[ufmelissa824]

DH and I were talking last night and I told him I'm having 2nd thoughts about having an audience in the delivery room. We had originally discussed having him, my mom and MIL in there during the delivery. Well he started arguing with me about it and saying that his mom really wanted to be there. I feel like it's my vagina (assuming I deliver vaginally) and therefore my right to decide whether I want people around me when I'm pushing or not. I told him that I don't know I feel about it yet but I reserve the right to kick everyone out when the time comes. I think we finally compromised in that if 1 mother goes, they both go (i.e. I won't keep my mom in but kick his mom out).

What about you ladies? Does SO get a say in who's in the room or are you on the same page?

[tryingfornumber1]

Thankfully we are both on the same page about this. He feels like it's my right to decide who is in the room. I probably won't decide for sure until it's actually happening.

[junie22]

Sounds like a good compromise to me. We mutually agreed before we even got pregnant that no one but us and medical professionals would be in the room! I have a feeling that when the time comes, your DH will be compliant with whatever your wishes are.

[Jessimaaka]

We're still just planning to have me, him and the medical professionals...he's ok if I change my mind last minute and want my mom though.

[one.juniper]

If it was me I'd tell him to kiss my butt. I already made it clear that no one but him and I are going to be in there and if he thinks anything else he can give birth.

[PamelaM826]

It's just going to me & Clint. I think that's our moment to meet our baby & is the most intimate moment of the whole thing...I don't want anyone else sharing it. We've been waiting 9 months (I hope) for our moment with our new daughter. I don't mind if they are there for labor but when I start to push they have to go.

[K.A.T]

My body, my choice! If I say I want the world to see, then they will. If I say I want to do this ALONE, I will. I'll be darned if I'm going to be forced to have anyone else, especially an in-law in the room with me while I'm pushing. Heck I don't really want an in-law in there while I'm laboring, period.

[~~Que~~]

I believe it's all up to the mother and how we feel in the moment. Even if we want to fire our doctor right before the baby crown, we have the right to kick anyone out.

[see_jay_elle]

I agree with Que. If you want to kick EVERYONE out & deliver the baby alone, that's your choice. If you want to start yelling for anyone walking in the halls to come on in & watch, that's your choice too. It should be up to you.

I've had a few friends who had MIL & their mother in but told them they better stay at their shoulders during pushing or they'd be kicked out. Whatever you decide, DH better not make you feel guilty, since he's there as your SUPPORT person, and should support your decisions in the moment.

[PamelaM826]

I would think having the grandparents in the room wouldn't be a great idea. At the moment when your baby is born and you're holding him/her and it should be all about the "i love you", "you did great", ooh and ahhing over Dad's nose and Mom's eyes..you have two grandma's stealing the moment screaming about grandbaby & arguing over who he/she looks like or who gets to hold first. Maybe that's just my family lol. I just think it takes the intimacy out of the moment & your family and husband should respect that. You've worked so hard to get this moment.

[Hopefulpinkangel]

We push the baby head out, we choose.

[mzshell13]

Melissa, I would have loved to have my mom in the delivery room with me, but I knew my MIL would be jealous. And there was no way in hell she was going to be in there with me. So we came up with the same compromise- both or none. And of course I chose none, lol. My inlaws snuck in the hospital and in my room right after I had my epidural (which I am still livid about) so I ended up letting my parents in, which was nice because I felt great. I sent everyone out when I got checked, but told my mom to come back in until it was time for me to push. I'm sure my MIL was in the waiting room fuming, but I could care less.

It was so nice and intimate having it just be me and L (and my Dr and a bunch of nurses), I really felt like it allowed us to bond as a family. We're definitely going solo again, but the inlaws will NOT be allowed in until after the baby arrives!

[Ever]

MY body, MY decision.

Ask your DH if he'll walk around without his pants on while your moms are in the delivery room with you and see how he feels about being on display.

[Mrz Heuzen]

It will just be the two of us. I'm not sure whether my parents will be here in time anyway, but if they are, they'll have to hang out in the waiting room.

[emeraldeyedimp]

My DH and I are on the same page - just me and him. He would let me have whoever I wanted though because I'm the one pushing the baby out. Last time my friend was going to be there and my DH just wanted it to be me and him - he just voiced what he wanted we didn't argue about it. It turned out that it was just me and him and it was awesome because it was our special moment.

[alicenwonderland]

We are on the same page about not wanting anyone there. your vag is literally hanging out the entire time. having the doula was nice though. She kept DH company while i was laboring.

when i talked to eric about it i told him i really wanted only him and my mom in the room, and he said ok. haha.

[Sour Amaretto]

We have had every scenario... first delivery was a whole freaking audience, 2nd delivery was just his cousin to take pictures, and 3rd was just him and I and it was amazing. Will definitely be that way this time as well!

[MosaicWife]

Compromise shmompromise. My hoo ha, my decision. And there is no freaking way I would let him talk me into kicking out someone that I really needed to be there.

[Banned-WhipperSnapper]

I'll probably have some guys from work coming and going throughout early labour then they will get kicked out to the waiting room when it comes time to push with just me, Dean and medical professionals in there. Ayden will be the first person we allow back in.