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This morning I just had a crazy thought. What if I don't think my baby is cute?! Like it or not, some babies are not as attractive as others. And some babies have "adult faces" and just well, aren't cute! I mean I think my husband is cute and was a cute kid, but I've never seen a baby picture of him. Only from like childhood. I already know that X has his father's nose and cheeks. What if he looks like a mini adult?!
I don't think it's nuts. I think many women have that fear. You know how you see babies and you just HAVE to say "oh she's so cute" but you're thinking "eww, that is NOT a pretty baby!"..........well, I thought we might have that with DS. And we thought he was beeeeeeautiful....and then a few months later I looked back and thought, "hmmm....he wasn't THAT beautiful."
Point being.....I think you will think he is beautiful regardless! (Not sure what others will think even though they will all tell you he is the most beautiful baby they've ever seen, so it all works out). haha!
I mean, I know newbies are often ugly because of still being scrawny and the whole birth process, but I mean even after a couple weeks. I've a couple friends whose babies had "adult faces" and it's creepy.
I guess all that REALLY matters is if I think he's cute. But I'm just afraid of not. But I'm sure that hormones and stuff take care of that.
This is funny since my husband and I was just having this talk the other day. We both thought our 1st DD was beautiful and no one ever told us anything but the same. Now we see her baby pictures and think hmmm maybe not the little beauty back then that we thought. My point is I beleve everyone sees there own child as beautiful.
I worry more along the lines of what if our baby has a deformality or very obvious birth mark how would we handle it. Our 7 year old DD has a rather large birthmark on her leg and not once has it ever bothered us or have we ever seen anything but a beautiful girl, but we have some very dear friends who have an 8 week old sweet little boy who has a very large (almost the entire side of his face) birthmark/growth. He is still a sweet little baby but I admire the way his mom and dad handle it and handle everyone's looks and questions. I pray I would be that way as well, but it is scary not knowing how exactly it would make you feel.
Sorry got off topic but just something to think about
Everybody thinks their own kid is the cutest kid in the entire world. No exceptions. I don't think I've met a single parent who thought their own kid was ugly.
I think it is a conversation a lot of couples have -- we have had so many "what if" conversations as it is. Like everyone else though I think we are naturally wired to think our babies are the cutest ever
Hehe! I had a giggle when I read this! The first thing I thought when my son was placed into my arms was 'oh dear god, I've just given birth to my father...!' I was HORRIFIED! lol! Seriously, he looked so much like my dad I actually got a fright, and my dad is no oil painting But within a few days he kinda filled out and stopped looking so squished, then I thought he was gorgeous...
Hi! Lurking from the Sept DDC. I have several children and indeed, one of them was born looking....not so cute. Actually, he was quite homely. I was aware of this (my first thought when they handed him to me was "yikes.") HOWEVER, it didn't affect my love for him one iota. I loved him just as fiercely as any other baby I'd had....I was just mildly aware that he wasn't the cutest newborn ever. I'm happy to report that by the time he turned a year old, he was cute and now he is georgous (he's 7 now). But yeah...rough start in the cute dept and it was totally fine and totally not a big deal! And even if it happens, it won't end up mattering at all. Plus, if it's any consolation, I've only felt that way abot 1 out of 10 kids so it's probably not too common of a feeling! LOL!
I'm actually kind of relieved to hear that some people HAVE been able to see their babies are not super stars. I don't know why but I really don't want to be completely oblivious if my kid is ugly. Lol I fully expect even if he's not cute as a baby, both DH and I were cute as kids. So, that should work out.
But I also appreciate that y'all say I'll think he's cute even if he's not. My other main concern was DH's reaction. He doesn't have the greatest filter. And he's never really been into babies much. And he's said all along he wants our kid to only have his last name. Nothing else about him in the looks department. (Sorry hon, ultrasound says he looks just like you)
i actually have this same fear lol. SO looked like an old man when he was a baby. like he was cute but not til he filled out a little! i know Tuckr already looks like him so i too am concerned that im going to look at him and not think he is cute!!!!!!
but at the same time im sure that i will think he is the most beautiful thing in the entire world, even if i look back later and think "yea he was ugly lol" at that moment i dont think anything could be more beautiful.
I remember Greg thought Noah looked like an alien (he did)- his little head was terribly coned at first, then he has jaundice and was sooo yellow. He filled out and became much cuter
Caiden was so hairy, and his nose was huge...lol.
Owen was the one I thought, wow, he is the prettiest baby I've had! Honestly though, hormones have to be involved b/c he was the one I was so scared of losing, so he could've emerged a monkey and I would have been swooning.
They change so much those first few weeks, and yes, no matter what they look like, you still adore them and think they are they most gorgeous, smartest, absolutely BEST baby out there! But we're human...
We were at a birthday party yesterday, and someone commented, "I can't wait to meet Elise. I just KNOW she will be GORGEOUS!" And her comment stressed me out, b/c I thougtht, "Eeeek, what if she's NOT?!".
Silly really!
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When Chloe was born, the first words out of my mouth were omg that is the ugliest baby ever, I don't think she is done yet! She was red, had black hair everywhere (arms, legs, back, neck, butt, ect) and had so much extra skin.
everyone agreed with us and she has been known as mankie ever since (of course you can tell by my signature she is gorgeous now
i've never had this fear...but then again i think it's mostly because i don't know anyone who thinks their own child isn't cute. my fear is that athena is going to be breech...lol. she was head down 3 weeks ago, but i swear i feel like that little girl could manage to flip around and cause me to have a c-section, which would upset me.
I have the same fear - well kind of - what if hes ginger? I know i will love him anyways but i dont want him growing up being teased and it would serve me right because we have a lot of ginger friends over here and i am always the first to tease them for it (in a friendly way nothing mean or cruel). What if the universe decides to get its own back? I have a whole load of baby hats just in case and we have told people if hes wearing a hat you will know why
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I couldn't have said it better myself!
August 2011 
But within a few days he kinda filled out and stopped looking so squished, then I thought he was gorgeous... 
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