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Well... First of all baby is perfect. Every bone was there every chamber of the heart stomach, kidneys, bladder. Everything looked perfect. Not overly active, but didn't completely just lay there. Heartbeat was around 147 I think? I can't remember now. But for the part everyone's been waiting for.
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it's
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a
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boy.
So, everyone's intuition was wrong.
The ring and needle test was wrong.
The baking soda test was wrong.
Chinese calendar was wrong.
Cravings were sweet, so that was wrong.
Heartbeat has always been in the 140's or 150's, so I don't really know what that was supposed to mean, but I am pretty sure that was "wrong" as well.
Both DH and my dreams were wrong (though I did have one dream early on that it was a boy, but everything else has been girl)
Brooke777 and Cheri 22 were wrong. Sharron's pendulum, however, was correct!
I have to admit, once we left the doctor's office and I got a moment, I cried, and I have still been crying off and on. I was just so SURE that it was a girl. From the moment that I had a positive pregnancy test and everything above I was just so convinced it was a girl.
It's gonna be hard taking photos and trying to sell all the girl stuff I bought when I was just sure it was a girl.
So on that note.... anyone who's having a girl, I have a bunch of ADORABLE girl clothes, new with tags, that I got from Zulily that I will be selling. I can't heart saving it in the hopes that I'll have another baby someday.
Oh hun, sitting on the opposite side of the fence with my heart set on boy, i get it. But I tell you, being a Mum of a little boy is so wonderful you will love it and if you guys decide down the track to have another baby will have a big brother to look out for them. Congratulations
Thanks. I knew that you were disappointed with your results as well and that you had wanted a boy.
And that's what I keep telling myself, is that if we are so blessed and fortunate to have another one then we'll have a "big brother" to protect and watch over the younger one.
I know that I love him just as much as I would a girl. It's just taking some hormonal and emotional adjustment.
That was my original "plan" I was thinking boy first to watch over his sisters..But that didn't happen..So it's not a bad thing. I know what you mean though about hoping for one gender and being emotional, but when he is in your arms your gonna be SO happy! Happy all looked well!
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Oh Annaka, I'm sorry that it wasn't the little girl you were hoping for. I also wanted a girl. But you know what, I'm jealous because you are having your boy first. I always dreamed (before kids) that I'd have a son first to protect over the younger siblings.
You could save some of those girl things for later, give them to a family member to hold on to for you, so you don't have to see them everyday.
In my experience boys are easier than girls. My boys developed slower than my girl. She started walking around 10 months old, the boys didn't start until they were 1. That's a good thing, lol. Once they get mobile, there is no stopping them
Things will look better soon enough, it's ok to be disappointed for a while.
It's natural to be upset. It's never easy having to deal with one thing when you really wanted the other. I'm sure as time passes you'll be just as happy with you son.
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Awwww - congrats on your boy first of all - and I am with HippieLove all the way as I JUST KNEW I was having a boy and had my mind wrapped around it being a boy. But this is a girl, lol. It's so funny how some of us really wanted one gender but someone else wants what we have. I'm happy to have my girl now - but it took me a few minutes to get adjusted to the fact that she's a girl. Going shopping for her really helped.
Yep I feel ya I mean of course I will love my little girl but when you have your heart set it takes a bit to get over the disappointment and guilt from being disappointed. It's been a week since I found out and I'm already feeling better and more excited. To begin with I was so upset I didn't even like looking at my siggy too much pink lol im still jealous of boy mamas and find it difficult to congratulate them because I'm so jealous, I hope that goes away soon though because I feel so horrible... Have you got any names picked?
I am sorry you are disappointed about the gender but I am sure it will pass. For the clothes...well you can save them or sell them or give them away to friends.
I hope you begin to feel better soon. Hang in there!
I worked on my project to do the reveal to my team at work tonight and it was rough for a little while. And I may cry off and on for a little while, but there are definitely positives to having a boy (just like there would have been positives to a girl.)
For one, I'm not overly girly myself. We have been joking for months that we'd have a super prissy girly girl and we wouldn't know how to handle it. And, I don't particularly care for pink. So, not having a girl means less likely I'll have to deal with a bunch of pink stuff. And DH is convinced that boys are "easier" and he's a little relieved, even though he was pretty convinced it was a girl too, but probably only because I was so convinced.
Another positive that my brother told me about is that his wife has a cousin that is very close in age to her brother and they are best friends. My brother and his wife are having a boy and are due about 6 or 7 weeks before me. So the two will be very close in age. We live about 2 hours away from one another, but that's not too far to plan frequent visits so the boys can grow up together.
About the clothes, I may keep the two outfits that I was just absolutely in love with, but the others I think I'll get rid of either by selling or giving them as shower gifts since I know some other people who are having girls. I just might need to hide them from myself, but that way on the rare off chance that Xavier is actually an Elise then I will still have my favorite pieces still. But if he stays a he, maybe he'll have a little sister some day and I'll still have my favorites.
Anyway, again, thank you all SO much for your support.
Those cake pops look good!! And congrats on your little man.
I'm sorry you're feeling that way. It can be disappointing to think one way and have a 180 happen. My first born was a son and i loved it. You will get your little girl one day
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Glad all was well! I know its hard to mentally and emotionally change when you were so convinced. Just know that boys are wonderful! 
August 2011 
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