[queenofthecastle]

Do you plan on letting the baby spend the night away from you?? If yes, when you think it will happen and who do you think you will let the baby spend the night with?? ( I have a reason for asking this question)

[Jessido]

Depends on how old. I really don't think so for a long, long while. I already know that after my life experiences, this baby is the #1 person in my life EVER and I never want her out of my sight... I may need to work on that so as to not become neurotic-mama lol... But I can't imagine letting her go away for the night at this point.

[moni8259]

Just dropping in, im usually a lurker but this topics been on my mind lately. Since both me and DF work 24 hour shifts, the way our schedules work we will only need a sitter once a week. But when we do, it will be for 24 hours. When I go back to work she will be 8 weeks old and we wont have any other option. Most likely she will be with either one of our parents or other family.

[luvmykids623]

Nope. I'm one of those paranoid moms. The only time DS has slept somewhere other than home is when I was in the hospital with DD. He slept at my parents' house. DD has never slept away from home. When I'm in the hospital this time they'll both be sleeping at home with FIL watching them, and DH will probably go home at night after the first night to be with them.

[amylynne01]

My girls have stayed at my parents' a handful of times, like when we go to weddings or when we went to Disney in December. It only happens a couple of times a year because we really have no need for it. If we want to go out, my parents watch them here until we get home. DD2 sleeps so much better in her own bed, but she is up and down all night anywhere else, even if I'm with her.

Baby will be with me until at least 18-24 months because there is no way my parents will take all 3 until then lol. I think the girls will get some special treatment from their grandparents while we get used to being a family of 5.

[blessdmommy]

Not until they're old enough to understand...
Our oldest will be 4 in April and still hasn't spent the night away from both of us. He has had some alone time with his daddy while I was in the hospital with our youngest, but that's been it.

[Frozendesire]

My three boys loves spending nights at Grandma and Grandpas house! My in laws are actually moving to a bigger place and will be setting up a bedroom just for them. She asked me if we could set up a regular night to have them stay over. I love it I love that my kids feel comfortable in their care and at their house. It makes me feel more at ease in case of an emergency!

I think baby will join the party (hehe) when I have a well established nursing supply. Most likely around 6 months + just depends on what we are all comfortable with and how little one is doing in the night.

[Bekah]

I don't really spend the night away from my kids, when I did it was to my parents, my siblings (who would stay at my place with them) or to their fathers the last time we were separated. I know when Isabella gets here I won't be leaving her with anyone but my parents overnight IF I ever choose to go out or whatever. And she won't be going overnight with her dad until 18 months + if he ever decides he will have the kids on weekends.

[SAHM_To_2]

UmMmm Ds is 31.5 months old and has not spend more then 6 hours from me (I was in cpr class)

I am absolutly stressing beyond the fact that i will ahve at least 1 night away from him while i am in the hospital.

So NOpe!

[SailorsWife]

I highly doubt it unless it were an emergency. I really have no need for it. There's no reason for me to ever spend the night away from my kids. Rilynn will be 2 next month and has never spend the night away from me. Having a little bit of anxiety about delivery because I don't know what I'm going to do with her. She's VERY much a mama's girl and I don't think she will sleep well if she's in an unfamiliar place and without me. As for baby boy, I've never been able to rationalize leaving my baby before a year especially and there's no where I'd be comfortable with leaving BOTH of them. So probably not. Why do you ask cause now I'm curious lol

[*Crystal*]

DS has never spent the night away from us. The first time will be when I am in the hospital having DD. Even then he will be staying at our house with one of the ladies who watches him during the day and DH will be putting him to bed then coming back to help me at the hospital. I am one of those paranoid mommies too. I can't stand being away from him. I can't imagine a time when the kids will be away from us at night... I am sure it will happen but I don't foresee it in the near future

[adi&co.]

