[lia80]

I have no choice but to clean like a maniac I have 3 little piggys with my husband included, when I clean I really go at it and clean hard I just hope I am not overdoing it having my LO in my bun

[Amazona]

I think youīd be fine as long as you donīt do it like that every day.
Try not to lift heavy things and not to breathe the fumes of some cleaners (to clean the bathroom I wear a mask, as ridiculous as it sounds, because I use a lot of bleach).

[cmom3]

I agree. I'm always cleaning even if there is nothing to clean so my family says (I have OCD), but I make sure to not over do it and DH cleans the bathrooms so I don't smell the bleach and other cleaning sprays.

[SuperMartianRobotMom6]

Just listen to your body.
If you feel tired or winded rest.
If you feel okay, keep going.
Just dont lift anything too heavy

[lia80]

little late I cant help but lifting darn it I have no choice when dh is not home and its got to get done otherwise it looks like a tornado hit my house, I cant believe 2 little ones can destroy a house in no time, I constantly have to pick up after them and its getting really really tiring dh is not the type to clean at all I even have to throw the garbage out at times more often then he does, must be the hormones today cause Im really on an emotional rollor coaster

[JoyfulChaosMama]

The less you keep 'out' (toys, books, etc...) the less they can "mess up". Put toys and things away and rotate them on a semi-regular basis.

[Amazona]

You better start "training" your husband sweetie... in my house itīs 50/50 but we both work so there are no excuses.

Give him chores and if he doesnīt do it, then it doesnīt get done (until he gets the point).
Like garbage... why would you deal with that when itīs so simple to do and it takes no time?. Let him do it.

And lifting... I mean heavy stuff... picking up little things all day is tiring but itīs not as bad as lifting boxes and stuff (or like, the laundry basket).

DHīs chores are: garbage, cleaning the floors (I sweep) and taking up and downstairs the laundry basket. Thatīs not too much to ask!!
Oh, and the bigger I get, the more things he does... like now heīs already giving a bath to our son instead of me and heīs been doing the bathrooms for me because he doesnīt want me to smell the cleaners.

Put your foot down woman!

[lia80]

Paula I try and try to put my foot down but he is a stubbern irish and german man no offense anyone lol and he tells me all the time he works hard and when he comes home he doesn't want to lift a finger, let me tell u i treat him like a king have been ever since we have been dating and that was and is my problem, he tells me Im home all day while he's outside working hard he's a plumber I understand his job is hard but he doesn't understand how hard my is to, taking care of kids everyday 24/7 which he really doesn't lift a finger on them including the weekend, also taking care of the whole house up and down plus cooking almost a 3 course meal every night, Im just EXHAUSTED but he doesn't get it

[magenFTM]

One day my hubby said you have been slackin on the house work i said to him well u do it...... the next day the house was spotless he got the hint he puts the laundry away takes out the trash and will load up the dishwasher when needed. he will do anything i ask him to do. also my sil kids stay at my house during the day, the kids are trained too! thay are only 2 and 4 and know when they are done with something they put it away! you just gotta train them!

[Amazona]

Originally Posted by lia80

Paula I try and try to put my foot down but he is a stubbern irish and german man no offense anyone lol and he tells me all the time he works hard and when he comes home he doesn't want to lift a finger, let me tell u i treat him like a king have been ever since we have been dating and that was and is my problem, he tells me Im home all day while he's outside working hard he's a plumber I understand his job is hard but he doesn't understand how hard my is to, taking care of kids everyday 24/7 which he really doesn't lift a finger on them including the weekend, also taking care of the whole house up and down plus cooking almost a 3 course meal every night, Im just EXHAUSTED but he doesn't get it

Yeah, I totally get what you mean... and thatīs why I feel so bad for SAHMīs... because it is "expected" of them do it all on their own but if the kiddos are at home too, then itīs a constant mess.
And thatīs exactly why I cut my mat leave short at 8 1/2 months (we get a year), because I felt like such a failure because my house was a constant mess and the baby was just a baby... but so demanding!
This way I donīt have to worry about any of that and weīre all happy

So, having said all that... think of what you can do to try to relax a bit.
Because it sounds like you love doing it but you are just too tired because of the pregnancy.
So why donīt you cut back a little bit of the cleaning and focus maybe more on just getting the house tidy and organized. Nobody needs to clean EVERY day... I mean, not a deep clean.
Do you organize your chores by day?
I know many SAHMīs do it (and I do it too because I have limited time to clean but the house generally stays cleaner).

And give yourself a break! You deserve to have a day off too!, so donīt feel bad if you didnīt get to do everything you wanted to.

Maybe other SAHMīs can help you with tips and tricks, like Lisa mentioned

[Dishersgirl]

Limit the toys out
find baskets with lids
limit your self to one major clean a day
enjoy "me" time every woman needs it to stay sane
if you need to limit the toys to half the house my house is set up to wear the toys and everything associated with them is in half my house but i have that option and becase kids make constant mess its easier to pick up twice a day than to do it constantly Look into 30 min before hubby gets home and after the kids are in bed.
vacuuming sweeping or picking things up cause you dropped something seems to be as it comes i was told lower my standards ever so sl;ightly when having kids
dishes mean you feed them
toys mean they have an imagination
laundry means they stay clean
everything else is a bonus and if your hubby works sooooooo hard as a plumber perhaps you need to remind him where he gets his bed time fun last i knew that required him lifting a finger .

[lnj5duke]

This website has helped me a lot, although I am still not by ANY means a great housefrau. I like to blame our older house + lack of storage space, lol . FlyLady.net