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Seriously before this baby I was never stressed about anything, she is 2 months and I still feel stressed out for no major reason; her crying, lack of sleep, thinking something bad might happen to her, the idea of leaving her with other people, still feeling like I'm not able to do a lot of things I want to be doing because I'm with her pretty much 24/7, ect. I get so stressed out over taking her out somewhere and her crying, especially driving cause she hates her carseat, Before i would see people at restaurants with newborns and now that I have a baby I'm like are you kidding me there is no way I would have an enjoyable sit down meal at a restaurant with this baby! I kinda still feel like I'm in survival mode sometimes like those first few weeks, I'm wondering if breastfeeding keeps some hormone going that makes you emotional or if I just have some ppd...
If you are constantly worrying about odd things happening to her, like random falls out windows or dingos finding their way in, that's a sign. Most of that just sounds normal. It gets easier. Call your doc to put your mind at ease. He or she would know much more than me.
I stress out before every outing bc I know jade will throw a tantrum in the car.
Many things that I expect now, I just do asynchronous prep as I can before hand and then I'm prepared for her reaction.
Sometimes she surprises me and seems fine.
I try to always always always feed her before we get in the car now. Even if it's only been 30 min since she last nursed. Sort of to "top her off".
That's helping a lot.
Also since her rectal sphincter was stretched , she's much better in the car seat. The dr told me if it's too tight it can make upright car seat sitting extreme uncomfortable for them.
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Jade Ja Kang
1-18-12
10:52 a.m.
18.5 inches
6lb 10 oz
I know how you feel. The best way to calm the baby is to stay calm yourself. I actually just figured this out. Think positive when she cries. Dont freak out internally "what do I do to stop this kid from crying" "omg will she ever stop". Think "okay she will stop" "its normal for babies to cry". I just kind of tune him out now to be honest. When he cries and I know he isnt hungry, wet or gassy, I hold him close and just let him cry til he falls asleep. As for everything else. I cant take Conor out to eat because once another child makes noise its all over. He will wake right up and scream. He hates other children, especially noisy crying ones. I swear the hormones mess you up for life because I am still a hormonal mess.
This thread is making me laugh, because it's the same here! It's like the most stressful thing in the world to go to Walmart now, and it takes soo much extra planning, and then if he even makes a peep, I'm like OMG, he's gonna start screaming and the police are going to come because they'll think he's not mine because I can't make him shut up!
Arwen is right; it's normal to be stressed out and worried. It's not normal if you are worrying about totally random things. I know I don't have PPD, and sometimes when I'm driving, I think, "Wait, what if I didn't put him in the car?" when I know darn well I didn't leave him on the curb and drive off. If it keeps up another month, I might talk to my doc about anxiety, but I think hormones and the HUGE adjustment to being a mom can be blamed right now!
Hang in there, girl, it gets better, I know it does!
This thread is making me laugh, because it's the same here! It's like the most stressful thing in the world to go to Walmart now, and it takes soo much extra planning, and then if he even makes a peep, I'm like OMG, he's gonna start screaming and the police are going to come because they'll think he's not mine because I can't make him shut up!
Arwen is right; it's normal to be stressed out and worried. It's not normal if you are worrying about totally random things. I know I don't have PPD, and sometimes when I'm driving, I think, "Wait, what if I didn't put him in the car?" when I know darn well I didn't leave him on the curb and drive off. If it keeps up another month, I might talk to my doc about anxiety, but I think hormones and the HUGE adjustment to being a mom can be blamed right now!
Hang in there, girl, it gets better, I know it does!
I totally read yours wrong. I thought it said "I might talk to my DOG about anxiety. Lol.
Anyway I do the freak out about wondering if I left her at home or on the curb or in the basket. If she's quiet in the car I immediately think I forgot her. Or that she's not breathing. Lol. I've pulled over a few times to check her breathing when she's been quiet and content in the car.
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Jade Ja Kang
1-18-12
10:52 a.m.
18.5 inches
6lb 10 oz
Yeah I worry about silly stuff too. Like when I put him to bed at night and stay up with SO, I'll have a sudden panick moment when I'm like "WAIT Where is he?! I didn't forget him somewhere did I?" Then I remember that he's in bed and sleeping and I calm down. lol
I too am very stressed out, I think it's fairly normal this early on.
Yep, I get stressed too! I have yet to brave the grocery store alone. I always make DH go with me so if she starts up I can make a quick escape to the car and not be stuck with a huge cart of groceries. I also check her frequently at night because I'm afraid she's stopped breathing. We've taken her to restaurants a few times but it really isn't relaxing. She won't usually sit in her car seat unless she's asleep so one of us holds her while the other one eats and then we switch. Not all that enjoyable!
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Claire Ellene 2/13/12 8 lbs 6 oz 21"
I also check her frequently at night because I'm afraid she's stopped breathing.
I do that even though Rose is on a hospital grade monitor. I sometimes find myself waking up to make sure the lights are blinking, and it scares the crap out of me when she does that baby thing of not breathing for about 5 seconds then doing the several quick breaths. Totally normal, but the lights stop blinking!
One of her sneezes lit up every light on there recently, but the only light I saw was the one marked "apnea." I woke up so much that night.
I am exactly the same. I don't enjoy going anywhere. I breastfeed so I don't want him to get hungry while we are out, but he has reflux really bad so I feed him and have to burp him and wait a half hour or more before I can put him in his carseat without him spitting up. Can't go anywhere last minute it has to be super planned out and I ha e to start getting ready 2 hours in advance. Even then, he usually isn't happy when we go out :-/ im An extreme stress case
update! things are much better now that she can sit quietly without needing to be held, and when she does cry i fell much less stressed about it, not sure if its hormones or just that im a FTM just now getting the hang off it. I actually went to Target today with her when I could have waited for hubby to get home! This is a big step for me, he he, have still not tried a restaurant, I guess its just too easy to get food elsewhere, and i dont think i would enjoy it unless she was really in a good mood
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