[one.juniper]

Has anyone started thinking about godparents yet? I'm not super religious or anything but my SOs family is so I happily agreed to have the baby christened, but that means choosing godparents. Or, if you aren't having a christening but will still be having godparents in a secular sense post too please!

So for those of you who'll be picking godparents, have you yet? How do you even begin - I haven't a clue who we should be asking.

D'oh.

[Ever]

Our selection is limited so choosing is tough!

For me, choosing Godparents isn't taken lightly. We're Catholic so I want the Godparents to be practising our religion. For DD we chose DH's brother and one of my cousins. This time we would be asking DH's sister to be Godmother but since I don't have anyone on my side to ask we'll ask DH's BIL to be Godfather.

[aarafko]

We are not going traditional on our godparents. We don't have a really good candidate for godfather, neither one of us have brothers, only sisters. I don't have any male cousins that are responsible enough, or close enough to give them such an honor. Neither does Dh. So we are making both of our sisters godmothers.

[Jessimaaka]

Same as Renee, we're Catholic and it is very important. Well, DH isn't Catholic, but his whole family is and so is mine (his dad was on strike at the time he would have been baptized, and they didn't have any extra money, and in his family they usually rent a hall, invite 75 people etc. so they never did it. I think they're silly). Anyways, I have a huge dilema....I want my sister to be godmother, but she was also maid of honour in my wedding. My other sister, who is actually older and closer to me in age, she was much too immature for me to trust in terms of my wedding and I definitely don't feel any more comfortable trusting my child to her. She also lives on the other side of the country I still have time to decide though! I was thinking of posting this on the Catholic board to get some help! The godfather will be one of my brothers. Haven't decided which yet. Basically we are keeping it in the family because my godmother my mom hasn't talked to since I was about one-two years old. She actually just found her a few months ago on facebook.

Very glad I'm not the only one with questions on this topic!

[newmommysarah]

We were having a hard time choosing because my family are in a different country to Alans and i dont want to be seen to favor one side over the other - so we decided to have 2 sets of godparents - one from each side of bubbles family.
The other problem we were facing was do we chose a couple as godparents bearing in mind that these people will have care of your child in the event of your death and do u want to put the child through losing his/her parents and then have the godparents break up and have the child lose two families.
And then there is the problem of religion - i would want my child to be raised in the same religion as me which rules out quite a few friends and family members.

I now know who will be godparents from my side - my brother John and my sister Kim. But we haven't yet decided who to ask from Alans side.

[AnAngelsMommy]

We havent decided yet, we were actually just talking about it this weekend. We are choosing two god fathers and a godmother if its a boy and two godmothers and a god father if its a girl.
I heard this awhile ago with another family and It really made sense that the child would have two adults of the same sex as them to turn to for help with faith or life and it will hopefully bless them in their relationships. I just think its great to have people to look up to and see how to live a faith filled life.
My husbands family usually keeps the godparents in the family, where as my family always just picked anyone we knew with a strong faith and a willingness and commitment to help the child. so we will see what our comprimise is.

[Tweetz]

Im not super religious but i am Catholic..baptized at 3 months.. I always knew i would baptize my children..My cousin and i used to baptize our dolls when we were little & made a promise to eachother at 7 yrs old that we'd give our first born to eachother to baptize..She hasnt had any children yet but with my baby comming soon i asked her on easter if she would be his godmother.She cried she was sooo excited.lol..Dh isnt religious and never has been, he kind of doesnt care which way we go but he knows it will make me happy so he will do it for me. Since he is being understanding i told him i would let him choose the babys godfather.,he would like to chose his best friend, i loove him, hes mature, responsabile and has been in DHs life for a veeerry long time, the only issue is he has baptized 3 of his nephews/nieces, so we are not sure if he would want to take on ANOTHER godchild..funny thing is at our wedding in Nov, my cousin and his bf were the one to catch the bouquet and garter..who would have thought we would be asking them to be our first borns godparents.now if he says no, ahhhhh we have noooooooooooooo idea who we would choose ;/

[Sherry777]

None of my children have godparents, and we don't christen. We are religious, but that is not included in our beliefs.

