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December 17th, 2011, 12:22 PM
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I didn't want to, because I knew they wouldn't be thrilled and it's no fun telling people that aren't happy for you. But, I felt like I should tell them now because 1) If I waited 'til we hear a hb I thought they might feel a bit offended that I didn't tell them sooner and 2) When I've had mcs I've always called my mom to cry and talk and I didn't want that to happen without having first told her I was pg.

The conversation:

Me "We may be having another baby"
Mom "hmmm"
Dad "That's dumb."
silence
Me "What did you say?"
Dad "That's dumb. You're gonna keep on 'til you have a Down's Syndrome baby." (I'll be 43 in June.)

So the hormones take over and I say things like "I didn't even want to tell you." "It's pretty sad when you don't even want to tell you're own parents." "I'm sorry I can't pick my perfect baby like you did." (I was adopted)... I'm crying by the end of it all and he says he doesn't want to pick a fight.

Then I said we may lose this baby anyway since I've lost about every other one and my mom asks what I'm talking about, I've only had 2 mc. That blew me away. I've had 4 and I've called her EVERY time!!! She had at least 2 mcs then couldn't get pg and had to adopt. You'd think she'd be a little more sympathetic and actually remember that her daughter has called her 4 times after mcs!?

Okay, I'm done. Dh was so good to me. I spent a few days crying over it. We haven't told Dh's parents yet. We're waiting 'til we hear a hb. I'm sure his mom will be happy at least. Everyone else is happy for us so I'm thankful for that!
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December 17th, 2011, 12:26 PM
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I m so sorry that you had a bad experience telling your parents...Being pregnant is such exciting news and to get tht kind of reaction is not fun at all.
We are stressed enough about the babys health until we hear heartbeat and get that first ultrasound...
We are happy for you here, so keep youe head up and being pregnant nd bringing a child into the world is a miracle...Hope your parents come around so you can feel better with them...
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December 17th, 2011, 02:58 PM
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I am sorry that you did not receive the reaction u yearned for Some ppl are just "set in their ways" if u will. I agree though hopefully they can come around. xx
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December 17th, 2011, 03:08 PM
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OMG Im so sorry. I have to say Im glad they adopted you, but I am so sorry they treated you that way.
You sure did not deserve to be told that, especially about the down syndrome..so what if your baby does.. like seriously? They are just as human as us and such a blessing just like the rest.
Try to just let it go on telling them, and carry on. You have your family there to worry about, yourself to!
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December 17th, 2011, 03:08 PM
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Im so sorry they were cruel to you. I dont get how parents can be so evil to thier own child especially when they are excited. Keep you're head up sweetie.
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December 17th, 2011, 03:09 PM
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I have to add, my grandma was 45 when my mom was born, my mom is healthy and in her 50s now.
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December 17th, 2011, 03:53 PM
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HUGS!!!! Oh and for the record my uncle has downs and he has a younger sister who is perfectly fine so yeah age isn't the only factor!!!
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December 17th, 2011, 04:14 PM
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December 17th, 2011, 04:21 PM
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December 17th, 2011, 06:18 PM
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Oh that is horrible I am sorry they were so mean to you. I am sure they are just concerned for you, but have chosen a really bad way of showing it. *hugs*
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December 17th, 2011, 06:54 PM
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So sorry your parents were being this way. It's not fair when they are supposed to be the supportive ones.
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