[adi&co.]

So DH has a consult with the dr on Wednesday to set up his vasectomy appointment and he's nervous about it. His brother that he's close to called tonight and DH mentioned it. I'm so glad i'm not my BIL's wife. He said he would never get a V and that he'd rather his wife get her tubes tied. When DH told him that for me to get mine tied would be major surgery while a V would be a same day thing, he said he didn't care and he'd rather his wife be put under the knife than have to get a V.

what a jerk! Makes me so thankful that my hubby is thinking of me I don't do too well on birth control. My body fights it and I'm miserable!

[TnPhotoMama81]

I think it is kind of silly when a man refuses to get a V. Take one for the team bro. Your wife most likely did if she had your babies!

[Clutch]

I agree. Those guys are selfish a$$holes who deserve to lose their fertility via blunt force trauma.

[JennLynn_]

You got the good brother!! Yay! LOL

I know all about selfish men. You are lucky, indeed!!!

[suzanneyea]

All the men in Quebec get them, very common. My dh did it this summer. It was done on Friday and he played hockey on Monday. It was not a big deal at all.

[daisyprincess]

What a jerk!!! You definitely got the good brother!!!

I've been trying to get my husband to get one since January. I think he's scared it's going to take his manhood (men are such big babies) Although, he didn't say it I think he was waiting till I gave birth just in case I needed a C-section then he would have had me get my tubes tied and he wouldn't have to get snipped. Now he doesn't have an option. I took one for the team twice it's his turn.

[allicyn]

It took awhile for dh to come around to the idea of getting a V. He was all for me getting my tubes tied or being on bc. Thankfully he came around! There was no way I'd be getting my tubes tied if I didn't have a section and I've never been on bc (can you tell? 5 kids before 25. bahaha!) and don't really want to go on it.

He is waiting for his referral to go through. So hopefully it will be done within the next month or so.

[blessdmommy]

When we discussed BC and continuing our family, I downright refused to get my tubes tied. We later decided to wait 3 yrs before deciding we didn't want anymore children. So I'm getting the implanon.

[3mama1]

I guess I think differently or maybe because of my family situation, but I have no problem with being the one to get the permanent fix of not having any more children. I guess because I am not married, and didn't marry any of my daughter's fathers I think this way.. I want to be the one to make sure I can't have anymore children. I do not want anymore, I am completely satisfied with the decision and feel its best for me to be the one 100% "fixed". Even if I do not end up with Alyssa's dad or married to him, I am still done.. If he wants to get a V, he can, but he should be doing it for him and his personal future, not for me.. I am blessed with 3 daughters, and 3 men gave me beautiful girls.. Its not for this Mama to make that decision for herself..

[luvmykids623]

What a jerk! My DH whined a lot (and still is) about getting it done. In the beginning he asked why I wouldn't just get my tubes tied since I was having a c-section. When I explained all the complications that could occur and the number of my friends that experienced them, he agreed that it would be best for him to get the V. I told him he needed to take one for the team. 6 pregnancies in 6 years with 3 losses, fertility treatments, and 4 kids.... yeah it's his turn!

[cavewoman]

Wow, glad you got the good one!! lol I wonder if his wife knows he feels that way or if he's just talking out of his butt. haha

DH and I haven't even begun discussing this as this is just finally our first after all this time and we have no clue if we want more or not. No permanent decisions happening anytime soon in this household!

[Bekah]

you got the good brother

my ex was the same way about getting the big V, told me he didn't want anyone touching him "down there" blah blah blah. All I had to say was excuse me? Do you know how many complete strangers have seen/touched me down there?!? Not to mention giving birth to 2 of your kids on top of that and being pregnant. sheesh selfish men. Glad he didn't get it when I wanted him to though (never go it at all I mean) or I wouldn't have my third girl. But this time I knew I was done and wanted my tubes tied, I agree with Bridgette this time it is up to me. Even though I am single I know I am done. My tubes just never got tied because I had a vaginal delivery as opposed to a c-section.

[akd616]

Originally Posted by Bekah

my ex was the same way about getting the big V, told me he didn't want anyone touching him "down there" blah blah blah. All I had to say was excuse me? Do you know how many complete strangers have seen/touched me down there?!?

I laughed when I read that because God is it true. It seems like when you're having a baby there's this constant revolving door of random nurses and doctors and God knows who else that you've never met before who are constantly coming in to look at your vagina and then leave.