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May 2nd, 2012, 03:15 PM
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So, I had my 22 week appointment today and this is the first time I have left feeling like crap. This is super long, I apologize in advance.

First off, Declan has 2 Choroid Plexus Cysts on his brain. They detected them at my 20 week ultrasound.

Now, the way the conversation with the doctor started was with the usual, "How have we been feeling" etc.. She then runs through my file and says, "Oh the cysts look normal." I thought she was talking about the cysts I had on my one ovary and she said, "No. The cysts on the baby's brain." My heart literally stopped.

I explained that I had no idea what she was talking about. She went on to explain that at my anatomy ultrasound, they performed a Level II scan because there were cysts on his brain. Then, she went on to explain that since my sequential screening results came back normal and I am a very young age there is nothing at all to be worried about. That these cysts are completely normal and will most likely resolve on their own. She also said that if there were any other abnormalities, that the next step would be an amnio, but Declan doesn't have any.

She also explained that the chances of miscarrying due to an amnio were greater than the chance that Declan had something major wrong with him. So, I really shouldn't worry about it all and put it out of my head.

Yeah. Stinking. Right. Much easier said than done.

After this whole conversation, she mentions my weight. I weigh myself the morning of every appt. I was 140, just like on Sunday for my weekly log for myself. Well, when the nurse weighed me tonight I measured 146lbs. I am super bloated by the end of the day, like most pregnant women.

Well, she says, "Wow, made a bug jump there in the weight huh?" I explain I weighed 140lbs this morning and my usual bloating by the mid afternoon. Plus, I still fit in my pre-pregnancy jeans and can button those suckers. She looked at me like I was lying and says, "Yeah, well, we really need to be watching that." It was like a slap in the face. I was so upset and couldn't even think straight. She wrapped up the appointment and that was that.

I seriously cried all of the way home and I am crying as I type I am freaking out. I have already read about 50 different things on Choroid Plexus Cysts, but I can't help but panic. And I also feel like a huge pregnant woman. I seriously need a nap now.

Thanks for reading this novel of a post.
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May 2nd, 2012, 03:22 PM
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Awww I'm sorry you had a less-than-pleasant appt. You'd think all OB's would understand our pregnant emotions and be more sensitive!

You are tracking your weight, and you know you are doing good, so try not to stress about that. You know you didn't put on 6 "real" pounds.

How scary about the cycsts on the brain. No matter how many times people tell you "not to worry," of course you are. I wil be praying for the cysts to resolve themselves and your little one keeps growing and devloping very healthy.

Hang in their mama.
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May 2nd, 2012, 03:25 PM
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I'm so sorry. why on earth weren't you told before about the cysts? it must have been a horrible shock as for the weight, unless you're like reeeaally short, 146lbs isn't a lot, pregnant or not! i hope you can get some peace of mind about everything soon - i think there is another lady in this ddc whose baby has the same thing? maybe she will put your mind at ease.
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May 2nd, 2012, 03:26 PM
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I am so sorry you had such an upsetting appointment! I don't have any experience with the Choroid Plexus Cysts, but I have read that they are in fact very normal. I know a couple of ladies in our group had the same diagnosed at their u/s. I know that is of no help, because no matter how normal it is you will still worry and panic. That is understandable, I as well as most pregnant women are the same way. I hope some of the other ladies that have experience with the cysts can give you more information.

As far as the weight gain, wow, that was very rude of her. And I would like to add WOW you not only fit in your pre-pregnancy jeans but they also button!!! now that is highly impressive in my opinion!!! I am way beyond that point, lol! I am just thankful I still fit into them even though they do not even come close to buttoning/zipping!! And I think we can all vouch for the fact that in the evening we are definitely much more bloated!!

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May 2nd, 2012, 03:30 PM
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I am sorry you have a very rude OB. I hope she starts to improve in her additude over time.
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May 2nd, 2012, 03:32 PM
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Oh Ashley, I'm so sorry you had that kind of appointment! SHAME on them for not telling you about the cysts when they first detected them. In my opinion you should parade it around the office that you are very unhappy with this outcome. That is the worst way to find out (and should never be brought to your attention in that way).

I can also totally understand your frustration about the weight. Just remember that it is a number and YOU KNOW your body. Is that really how she should be responding to you about this subject? "Yeah well, we really need to be watching that." Give me a break lady. So disrespectful to your feelings.

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May 2nd, 2012, 03:39 PM
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Thanks ladies. About mentioning them before this appointment, I have NO idea why it wasn't. When I asked the OB she said that she doesn't know why I wasn't called. The only reason she could give was that my ultrasound and monthly check up were so close. Luckily, there are 8 doctors in this practice, so this will be the last time I will see her unless she is on call for delivery.

Every article I read says that these cysts are extremely common and without any other abnormalities are nothing to worry about. I guess it will just take me some time to adjust to it.
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May 2nd, 2012, 03:42 PM
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Ashley, I'm sorry you had a rough day. I will be praying for Declan everyday. May God heal the cysts, and be totally gone by the time he's born. *HUGS*

As for your weight, I weighed 146 when I started this pregnancy, so every pound I gain freaks me out too. But I just saw your pic on facebook the other day and you look SOOO BEAUTIFUL! Everything on you is tiny, other than your adorable little baby bump, and you carry that so well too. Don't let that lady upset you. She doesnt know what shes talking about!! I hope you feel better.
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May 2nd, 2012, 03:55 PM
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It never ceases to amaze me how callous people in this particular line of work can be.

