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Jacob sleep somewhere between 4 to 6 hours at a time during the night so I guess he sometimes sleep through the night.
Lindsey I don't know how you do it. I bet sometimes you have just gotten back to sleep and Bryson wakes back up. Does he want to eat everytime he wakes up?
I'm thankful for DH, every once in awhile he will get up and take care of Jacob for me so I can get a bit more sleep.
IT SUCKS. Maidson was a crappy sleeper but by this point I had her in her crib and would nurse her in my bed and transport her once asleep to her room and she would go 3-5 hours. With him I can not move him or he wakes up. I try every night to move him to the pack n play and he is awake again before I even fall back to sleep. A lot of nights he wakes eats and wakes again before I can get back to sleep. Yes he eats every time he wakes up.
He is a crappy napper too. The only real break I get is after 8:00 when I put him to bed... but then I have to get Madison a bath and to bed and by the time that is all said I get down stairs to do laundry and dishes and before I can sit down he is awake.
Glad your DH helps mine will not. He *****es about how 3 days worth of dishes are sitting in the sink or how I have not gotten around to folding his work clothing ..... as he pirks his *** on the couch every night watching TV... he says he works 10 hours a day so he needs his 3-4 hour break at night... WHAT ABOUT ME? Right now he works 4 days a week so he has a 3 day weekend last week he picked up over time Friday and had to watch the kids Saturday and then Sunday was 100% him time he say on the couch watching TV and playing on the I pad all day. I am on week 2 of trying to get the Xmas decorations up for the kids and he wont help No lights outside this year because I just cant do it. To top it off I have 4 weddings to shoot this month... the busiest since Bryson was born. So this month is going to suck when you add the Birthday stuff with Madison and Christmas stuff.
Yeah it varies every night with Trinity. She can sleep great one night and have a couple 4-5hr stretches, but the next night up every hour. Thankfully I don't lose much sleep over it. Just pop boob in her mouth then back to sleep we go. This morning I woke up 1/2 way in the sidecar crib and sideways on our bed with her beside me in the same position, but attached herself to the boob.
Lindsey I'm sorry that your DH won't help out around the house. I got pissed at my DH last Friday because he was sitting on the couch doing nothing while I was trying to take care of Jacob, dust the house plus there was a ton of laundry that needed folding. he finally got up off the couch and helped a little bit. I won't fold my DH's work clothes, I'll wash them and then throw them up on the dryer and tell him to fold them.
it would be nice if your DH could understand how hard you work. You may not work outside the home everyday but I swear taking care of the kids is definitely harder than working outside of the home.
Well here is the kicker its not like I do not work I have to sit at my computer and edit. A wedding is about 20-40 hours of computer work depending on the wedding. So I have to try to fit that in. I wish Bryson was a long nurser like Madison was so I had more edit time but its getting harder because he likes to try and help..lol
But it pisses me off because I work AND stay home with these guys.
I feel I have it harder than a mom who goes to work because I could get done what I needed to but when working from home I can not.
Because he refuses I do have someone clean my house..lol she only charges $40.00 and comes 2 times a month. If not I would have a nasty house. But its so cheap I can not turn it down. I just now started paying for it because it was my baby gift from my inlaws they paid for it for 6mo. And since I have 4 weddings this month I am keeping her.
I make him wash his own laundry but I fold it. He is a construction worker and his clothing can stand on its own and gets all kinds of stuff on it I do not want to touch..lol
Lindsey, that sounds so hard! I definitely think it would be VERY difficult to work out of the home. I had a hard enough time doing it occasionally before having Kira; I would be distracted by the smallest things! I can't imagine doing it with a baby.
As for your original question, Kira is mostly sleeping through the night. She goes to bed around 8 or 9 and wakes up around 4 to eat.
The last few nights, she's had a cold and once she's asleep she sleeps more than usual...not waking up until 6 or so! I don't want her to be sick, of course, but I'm kinda liking the extra sleep for me.
I'm very lucky, DH understands why the house is a disaster most of the week and on his days off he barely lets me near Nick except to feed. I get a lot done on those days. DH says he likes spending the time with Nick so it doesn't feel like "helping out" so much as playing with his son.
As for sleeping through the night, I'm very lucky there too. Nick has been sleeping through the night since he was a month old. The trade-off is that he only takes 1 short nap in the morning and he stays up until 11 or 12 at night but then will sleep straight through till 8 am.
I don't know what I would do if DH didn't do his fair share. He is really good about helping out with the kids. I would say its pretty much 50/50 share of the duties around our house. We do also have someone come in and clean twice a month which is a huge help. If Sofia does wake up in the middle of the night, 95% of the time DH will feed her and put her back to bed without even being asked. He just takes her from me. He's always been good with the kids. Tonight, he is taking Sofia with him when he brings Jack to his gymnastics class so I can have an hour in the house by myself.
*Thank you AlexKatieAidenMommy for my awesome siggie*
Lindsay (((HUGS)))! I am grateful that my DH helps. He didn't get much of a choice because DD was so clingy, if he wanted dinner, he had to cook it. Now, he takes care of dishes (load/unloads the dishwasher), does bathtime with the kids, and takes care of his own laundry.
By definition, JR has STTN since he was born! This boy likes his sleep, unlike his sister who fights me like I'm killing her at nap and bedtime! He goes down at 7 we dream feed around 8:30 pm and then he sleeps until 5-6 am. It's so wonderful to have a child that doesn't oppose everything you do (DD had a really tough day today, if you couldn't guess).
Luke sounds alot like JR and Kira. He goes down around 8pm and will sleep till about 5p.... So thats 9 hours straight. He feeds at 5 and then goes back to sleep until about 7. So he sleeps 9 hrs straight, eats, then sleeps 2 more hours.
As far as DH goes....He helps out ALOT! We are 50-50 when it comes to household chores....but as far as Luke goes, its probably 80-20. But I don't blame DH for that. Luke really just wants mama all the time. DH tries to help me...but Luke will just scream and scream for mama. For example, DH came home and took Luke while I too a relaxing bath. Luke was not happy and cried until I got out. DH trys really hard to keep him entertained..but my little man is a mamas boy!
Thanks Kiliki for the siggie!