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I'd rather teach my child to use soap, a condom and common sense then put him through so much pain. He may choose to be circumcised when he grows up and i am very fine with that, but he can't decide to be intact once I circed him. I always thought the foreskin, was just a piece of skin I had NO idea how many nerve endings it had and how important it was, until research was shoved down my throat by my in-activist friend I didn't circ my son, simply because its just not the done thing here in Australia really... If Chris had wanted it done, I probably would of allowed it so im thankful now that he is intact and the mere thought of someone going at his penis with a blade made him freaked enough to not want it to happen to Oliver. When we know better, we do better. I try not to judge, I really do... If anyone here is on the fence, make sure you do lots of research and come to an educated and informed decision (whether it be to or not to). Don't take it lightly, because this is one of those things you can never change or take back. I watched a youtube video once, well about 10 seconds of a video, of a boy being circumcised and it made me feel sick. That was enough without the research
We plan to have one more & try for a boy. If we have a boy we will circumcise him. My brother wasn't and around 2 pulled the foreskin back & it swelled. He had to have surgery & lost it anyway. In my experience every guy that I know that wasn't circumcised hated it. I have yet to meet a guy that was mad they were circumcised. As a woman my ex wasn't & my husband is and I have to say I prefer it..just my opinion though. To each their own.
DH is and we circumcised both our sons. It was done in the doctor's office around a week after they were born. If this one had been a boy we would have done him too.
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If I am having a boy, I don't want to get him circ'd and my husband is fine with it.
This isn't going to change my mind, but I do dread the reaction of my other family members when they find out that our son will be intact. I know that they will call be weird or trying to be eccentric. And they will go on and on about how my son will get so many infections. My mom honestly thinks that uncircumcised men die reguarly from infections :O. She is extremely uniformed though and will not change her opinions even if you try to educate her. It's so frusteration. And it's frusteration that my state has one of the highest circumcising rates.
On the bright side, my husband's family are much more open to our son being intact and my sister in law also disagrees with circumcision.
I am so glad we're having another girl for this reason. I was on the fence about it - But DH is, and he has already said that if we had a boy he would be too. Any time I thought about this subject, before we knew what we were having, I got a bit anxious over talking about it & coming to a decision with DH.
I am so glad we're having another girl for this reason. I was on the fence about it - But DH is, and he has already said that if we had a boy he would be too. Any time I thought about this subject, before we knew what we were having, I got a bit anxious over talking about it & coming to a decision with DH.
That's how I feel, well I kind of hope we are having a girl for this very reason. I don't want to have to deal with and BS from others. Ah stupid traditions!
20.) We don't chop off ears to prevent ear infections. We don't remove baby toenails to prevent fungal infections. We don't cut off legs anymore when a wound becomes infected. In the very unlikely event your son does develop an infection, we have antibiotics.
I think number 20 on Shannon's list is reason enough to avoid chopping off part of your son's genitals. But that's just my opinion I guess.
This exactly!!
I also don't get the argument "every man we know is circ'd, so my child will be too"? I'd never accept an answer like that from my kids when they want to do something so how could I used it when modifying their brand new, perfect body?
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We will be. Our other two boys are. I'd rather them get it done while they are younger. I had a neighbor who's son was not and he got a bad infection and they had to circ him at 8 years old. He was a terrified little boy for several weeks.
I understand that with proper care that can be avoided. But circ'ing is just our choice. I respect your guys' opinions.
Most of my family and friends are very procirc. My own mother once told me that I would have been cut if I'd been a boy and that I was disgusting for talking about it. I was speechless and took a moment to be grateful that the three of us were girls. I wondered why it was ok to do something but wrong to talk about it. Then I felt sad that sexual inequality is protected by law here - it's very much illegal to cut a girl's genitals but quite common for boys. I don't understand why one person has more basic humans right than another all because of one chromosome.
I will be choosing to have baby boy circumcised. My MIL didn't do it for any of her boys... My DH never liked it and wished it was done... so he says he is doing him a favor....
