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September 12th, 2011, 05:11 PM
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We're keeping the pregnancy our own little secret until we feel it's "safe".

This weekend, we're having a birthday party for our daughter, and people know we've been trying, so naturally I know I'm going get put through the grinder in regards to questions. How do you deflect the "are you pregnant yet?" and "get your period yet???!!" [yes, my SIL asks that question... ] without it being obvious??

Also, I planned on running a marathon at the end of October, but definitely won't be. I just don't know if I should tell everyone that I'm bailing on it, and fake an injury or what. I have a blog that family and friends read, so I don't want to lie - but again, wanting to keep it quiet for now.

Anyway, just looking for advice. Thanks ladies! We didn't do this the first time around, and blabbed at just 6 weeks. I don't know how to do this!
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September 12th, 2011, 05:29 PM
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Hmmm...well, no one ever questioned us on how the process was coming along, so I don't have experience in avoiding questions lol. Buuuuut if someone asks you if you're pregnant yet, you can always say something like, "We're taking a break from trying right now"...it's not completely a lie, it's just really misleading lol. That way people know not to ask for a while. Or you can just say you really don't want to talk about it, but that might lead to tongues wagging.

As for the marathon, just don't say anything. If someone asks you about it you can say you're pulling out for medical reasons or some up with something about stress fractures somewhere on your foot if you don't mind lying lol.


Just out of curiosity, in the past, how did you respond to those types of questions?? It might help us brainstorm some responses
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September 12th, 2011, 05:40 PM
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When we were trying for our first, I told people early on something like, "Look, when there's news, you'll be one of the first to know. Asking me about it is just going to stress me out." It put a stop to the questions.
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September 12th, 2011, 05:52 PM
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When we were trying for our first, I told people early on something like, "Look, when there's news, you'll be one of the first to know. Asking me about it is just going to stress me out." It put a stop to the questions.
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I haven't been asked recently, maybe people have a feeling and know I will tell when I'm ready lol. But I used to get asked ALL. THE. TIME. People would ask when we are going to try again, if we are trying again, how it is going, any news...any wording you can think of. People are so nosey lol. My answer is always "we are working on it!" So I think that still works, cuz I'm not working on getting pregnant anymore, but I am working on growing the baby lol!
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September 12th, 2011, 06:08 PM
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Even though we weren't really trying, and so no one knew to ask us, I have been asked at least a dozen times since getting pregnant if I am pregnant. Family friends, even my boss. I am not showing yet, and they have no real way of knowing, so I think its just that DD is 2.5 and its "about time"

I'd love to hear some creative responses to use, as I feel weird lying but at the same time - "you'll know when we want you to!!!"
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September 12th, 2011, 10:56 PM
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I just like to say (to all questions regarding WHEN will you be married, engaged, pregnant, baptized) to personal questions that people should really not pester you with:

"when I know, I'll tell you. But if you keep asking me, I won't."
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September 13th, 2011, 10:21 AM
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Love the responses!! Thanks so much

With the last pregnancy, we babbled a few days after we found out. We also weren't trying, so there wasn't a need for the questions.

I wish I would have done this months ago. I personally think that something like trying to conceive is SO intimate, and I can't fathom asking someone how it's going. Maybe that's just me though!

It's mainly SIL - she's super open with her life, and she apparently thinks everyone else is the same way. No joke, the other day she texted me "So have you started your period yet??!" - who asks that?!
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It's mainly SIL - she's super open with her life, and she apparently thinks everyone else is the same way. No joke, the other day she texted me "So have you started your period yet??!" - who asks that?!

I know!!!! I can't imagine someone asking me questions like that...talk about awkward!
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These responses are great! I've told 3 people I think. I'm planning on waiting until 13 weeks to tell the grandparents, as neither set will take the news well.
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September 13th, 2011, 01:30 PM
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I just tell people that I don't have any news to share at this time. Seems to shut them up.
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