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Since I've seen so many animals go homeless (I've been in the pet industry for years), due to a new baby, please take the time to read the article. Pets and babies CAN live in peace and as the baby grows, they will love & cherish the pets. But remember, children also need to be "TRAINED" to be gentle. I can not stress this enough! So many people blame the dogs for biting when the child was never taught to be easy with the pet and alot of times, it is the CHILD'S fault. Also DO NOT leave pets and children unattended, I can't stress that enough either. It's just asking for trouble. Thanks for looking at the article.
Pets and a New Baby
By Sherry Woodard What can I do to prepare my pets for the new baby?
Getting ready for a new family member is a busy,
exciting time. In addition to all that you need to
do to prepare for the new baby, there are a few
things you can do to make the transition easier for
your pets. Most pets accept a new baby with no
problem. But, if you want to be extra careful, you
can begin to prepare them ahead of time for the
First, make sure your pets are up-to-date with
veterinary checkups and vaccinations, since you
may not have time for such things in the first few
months after the baby’s birth. Give your pets plenty
of special attention. Play with your cats and dogs
on a regular basis; exercise helps them to relax,
and it relieves stress for the whole family.
If you have a dog, consider taking him or her in for a training refresher course. Find a
trainer who uses positive reinforcement. A trainer who has experience with babies and
children is ideal, since he or she can design a training, exercise, and safety plan for
your family. It will save you a lot of time and frustration when you are busy with the baby if your dog knows key commands, such as “drop it,” “leave it,” “wait,” and “down/stay.”
Make sure you practice the commands daily with your dog.
Both cats and dogs can benefit from familiarity with babies before you bring your new
one home. Invite friends over who have babies and small children. Watch your animals closely to see how they react. If your pets seem unduly frightened, you might want to seek help from a behaviorist; your veterinarian may be able to refer you to someone.
Never, ever leave a baby or child unsupervised with the animals.
Start using baby products such as lotion, bath soap, powder, and laundry soap. If you
and the rest of the family smell like baby products, the baby will have a familiar smell
when he or she arrives.
Set up the baby’s room as soon as possible, so your animals will accept the new
arrangement long before the baby comes home. A screen door can be very helpful to
keep cats and dogs away from the sleeping baby. You can practice going into the room and reading aloud or talking in tones you will use with the baby. The animals will learn to wait (probably at the door) for your return.
How should I introduce the baby on the big day?
Mom should greet the animals while another person holds the baby, since a normal
greeting from mom will help the animals feel that everything is okay. Mom can then hold out one of the baby’s blankets for the animals to smell. Your dog should be held on a loose lead.
When you enter the house, stay standing until the animals have had a chance to smell
and listen to the baby. Ask your dog to sit or lay down before the person holding the baby sits down. Watch the animals closely. If your dog is curious, allow him to view the baby from about six feet away. Hold the lead loose, but short enough so that the dog can’t reach the baby. Reward the dog with praise if he shows no fear or aggression. If your dog has been fine with other babies, you can allow him to go closer, but use caution.
What do I need to be aware of as we start life with a baby?
Your animals may need reassurance that life hasn’t changed all that much, so make
sure you continue to give them special attention. Watch for signs of stress. Your dog
may bark more; chase her tail, circle or pace; eliminate inappropriately; sulk or look
depressed; start licking herself or chewing on herself incessantly; lose her appetite; or have diarrhea.
Your cat may hide or seem shy; become grumpy, smacking people and other animals; eliminate inappropriately; sulk or look depressed; groom excessively, to the point of making bald spots or sores; lose his appetite; or have diarrhea. Any change in behavior can be a warning that your animal may need help adjusting. Consult with your veterinarian if you notice changes in your pet’s behavior.
When you start using a high chair to feed the baby, your cat or dog may try to share
meals with the baby. Teach the animals that when the baby is eating, they don’t get any tidbits. They will soon stop begging.
Never give your dog a doll that looks like a real baby to play with. Young dogs that
play rough need to practice being calm and gentle. You can help by giving your puppy
a massage; sit on the floor with her and slowly rub her all over until she is so relaxed
that she falls asleep. Try to restrict vigorous play to places the baby will not be crawling around in later (outside or in the garage).
If you need to leave your baby with a sitter, tell the sitter to keep the animals and the
baby apart in your absence. Don’t take unnecessary risks with any of your family
members – human or otherwise.
There will be new challenges when the baby starts to crawl and then walk. You will soon have a very short person walking around the house with toys and food that may be very tempting (and accessible) to a dog. Once you have a toddler, it’s even more important to practice your dog’s commands every day. Your pets can sometimes be a big help – if your child isn’t ready to calm down for a nap, try reading out loud to your dog or cat to create the appropriate restful atmosphere.
Even if your animals are extremely tolerant, children need to be taught to be gentle with animals, since eventually they will be around someone else’s pets who may not be so tolerant. Teaching kindness and respect for animals will bring greater benefit than simply avoiding getting bitten or scratched – it builds a better world for all of us.
Remember, never leave a baby or child unattended around animals.
Sherry Woodard is the dog training and care consultant at Best Friends. She develops
resources and provides consulting services nationally to help achieve Best Friends’
No More Homeless Pets mission.