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I had another appointment today. The baby is doing great. I go back next week for another shot, and then May 1st I get my ultrasound. I am going to be going through the Obs in this practice again to find a different one. I like this Ob that I have been seeing because he is personable, but he is not on board with everything I want. He told me that since I will be doing a vbac that I have to get to the hospital as soon as I go into labor, I will have to have continuous fetal monitoring, and that he recommends that I get the epidural port put in even through I don't want an epidural. He said the epidural port would be in case they have to do an emergency c-section because my uterus ruptures. There is no way that I will be on board with all of that.
I'd certainly not go in "as soon as your are in labor" that is hogwash - there is no reason to do so. I regret going in as early as I did, but having never been in labor before I had no idea how fast or slow thing were gonna go. If I had stayed home I probably wouldn't have been threatened so often with a c/s.
Other than giving them every opportunity to shove interventions on you..
I also can not get out of the continuous monitoring, so I am hoping to go in as late as possibly and DH is totally on board with this, he is aware that with our 2 hours drive he may be catching on the side of the road! LMAO... we are actually planning on going to a hotel a few minutes away from the hospital and laboring there.
with my first VBAC my M/W strong discouraged any epidural, not that I wanted one anyway, but there was no way I was going to get a port "just in case".
Watch your back with that doctor - I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him.
I was planning on responding to you in the April 2010 FB forum but since I'm here, I'll respond here too....
This will be my fourth VBAC and I've found some ways to sort of get around some of the rules, but for me, the issue is the hospital policies and not so much the midwife/OB at the practice I go to.
I am supposed to have continuous monitoring as well, but I just sort of got around it by not asking permission or even bringing it up for debate. I just unhooked myself and went for a walk. The nurse did come in and open her mouth to disagree but she didnt end up saying anything. She just sort of stopped short and said "Ok". I just stated very nicely but firmly that I was going for a walk and would return in a short while to be monitored again. I felt that as long as I was willing to be monitored for a decent portion of each hour, they couldn't say I was being uncooperative. I assured them I would be willing to be monitored any time I was in bed or sitting on the birth ball by the bed, but that I HAD to be unhooked to go to the restroom and to take some walks. They were agreeable.
Ultimately, the most they could do would be to document that you are being uncooperative and that they've stated the risks to you and you still refuse to cooperate. They can't really FORCE you to be monitiored.
As for the epi port, my midwife and OB only ask that I have an IV hep lock in place. Could you talk to your OB and see if they'd compromise on that?
For going into labor, again...when the time comes, it will be up to you. If you are at home, no one has to know that you are having contractions. Wait till you are ready and then go in. Some people's labors go from 0 to 60 quickly, the staff has no way to know that you weren't one of them. Or just tell them, when contrax started but state that you had to wait for childcare or something. I think women are usually a good judge of when they are ready to go to the hospital. Yes, there are women who's labors fly by faster than they anticiapted but in general, I think you'll be okay waiting till you're ready to go in.
YOu could call around to other OB offices and try to get a feel for if there is another OB or midwife out there who is more supportive of VBAC and doesn't feel the need to have all the rules and what-if scenarios in place. Remember that many of the reasons OB's have all these rules is to protect themselves and for liability reasons, not necessarily b/c they really think your uterus is going to rupture.
In any case, beware of the bait and switch OB's who will tell you "yeah, yeah, we can do that" but the closer you get to your due date, the more rules and restrictions they impose and the further they move away from what they told you they were okay with. The fact that your OB is laying out his stipulations now is actually a good sign....I think it means he might be more honest than some and more willing to say up front what he's comfortable with and not comfortable with. Just remember that this is your body and you have the right to make your stipulations and state what you are and aren't comfortable with as well. If you really do like him, see if he is willing to compromise with you on some things first....if not, then maybe start looking for someone else.....
Good luck at any rate. I really hope you get your VBAC!
Thank you all for your support. This is just frustrating me because having babies is supposed to be natural, and it shouldn't be turned into a huge ordeal. All I want is a completely natural birth, and to just be left alone for my body to do what it was designed to do. I did some research on the Ob group that I am going to, and I found out that the person I am seeing May 1st is actually a midwife. I am really looking forward to getting her opinion since I have heard very good things about her being natural birth friendly.