The only time any of my kids have spent the night away from me was when Marcus was in the NICU and then again when I had Jamesen. He spent one night in his bed with my Sister in law at my house in the guest room. The only other time my kids will be spending a night away from me is when I have Gemma and depending on when she comes, they'll stay with a close friend of mine or my mom will be here and they'll be in their beds

[homesteadmom]

I have no reason for my baby/children to stay a night without me. I'll be bfing, so even if we were closer to Grandparents, I would wait until baby was much older, a few years at least.

[Resi]

Oliver spent his first night away from us right before he turned 3 years old. He stayed with my mom and asked to. Before then I wasn't comfortable with it and either was he.

[ValyntineG]

After I had Sawyer, I was kind of in a weird place emotionally. I still wanted to go out a couple nights a week with my friends and he ended up staying with my mom on those nights.

NOW... I want to go back in time and kick that version of myself in the face. I never have any need for a sitter and I like it like that.

It would have to be a really special occasion or an emergency for me to leave him overnight before he's a year old. I do know I have to go out of town in November for a wedding... so depending on the circumstances, I MAY be leaving him with my mom. Maybe. Again, it will just depend. I've thought of maybe leaving the older kids and taking baby with us.

[TnPhotoMama81]

Our son has spent the night away from us quite a lot. However it has only been with his grandparents and they literally live right next door to us.

He had to stay over there the other night because my husband is gone for his reserve drill weekend and I had to be up at 4 am for work (leave by 4:30 am or so). It makes much more sense to just let him stay the night over there when they live right next door than it is for me to wake him up at 4 am as well as wake his grandparents up at the same time.

We are very lucky though to have family so close by. It has been a huge help. The only time we have had to leave for a whole weekend is for the Marine Corps Ball weekend. Kids are not allowed (formal event) and its a little over a 3 hr drive for us.

As far as the baby staying over there, it may or may not happen. I'd rather it not at first but if it came down to it, it isn't a big deal since they live right there.

[queenofthecastle]

I ask because my mom is ALREADY asking when the baby can come spend the night with her!! I told her not until I'm done nursing at the earliest. She didn't keep Christian over night until he was 2. She lives 1.5 hours away from us and I'm not going to let the baby sleep with her if I'm still b/fing. I don't mind her keeping the kids over night but not when they are babies (unless it's an emergency).

[SailorsWife]

Originally Posted by outnumberedX3

I ask because my mom is ALREADY asking when the baby can come spend the night with her!! I told her not until I'm done nursing at the earliest. She didn't keep Christian over night until he was 2. She lives 1.5 hours away from us and I'm not going to let the baby sleep with her if I'm still b/fing. I don't mind her keeping the kids over night but not when they are babies (unless it's an emergency).

Totally understand that. An hour and a half is a long ways away and I would be on pins and needles all freaking night so what good would that do. My mom told me when I was pregnant with Rilynn that I would be leaving the baby with her every now and then because I'd be so sleep deprived and she used to leave me with my grandparents all the time so she could get sleep. Yeah, you're funny mother. She and her husband are constantly fighting and yelling/screaming, and you think I'm gonna leave my kid overnight with you? You're nuts. That being said, she has watched her until late in the evening on the few occasions we've gone out but I think the latest was 1 one time.

[*Shannon*]

Mine started spending one night a month with their grandparents when they were 2.5 years old, maybe 3. NEVER as a baby as I breastfeed, plus I wouldn't be comfortable letting my baby go that soon. I have no need to. It's easy to let them be with their g-parents, but when they start asking to spend the night with friends is much harder. I have to know the parents and, don't judge, but we look at a website that has sexual offenders listed in our town. My sister started doing that with her kids and found one of her kids friends had a dad that had been a convicted sex offender. We have been fortunate that hasn't happened to any of our kids friends.

[Gee Gee]

Josiah has been spending a few days with my mom since we moved into our own place and he loves it. We lived with her for the first 2 years of his life so he's used to her always being around and he asks for her if he goes more than a few days without seeing her. With the new baby the circumstances are so different. When I needed a sitter Josiah would stay with my mom but we lived in the same house so it was never an overnight or away from me type of situation. Idk when I'll be willing to let Baby J stay with my mom but when I do I'm sure it won't be overnight and if it is it definitely won't be for longer than one night.