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Soooo this is the 3rd time Ive picked Gary up from the babysitter and she told me that this one little brat hit my kid. She puts him in time out and everything but thats all she can really do? She told his mom (they are friends, like outside of babysitting) he is the only other kid she watches. She has my Gary that kid & her two 4 year olds. Anyway, last week Gary got headbutted by this little punk. . .why you ask? Because he took the toy he was playing with. She told him, Gary is a baby and you are almost 5 you should know better and he got mad. She keeps telling his mom and they dont seem to be doing anything about it. I was friends with his mom years ago & we just started talking when she told me about the sitter after I had Gary. I LOVE the sitter & she is so reasonably priced so i would really rather not take him out but i cant let it go, something must be done. . . So my question is, should I talk to the mom about it? I am soooo not happy about this. . obviously & it CANNOT continue. . .what would you all do?
Shes my friend on FB so i dont want this mentioned on there please
I would talk to the mom. That way your not getting the sitter in the middle of it all... and you can also find out whether the mom IS truly aware of the situation.
She keeps telling his mom and they dont seem to be doing anything about it.
So they both (the mom & the sitter) don't seem to be doing anything about it?
It's completely unacceptable, in my opinion. I agree that the mom needs to be talked to (yet again, I suppose), but the babysitter needs to take this more seriously as well. She is the one who watches these kids ALL DAY, and these things happen under her watch. If speaking to the almost 5 year old isn't working, if timeouts aren't working, something else needs to be done and it's up to her to discuss what needs to be done with his mother. It's ridiculous that a baby Gary's age gets hit by a child old enough to know better.
I know that the sitter has had many conversations about it with his mom. . . she said that she is at a loss as well because his mom gets upset when she tells her that he was bad again. At this point I dont give a crap though that little brat is HITTING an 8 month old! UGH thank you ladies I just was soooo heated that i had to see what everyone else thought!
Wow....i was expecting the kid to be younger but almost 5 years old?! I mean that's not acceptable at any age but there comes a point where they know better and that kid is past that point. Wow, i'm just like so mad still.
On that note, i agree with Donna and would not feel safe with him there. It sucks that you love the babysitter but to me personally, and don't take this the wrong way, but there isn't any love more than my love for my baby (and DH of course but he's not in question here). If this kid is bullying your son already i wouldn't trust what he would be capable of next, intentional or not.
I appreciate everyones input and I know what you're saying Lauren, and obviously my love for my child is far more important than my "love" for my babysitter it just is a sucky situation is all, I have, in fact talked to the mother & she is nothing but apologetic. . . of course that doesnt make me feel much better but it helps my mind knowing that she isnt just shrugging it off. They will be separated. They will not be playing in the same rooms anymore so for now, that will help ease my mind a bit. . .See how things go for the next week. We have just to see whats out there looked around for other sitters. . .so we shall see. Thanks again for the advice, I do appreciate it and this afternoon I will be calling the sitter again just to remind her that they wont be playing togther and that I am not letting it go and all that.
Again, thanks ladies.
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Last edited by sareymac; August 12th, 2012 at 05:52 AM.
I totally understand it being a sticky situation, and i am not in your situation so it's not as easy for others to understand 100% but i'm glad there has been a solution remedied for now
Thanks I did ask for everyones opinion and definitely taking it all in and appreciating it! I just hate that its gonna come down to leaving her bc it took my whole maternity leave to find her lol but that kid is a punk and I cant have my little cutie face being hit by a turd like that.
thanks for asking, its okay no incidents yet, they are not together either. She has that kid away from all the kids, she is continuing his punishment from last week! I am very happy about this.
I am a child care provider. I watch up to 14 children in my home everyday. I understand your concern, as a parent I would be extremely concerned. There is no reason that your 8 month old should be around a 5 year old. I keep my children separated in appropriate age groups unless we are doing a group activity. I sometimes have my 6 year old with the smaller kids to help engage them while I go to the bathroom, but I know she isn't going to hurt them. You should request that she doesn't allow them to be together. I understand that it might not be possible all the time, but if this child is continually hurting the baby, they shouldn't be together.
I am a child care provider. I watch up to 14 children in my home everyday. I understand your concern, as a parent I would be extremely concerned. There is no reason that your 8 month old should be around a 5 year old. I keep my children separated in appropriate age groups unless we are doing a group activity. I sometimes have my 6 year old with the smaller kids to help engage them while I go to the bathroom, but I know she isn't going to hurt them. You should request that she doesn't allow them to be together. I understand that it might not be possible all the time, but if this child is continually hurting the baby, they shouldn't be together.
Yea thats exactly what I requested. She is doing that, also as a lesson to that little boy. But he is bad with her kids too. She only watches that little boy and mine. The other two are her twins, he is just not used to being around other kids and not getting all the attention. I dunno yesterday went well. . .We shall see how today goes.
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