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I either set of parents make annoying comments?
My mother, bless her heart, is determined to make crappy comments about my parenting of my newborn.
First it was about jade sleeping in bed with us. "she's got too much control"
Then it was about jade not nursing and me pumping all day. "just let her be hungry a while and she will nurse...you let her have too much control"
Then it's about her crying to be held.
Apparently we spoil her too much by letting her "control us". And my husband is out of control by rocking her all the time and holding her.
=( she's SO negative about our parenting. I realize we aren't perfect parents but we are doing things the best we can. Agh.
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Jade Ja Kang
1-18-12
10:52 a.m.
18.5 inches
6lb 10 oz
My Mom is super critical of me letting Avery sleep with me and not in his own crib/room.
Aaron's mom is very critical of me feeding Avery TOO much. When Avery cries I nurse him; so what? And also I shouldn't be giving paci's she point blank refuses to let him have his when she's holding him.
My Mom is super critical of me letting Avery sleep with me and not in his own crib/room.
This is my MIL. But criticizes pretty much everything. I'm not even going to get started because I'll get upset. She's a very opinionated woman, but I know she loves me and Cooper very much. I try my best to let it roll off my back.
I either set of parents make annoying comments?
My mother, bless her heart, is determined to make crappy comments about my parenting of my newborn.
First it was about jade sleeping in bed with us. "she's got too much control"
Then it was about jade not nursing and me pumping all day. "just let her be hungry a while and she will nurse...you let her have too much control"
Then it's about her crying to be held.
Apparently we spoil her too much by letting her "control us". And my husband is out of control by rocking her all the time and holding her.
=( she's SO negative about our parenting. I realize we aren't perfect parents but we are doing things the best we can. Agh.
I don't think we ever put our first down. Does she understand that maybe you're just enjoying the baby? I read that human contact also helped them develop their brains quicker.
My Mom is super critical of me letting Avery sleep with me and not in his own crib/room.
Aaron's mom is very critical of me feeding Avery TOO much. When Avery cries I nurse him; so what? And also I shouldn't be giving paci's she point blank refuses to let him have his when she's holding him.
My MIL tried totell us where Alice would sleep. That conversation ended with her crying.
I would take my child away if they were upsetting him or her because they felt the need to exercise an opinion. They had their chance to raise kids. I had to remind my mom of that again this time about her name. She had her shot to name us, and chose Arwen and Dell. She was going with Carla or Carl for a third. Her opinion is invalid.
I don't think we ever put our first down. Does she understand that maybe you're just enjoying the baby? I read that human contact also helped them develop their brains quicker.
I don't think anyone understands that. This is our last child and it's "our" only child together. I've got 2 from a previous marriage and he has 2 boys from his ex wife (ages 18 and 17) and a girl from his ex girlfriend (who is 8). The baby is the only "child" we have full time. I think it's perfectly fine that we spend so much time with her.
Since she's also breastfeeding now I do nurse her...a lot. Anytime she's fussy she takes the breast. I'm waiting on mother to get negative about that! I'm sure it's coming! This is the only baby I've nursed and it took 9 weeks to get there, I'll enjoy it every minute I can!!
And when she's 2 and still nursing and sleeping with us...I'll thank my parents to butt out!! Lol
Lol. I got a smiley face on accident. That shd say his daughter is eight years old. Lol
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Jade Ja Kang
1-18-12
10:52 a.m.
18.5 inches
6lb 10 oz
My MIL is very nice to me, but very negative about my DH's parenting skills. This puts me in a terrible position to defend him, even when sometimes I agree with her and would rather not stand by certain behaviors. She also says, and this drives me NUTS, "my baby." She'll say, "Oh, I think my baby is hungry!" and "I am going to protect my baby." It happened so much that my FIL finally asked her, "Are you going to take this baby and run away with him?" Since then, she's trying to stop herself, but I know in her heart he's HER baby! Thank God she lives too far away to be a daily problem, lol.
my MIL has a problem with bf...not sure what exactly her issue is....just because she didn't bf her kids doesn't mean I'm following suit. She managed to have her daughters follow along with her opinion but thankfully I am a DIL and enjoy my opinion more.
My parents are wonderful and generally none judgemental. I know there are things in our parenting style that they don't agree with, but they never say anything.