Everyone's choice but having it done sooner then later would be much better I think....
I've yet to come across any one who has had issues from being left normal, but I hear about circ complications pretty regularly. It is surgery, after all. Here's an interesting thread in a mommy site that wasn't anti circ, just people talking about their complications:
Further, I genuinely don't understand the "look like daddy, look like our friends" argument. If daddy was missing a finger, would you remove one of your sons so they would match? No, you'd explain. Likewise your husband will be much bigger and harrier, yet you just explain that too. It's not difficult.
Like many said, its a personal choice. One families choice to circumcise and one persons reason to do so, has nothing to do with anothers. I have not had any of my boys complain or any other man who I have known who have had it done complain. In my culture, this is what we do. Thank God I live in America and I can make this choice.
My DH is circ'd and he doesn't want his son circ'd, not after all that he's read and seen. As a matter of fact he said he feels like he might be missing out on some stuff from what he's been reading about the foreskin and sex. Haha!
"If' this is a boy he will not be circumsized..Dh is not and I would not put my baby through that pain for no good enough reason..His body if he chooses to later in life then he can do so. But I won't do it..
To be honest it's something we really haven't addressed yet at all. DH is circ'd it's VERY common here. I worked daycare infants/toddlers for 8 years and in that time only 2 little boys were not circ'd. As a child I honestly had no idea the difference, every "anatomy" book even in middle school shows circ'd. Until I was in college I had never even seen an un-circ'd penis. I'm doing my research and giving it to DH to discuss. If we do end up deciding to do it we'll have it done by a urologist. again, I said IF, because I'm still not sure. To be completely honest I'm more focused on making sure I bake him well and making sure he comes out as healthy as can be rather than what we'll do later on
We did with our first 2 sons, and did not with our boy #3. We hadn't really done much research until that point and after that, our previous reasons just didn't stand up as well anymore. This boy will be intact as well. I have heard the argument that it can become a problem as a man gets into old age and doesn't care for himself as well, but I figure I can't make a decision that effects his whole life for fear he'll get an infection when he's 90. A primary reason for making the switch for us, was the sensitivity concern. I, for one, have a tough time imagining what the difference would be like for me, as a woman if I were circumcised. It just seems that such a sensitive area being more exposed could cause a greater proclivity toward lasciviousness. Not sure how scientific this theory is, but it was enough to concern us, as we had read about several instances of this being more of an issue for men, previously uncirc'd, who went through the procedure later in life.
Looking back, I would change my decision for my first two obviously. But, it had nothing to do with the procedure seeming barbaric to us. My husband was present at both circ's and the boys nearly slept through the entire procedure because they were numbed with the gel. No screaming in our experience like so many others claim. It just depends on the doctor and his chosen method of procedure, I think.
We circumcised our son, and i think it was the right choice. I just wish i had researched pain relief options more thoroughly. They gave him tylenol, and it was very obvious immediately afterward that it wasn't enough. I'm somewhat relieved to be having a girl this time and not being forced to make a decision. But i do encourage circumcising mamas to research what pain relief options are available. If anyone has info for me let me know, for future son's benefit
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I've yet to come across any one who has had issues from being left normal, but I hear about circ complications pretty regularly.
I actually met a few men who needed circumcision as adults because of trauma or infection, but in my 5 year nursing career i can only count them on one hand. So no i don't think THAT is necessarily a reason to circumcise, but it dose happen on rare occasions.
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I didn't circ my son, simply because its just not the done thing here in Australia really... If Chris had wanted it done, I probably would of allowed it so im thankful now that he is intact and the mere thought of someone going at his penis with a blade made him freaked enough to not want it to happen to Oliver. When we know better, we do better. I try not to judge, I really do... If anyone here is on the fence, make sure you do lots of research and come to an educated and informed decision (whether it be to or not to). Don't take it lightly, because this is one of those things you can never change or take back. I watched a youtube video once, well about 10 seconds of a video, of a boy being circumcised and it made me feel sick. That was enough without the research 
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