and I feel bad but I stand by it.
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It'll just be MY old man and me, scheduled C-Section and all. but there will be a lot of ppl, there waiting for the after part. Although I'm really not sure how I feel, I kinda like my bonding time ya know.
