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December 3rd, 2011, 12:00 PM
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I've been through this many times. Family ..miscarriage ...friends... the one thing I can't grasp is actually watching or waiting for a loss to happen. I know I may not loose the baby but I have to prepare myself..with that being said I feel like I'm watching him/her die. I endured a family loss and that was traumatic.. I don't want my baby die. This baby would of been due on my brother birthday. He died Feb 2006.. I cared for him...he was adopted by me after my dad died..my brother died shortly later at home..watching that broke me. I thought this baby was a sign. Pointless thread ..missing my brother ..my dad..and wish this wasn't happening. I also have prepare myself for how I will handle it cus my kids, family,friends ..do NOT know I'm pregnant. So if I hit depression ..I need handle it and snap out of it fast. My family have been without me for week. I can't have that no more. So wish..pray things ok.
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December 3rd, 2011, 01:15 PM
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((hugs)) I understand how painful it is. I've had 3 losses and they were all hard for different reasons. My second loss I was due in November. My third loss I was due on dd's due date. My grandpa passed away 2 weeks after that loss. I won't lie it was really hard! I'm thankful I did have to share the news while everyone was grieving or that I was able to go and not home with a newborn or travel restrictions. But November is really hard because I remeber all 3 of those losses. I remeber it again on dd's birthday - a happy day. On top of that my third loss, I took 3 weeks to start to miscarry. If I knew that I would have sceduled a d&c. I think I did have some PTSD after that. It was horrible and life went on during those 3 weeks. I feel peace now, but November is still sad. I was mourning one year of my grandpa's death and my miscarriage. Just sad, and I got a bfp for this baby. It is hard.

All we can do is love our little babies as long as we can. Even If they are too good for this earth, I still "feel" their presence. Your scan showed a heart beat, right? That is amazing. Just take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute if needed. Even if it's low it's a heart beat and once you see that chances of loss drop to single digits from 50/50 I think.
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December 3rd, 2011, 01:21 PM
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Sweetie, I'm sorry for your losses. I'm sorry you are dealing with this without your family. Thanks for posting your thoughts and letting us be there for you. Sometimes it's easier with people you don't know or may not meet. Is there anyone you can be comfortable enough to sit down and talk with face to face?

Sending you sticky vibes, and good thoughts.
With love, Cindy.
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December 3rd, 2011, 01:47 PM
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((hugs)) I understand how painful it is. I've had 3 losses and they were all hard for different reasons. My second loss I was due in November. My third loss I was due on dd's due date. My grandpa passed away 2 weeks after that loss. I won't lie it was really hard! I'm thankful I did have to share the news while everyone was grieving or that I was able to go and not home with a newborn or travel restrictions. But November is really hard because I remeber all 3 of those losses. I remeber it again on dd's birthday - a happy day. On top of that my third loss, I took 3 weeks to start to miscarry. If I knew that I would have sceduled a d&c. I think I did have some PTSD after that. It was horrible and life went on during those 3 weeks. I feel peace now, but November is still sad. I was mourning one year of my grandpa's death and my miscarriage. Just sad, and I got a bfp for this baby. It is hard.

All we can do is love our little babies as long as we can. Even If they are too good for this earth, I still "feel" their presence. Your scan showed a heart beat, right? That is amazing. Just take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute if needed. Even if it's low it's a heart beat and once you see that chances of loss drop to single digits from 50/50 I think.
My latest miscarriage was December 252008 ...that still upsets me.other things affected me that day and I can never get in holiday spirits ...and to have another possible loss in December..even more upsetting. I'm sorry on your losses. Its not fair. I've lost 2 favorite family members ..and I just wish losses never happened. I know life works that way. Yes heard heart beat..even seen the jelly bean. I melted. But I just want this bleeding to go away. I'm upset..worried and hope I can cope when it happens because my babies now need me over depression ..

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Sweetie, I'm sorry for your losses. I'm sorry you are dealing with this without your family. Thanks for posting your thoughts and letting us be there for you. Sometimes it's easier with people you don't know or may not meet. Is there anyone you can be comfortable enough to sit down and talk with face to face?