Good luck choosing!

[K.A.T]

We might skip the baptism this time around. My brother is already the Godfather to both DD and DS. With DD my ex SIL is her Godmother and with DS my SIL, bros wife, is his Godmother. I have no one trust worthy this time around plus we've strayed so far from the religion. DH doesn't care if we do or don't. I'm only considering it for family tradition. But with no one in mind, I doubt it will happen.

i'm not religious but i'm not choosing godparents anyway, although i have a friend who would love to be the godmother.

[mama4life]

We are converts to Catholicism...and our families are both protestant, so it makes it a little tougher to choose godparents. We have been praying for several months now and we are ready to ask a couple we are good friends with. It's important to us that the people we choose are strong in their Catholic faith and will take their role as God-parents very seriously, praying daily for our son, and be role models and mentors in all things faith-related throughout our child's life. We're hoping to schedule the baptism for the weekend after our son is born.

[TuckrLeesMommy]

My SO and I have talked about it a little. We aren't super religious, but we still kind of want to have them.
My sister has nominated herself(she's almost exactly a year younger than me) and is very adamant that we pick her :/ except that she is my half sister and we aren't super close, and didn't get super close until I got pregnant. I feel like I would prefer someone I have known and who has stuck with me for a long time. I feel like she just wants the attention of being godmother. She has baby fever REALLY bad.
We are still working on it tho...

[alicenwonderland]

ugh... we never even found godparents for my son We didn't have a lot of Christian friends and just was not comfortable with my choices. We know a lot more people now, but i'm not sure i know them well enough to ask.

[2pinks&ablue]

Troy was raised Anglican, but I was not, and he doesn't even really believe most of it now, so we don't baptize our children. If they decide to be baptized when they're a little older, great, but that's their decision. So, we're not choosing God parents. Legally though, if anything were to happen to us, our children go to my parents- they're quite young, and I trust them with my children's upbringing (hey, they raised me, right?! )

[newmommysarah]

oh yeah i forgot to mention we are not baptizing or having a christening for our bubble because i dont believe in them - instead we are going to have 2 dedication ceremony's (one in England for my family and one in Ireland for Alan's family). We are still having god parents though.

[Mountain~Mama]

We aren't real religious either and haven't baptized either of our girls and it pissed MIL off like no other. She even told me I was going to hell if I didn't. This comes from a woman who, in twenty years that I've known her, I've seen in a church once - for a funeral. I did want to have someone say a prayer of blessing for Audrey after she was born but we never really found anyone to do it.

As far a legal guardians if something were to happen to Chris and I - our girls would go to my sister and BIL. We do need to make that legal because I know MIL would make it as difficult as she possibly could even though she isn't physically or mentally capable of taking are of a pet rock.

[Jenn1320]

Catholic here too, and we've always picked family members for Godparents, but now have kinda run out of people. Not many family members are practicing their faith, so we just aren't sure. May choose a friend this time (?). Tough one.

[Mod-Lady Valkyrie]

DP and I are Pagan so there won't be a christening, and hence, no godparents. DP's mum is pretty bothered about it but I'm afraid I'm not doing something I don't believe in for someone else's peace of mind.

[Cylence]

We aren't religious, but will still be having godparents. I didn't realize you needed to have a christening to have godparents? *shrugs* Oh well, they'll be godparents, anyways


I chose my best friend. I can trust her, no matter what. I know that Taryn will be well taken care of, should circumstances arise, and that she will be loved as much as we will love her. She'll carry out the way we'd like Taryn to be raised and uphold the standards we want for our little girl. I didn't even think twice when I decided on it.
Hubby has yet to chose the god father, but a friend of his (who I'm actually rooting for) wants it so he can say he's 'The Godfather'. *laughs*