The fact that they didn't tell you about the cysts in the first place is just plain wrong. Whether or not they feel it is of concern does not mean you should be left out of the loop. Especially if the next person is just going to drop it on you like a bomb! Come on!

And that weight thing was so completely uncalled for I can't even find the words. A 6 pound difference is NOTHING. Hell, I had major fluctuations during the day when I wasn't pregnant. If was a real concern, that would be one thing. And it should be treated in a calm and professional way. Not in a clipped and snotty way. Grrrrrrrrr.
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May 2nd, 2012, 05:46 PM
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Ashley, I am SO SORRY. How awful for no one to call you or give you a heads up! I have no experience with those cysts, but if it is really bothering you, can always push for them to send you to a perinatologist. They are more highly specialized and can reassure you even further and give you more piece of mind. I wouldn't hesitate to call and push for a referral if you feel the need. I pray that it resolves on it's own.

As for your weight, I can't believe it. You look great and I wouldn't worry about it at all. She was being rude!
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May 2nd, 2012, 06:06 PM
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but if it is really bothering you, can always push for them to send you to a perinatologist. They are more highly specialized and can reassure you even further and give you more piece of mind.
They already forwarded my ultrasound to a perinatologist that their office works with. He wrote back a huge report stating that he felt that the cysts were not a concern. She had a copy of the report in my online records that she read to me at the appointment. So, that should be reassuring. But being a first time momma, I can't help myself but worry.


I honestly feel as if I had been informed about the cysts before todays appointment, I would have felt better about the whole thing. My DH is the best in the whole world and has made me feel so much better about it all.

It amazes me how easily the worry comes. Declan isn't even here yet and I'm consumed with worry over him already
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May 2nd, 2012, 06:46 PM
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I'm sorry that your appointment was hard. I think sometimes doctors forget that what they say is all we have and that their bad mood can ruin our days!

I wanted to say that usually the doctors scale is 4-5 pounds heavier than mine at home because usually my appointments are at the end of the day. Today I went in the morning and it was the same as my scale at home. I think you are TOTALLY right about the bloating relating to the "weight gain." I wouldn't give it a second thought. I bet next time if you come in the morning they will say "wow, you haven't gained anything!"
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May 2nd, 2012, 06:55 PM
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Oh, wow, you have every right to be upset. I, personally, would be ecstatic to gain ONLY 6 pounds. Stupid lady, what? Are we NOT supposed to gain weight during pregnancy?

*HUGE HUGS* You never ever deserve to be treated like that. You should be the FIRST person they call with a problem concerning your family, and the fact that they didn't is really unprofessional. I would totally go and find a new place to go to, although that may be unrealistic for you.

Declan is in my prayers from today forward, I hope they go away without issue. <3
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May 2nd, 2012, 07:40 PM
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No matter what, "cysts on a brain" would worry any normal mommy. I hope everything is fine, and nothing to be concerned about, but I empathize with your concern. As for the weight gain...sounds like you need a nicer OB. I guess I would be more worried about the lack of you being told about the cysts, and the OB can bite it.
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May 2nd, 2012, 07:52 PM
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this has been the week for rudeness by our doctors! The accusatory crap is awful!

I am so sorry *big hugs*
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May 3rd, 2012, 06:58 AM
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Yeah.. I am just really depressed about the whole thing and the hormones don't help at all.
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May 3rd, 2012, 07:04 AM
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Our baby showed the cysts on his brain at our level 2 scan 5 weeks ago. The genetic specialist told us they go away 100% of the time before birth, and that they are of no harm to the baby. So please try not to worry about it. It sounds scary but they really, really aren't. *hugs*

The weight gain is something I think I would have called her out on. That was very rude of her.
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May 3rd, 2012, 07:15 AM
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Our baby showed the cysts on his brain at our level 2 scan 5 weeks ago. The genetic specialist told us they go away 100% of the time before birth, and that they are of no harm to the baby. So please try not to worry about it. It sounds scary but they really, really aren't. *hugs*

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As for the weight thing, I am guessing that I was just so shocked about the cyst thing that it didn't even phase me at the time.. I am 23 weeks pregnant, she can kiss my behind!!
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May 3rd, 2012, 07:39 AM
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Our baby has a cyst too as you saw in my post yesterday and I am very worried too which is normal and natural . But I have a good example in front of me of the cyst going away. My DD also had it at our 20 weeks scan and it was gone at my 27 weeks scan . I was worried all the time and coudn't think straight during those weeks though everyone told me that the cyst will go away .
So try to relax and dont go too much over the internet researching for that It only increases our anxiety especially when we can't actually do anything about it .

And I know what you mean by the "bloated weight" . I can easily weigh 6 to 7 pounds more in the evening than the morning . So I am always a little hesitant when standing on the scale at doctor's office .
But WTH we know our bodies so much better than even our doctors . So relax and forget about what she said
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May 3rd, 2012, 09:25 AM
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I'm so sorry! I think everyone has one appointment during pregnancy that just throws us through a loop! It does sound like there have been a lot of crappy appointments this week for people!

The weight comment was totally inappropriate! You are so tiny! Unbelievable the gull some doctors have! Is this a doc you normally see or do you usually see someone else? I totally agree in that you should just avoid seeing her from here on out, even if she was having a bad or off day, you will always remember her for that!
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