It's complicated with Bon's parents, she refuses to have anything to do with them, she was more or less raised by her Grandparents. Her Grandma can make some offhand comments occasionally but nothing that has gotten me overly riled up. She's lovely.
My parents have never made a comment about our parenting, but I do things pretty similar to how my mom raised me. My MIL on the other hand.... She has made a lot of really ignorant comments about breastfeeding. She came to stay with us right after Claire was born and really stressed me out. Any time Claire cried she would say "well she's probably hungry. I'm sure your milk isn't rich enough". She also asked me about a dozen times when they were going to test my milk to make sure it was rich enough like that's some common thing that they do to all breastfeeding women. Apparently her friend's daughter was breastfeeding and was told her milk wasn't rich enough and her baby would have to have formula. I really think MIL got her facts wrong in this story because I've never heard of that before. She's coming back for 10 days in May.... God help me...
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Claire Ellene 2/13/12 8 lbs 6 oz 21"
Milk not being rich enough is news to me as well. lol I have heard a woman told hers was too rich, but this was 35 years ago she was told this. Maybe this woman's doctor is old school? In general I think most just covered breastfeeding basics, and never really got into learning about it in depth.
AMilk not being rich enough is an old school thought. My grandma tried bf her first and was told by her Dr that her milk wasn't rich enough so she stopped and never tried again.
My mom is super negative and annoying. Rhydian doesn't sleep in bed with me but he sleeps next to me in his rnp and I get daily comments asking when I'm putting him in his crib in his room. I tell her that he sleeps next to me because I'm bf and it's easier at night and she tells me I'm lazy for not walking to his room to feed him when he wakes up. Mind you she did not bf me. I'm her only.
Bf is a whole new can of worms with her. He's fussy in the evening so he must not be getting enough. I'm selfish for not formula feeding so others can feed him...etc. ugh!
And then there's the little negative comments about me not knowing what he wants when he cries. About not covering his face when we go outside (he hates it) about holding him too much ahem o feel I hold him too little.... I rock him too vigorously I don't let him cry enough I don't dry his fat rolls well enough. I'm a bad mother because I forgot a burp
cloth when I went to visit.
Yeah and there's the times I catch her referring to herself as momma when she's talking to him....
My mom really irritates me saying that I am "too immature to parent" because my son projectiled on her carpet.
R u kidding? Dh rags me constantly over saying I don't burp jade enough bc when he gets her after I feed her she always has an extra burp.
I think that just means she's eating well! Lol
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Originally Posted by RandE
AMilk not being rich enough is an old school thought. My grandma tried bf her first and was told by her Dr that her milk wasn't rich enough so she stopped and never tried again.
My mom is super negative and annoying. Rhydian doesn't sleep in bed with me but he sleeps next to me in his rnp and I get daily comments asking when I'm putting him in his crib in his room. I tell her that he sleeps next to me because I'm bf and it's easier at night and she tells me I'm lazy for not walking to his room to feed him when he wakes up. Mind you she did not bf me. I'm her only.
Bf is a whole new can of worms with her. He's fussy in the evening so he must not be getting enough. I'm selfish for not formula feeding so others can feed him...etc. ugh!
And then there's the little negative comments about me not knowing what he wants when he cries. About not covering his face when we go outside (he hates it) about holding him too much ahem o feel I hold him too little.... I rock him too vigorously I don't let him cry enough I don't dry his fat rolls well enough. I'm a bad mother because I forgot a burp
cloth when I went to visit.
Yeah and there's the times I catch her referring to herself as momma when she's talking to him....
Are you sure we don't have the same mom?!?
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Jade Ja Kang
1-18-12
10:52 a.m.
18.5 inches
6lb 10 oz
Wow you ladies have some difficult people to put up with!! I'm lucky in that department. Although I do get annoyed at my MIL, she doesn't do things the way I want them done because she apparently knows better. She always thinkS he's crying because of an airbubble when I know his cries and know that he's actually hungry. When he's poopy she will wipe down with the diaper and not even wipe with a baby wipe, umm you still need to make sure all of that is off of his skin and out of the crevices. There's no book that says your a better parent the less wipes you use. Ergh!!!
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