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I haven't done much yet. I have been reading a few articles online that have helped me feel more mentally ready to let my body do it's job. That, and I've read a few natural home birth stories. It's all making me excited and ready to accept whatever happens so that I can have my birth story too. I do plan to do more baths before bedtime along with listening to my labor/birth playlist of songs. I don't plan on doing much else though. I tried some of the hypnobirthing thing last time, but the lady's voice sounded strangely familiar, and I couldn't take it. Once I realized who she reminded me of, I knew I couldn't go that route. Hah! Some of the visualizations I like though.....I remember specifically thinking about opening up like a rose in my last birth.
A lot of reading and I am starting Lamaze classes Tuesday and breast feeding classes too! That and I just keep telling myself "you can do it" over and over again lol. Positive thoughts and breathing excersises. That's about all I got tho....
I spend time every day reading positive natural childbirth stories and listening to some positive affirmations. Every night, I've been getting in the tub and just spending time with the baby: I lay and concentrate on completely relaxing every muscle in my body and practice "opening up." During that time, I will lay my hands on my belly and try to visualize my baby and I will talk to my baby and pray for my baby.
I love all of the birthingnatually devotions and spend a lot of time in her books as well as on her website.
But I think for me, my biggest challenge is relaxing. I spend a lot of my time being very tense. Most people would not realize that, because I tend to internalize things. SO I have to really put a lot of effort in practicing relaxing, so I try to take time at least three times a day to do so.
I guess I should also put a note here for those of you who are going, "huh?" Relaxation is one of the BEST tools that you can use to help you during labor. When you relax and allow your body to work, you feel less pain, your body opens up, and you have more energy and endurance to make it through labor (and your labors tend to be shorter). Keeping your muscles tense work against the process: this includes each singular muscle in your face all the way down to your toes. It makes SUCH a difference when moms relax and open and let their bodies work instead of fighting and running from each contraction.
Not really. I've never been the kind of person who believes in that stuff. I've mostly just been telling myself I did this once, NCB, and I can do it again and trying to enjoy the last few weeks of being pregnant and my children when I have the energy.
Since this isn't my first rodeo, I'm mentally prepared. I know the pain doesn't really come until transition, and I can handle it. I will have my husband and my two best friends for moral support. I'm not afraid. I'm ready!
Que, I'm exactly the same - really, really struggle to relax. I'm a control freak and a bit of a stresshead. Letting a force greater than me be in control does not come naturally to me. I'm hoping the structured visualisations and breathing exercises of hypnobirthing will really help me for that reason.
I'd love to have time to do something substantial on this every day but I tend to only get time to run through the different sorts of breathing and do the rose visualisation on a daily basis (I get home from work around 5-6, have to eat, and do my son's bedtime routine - it's around 8 by the time I can just sit down and I'm so tired I just fall asleep most of the time) - though I really, really need to add perineal massage to that routine now, it's harder because I need DP for that and it's finding a suitable time.
The longer visualisations like the rainbow visualisation, and running through the positive affirmations in the hypnobirthing book, I tend to only do at the weekend, along with listening to the CD. I realise it's not ideal but I don't get how you can do much more if working FT. I have also been reading positive birth stories as and when I find them online, too.
Meditation CDs are always a bit weird and sometimes the person's voice puts me off, too. I am taking two of my Aeoliah angel-inspired music CDs as well and then if the voice is grating on me, I can put those on as a backdrop to my visualisations instead. I am very used to using them to relax and zone out so I'm hoping it will still work.