Sending you sticky vibes, and good thoughts.
With love, Cindy.
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December 3rd, 2011, 04:00 PM
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Have you told your DR about the bleeding? Not sure how it works in Canada but here that almost guarantees that they will do an ultrasound. For what it's worth... my only successful pregnancies have been once where I bled/ spotted. I have always been put on oral Prometrium (progesterone) and it stopped the spotting. Maybe ask your doctor about it?
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On 1/31/12 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss
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December 3rd, 2011, 05:47 PM
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((hugs))

I agree with the progesterone, it can't hurt. I know people have bleed as heavy or heavier then af bleeding and they have happy healthy kiddos. Just keep that in mind. My cousin had placenta previa and just soaked pad after pad for hours and was on bedrest the entire pregnancy. She son is 4, but bleed as heavy or heavier then a period the entire pregnancy.
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December 3rd, 2011, 05:50 PM
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Annick, I am so sorry you are dealing with these feelings and thoughts right now. Please know that we are all here for you if you need us. (((hugs)))
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December 5th, 2011, 09:50 AM
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So sorry you're dealing with this all at once.
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December 5th, 2011, 10:02 AM
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So sorry that you're feeling so sad, and it's so hard when you have to feel that way alone. Why not try reaching out to a friend?

Big hugs, I'll be thinking "sticky" thoughts for you and your baby.
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December 5th, 2011, 11:50 AM
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So sorry that you're feeling so sad, and it's so hard when you have to feel that way alone. Why not try reaching out to a friend?

Big hugs, I'll be thinking "sticky" thoughts for you and your baby.
Ive just told one friend the other day. She is cluelss. I swear I have no idea why I told her. Like this is how clueless, we will be talking about conceiving and tests..right...ok, so I ask her what kind. shes like oh I dont know, I pee in a cup and my husband does it for me. Im like what? Ok so I let it go. I would ask her of her pregnancy in the past or current and she will be like Oh i dont know. Ask Danny, he knows more. Then I would talk to her about ovulation and she hadnt a clue. Says oh I dont ovulate LOL hmmm Ok. Ugh..anyawys, she text me the other day and I let her know cus I was scared. I swear I may as well told my toddlers and talk with them. My other friends and family dont know, Im not sure I want them to know. I know I will have to let them know sooner or later but right now Im pretty much internet bound and DH bound. Ugh..

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Have you told your DR about the bleeding? Not sure how it works in Canada but here that almost guarantees that they will do an ultrasound. For what it's worth... my only successful pregnancies have been once where I bled/ spotted. I have always been put on oral Prometrium (progesterone) and it stopped the spotting. Maybe ask your doctor about it?
In over half of my pregnancies I bled, and I have 6 boys to show for it. I had placenta previa with Seth, I was induced almost a month early due to it. I questioned the dr about progesterone and I got this look like I was crazy, I guess cus I have had successful pregnancies, IDK. I will be going to my dr tomorrow to get my HCG results and we will take action from there. He wrote on the HCG requisit, missed abortion, what the hell that means. Its not, and I guess standard IDK . I want to call today to get the first result from him but I dont know if I can or should. I am seeing a fertility specialist, not a regualr ob cus of my tubal reversal. So he knows what he doing i guess. Hes well known all over Canada.
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Sean 16, Justin 13, Kevin 11, Jayson 10, Bryce 4, Seth 3 & Kade 1
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Blessed with 1 Autistic and 1 Down Syndrome child
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Alyssa Marie Jade
September 1, 2013 @ 11:01pm 6lb 8oz & 18.5in
Emerg C Sec, Down Syndrome blessing, AVSD, Hirschsprungs, G tube
58 day NICU stay, Sept 1- Oct 29 2013





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December 5th, 2011, 12:02 PM
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Have you told your DR about the bleeding? Not sure how it works in Canada but here that almost guarantees that they will do an ultrasound. For what it's worth... my only successful pregnancies have been once where I bled/ spotted. I have always been put on oral Prometrium (progesterone) and it stopped the spotting. Maybe ask your doctor about it?
I had an ultrasound done on Thursday and it showed Gestational sac, Yolk Sac, Fetal pole, and heartbeat. But baby was measuring about a week behind with a low heartrate of 98..I read online that the heartbeat dont mean much being that low. but it still makes me nervous cus my boys heartbeats were always over 140..but then again I had ultrasounds to determine that or been told of that at a much later point, of 7+ weeks, the tech said this time I wasnt even 6 weeks, ..so i read its normal
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Blessed with 1 Autistic and 1 Down Syndrome child
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Alyssa Marie Jade
September 1, 2013 @ 11:01pm 6lb 8oz & 18.5in
Emerg C Sec, Down Syndrome blessing, AVSD, Hirschsprungs, G tube
58 day NICU stay, Sept 1- Oct 29 2013





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