I so hear you on the pregnancy brain. At my last dr. appt they called me up and asked me if I had changed my last name recently. I just stared at them blankly and said no, then they repeated my last name and I said yeah that is my last name. Apparently I had signed in with my maiden name, which I have never done before and I have been married for 7 1/2 years.
Wow your November is gone. I think a baby shower is totally fine. Especially, because this little one is a little girl. I like the idea of having everyone over after birth too.
We don't really need much for this baby. I have borrowed all of the big stuff since we got rid of ours and have started buying some of the little things like baby wash, lotion, milk bags, etc. I am considering getting a sit and stand stroller because I know Grace will be jealous of the baby riding in stroller

Other than that our only big purchase is getting everything we need to cloth diaper. This is a first for me and is starting to stress me out!
Hope you guys have a great weekend and Ryan has a fabulous birthday!