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I honestly have no idea whether the US or Germany is the best option, because I'm not familiar with how things are done in Germany. IMHO, the sooner the better since you've decided to do it for your newborn, but I'd leave the 12 year old to decide for himself (after giving him all the facts and letting him talk to the doctor). The only thing you'll get on a board like this is debate, because circumcision is a very personal choice, and some people are very passionate about their views on it. The best thing is to talk to your doctor, get a second or third opinion, discuss it with your husband, and then decide for yourself what you think is best.
1. I'd say have it done in the US, circumcision is much more common in the US and doctors in the US typically have much more experience with this surgical procedure.
2. I'd say no, unless he is having a problem with is foreskin. The procedure could be extremely traumatic and he may not understand why someone wants to cut skin off of a very sensitive part of this body. If he wants to be circumcised, let him decide for himself when he is older.
3. This is a personal decision, however, most doctors in the US use some sort of tool or clamp to perform the procedure.
I am of the opinion that there is no reason to circumcise unless my child has a medical problem with their foreskin. Keep in mind that circumcision is a surgical procedure, and like any surgical procedure there are many risks involved (infection, bleeding, skin adhesions, scarring, etc). This is a personal decision, just make sure that you do plenty of research before you make your decision!