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I'm having some serious anxiety, when we first brought William I could barely sleep. Getting 20 minutes every couple of hours. I finally resulted to cosleeping and I am able to sleep but DH doesn't like it. I have to be honest I'm physically uncomfortable and wake up stiff. Last night I finally graduated to putting him in the bassinet but kept waking up, much less than before but still. During the day he has to be in the same room as me or I'm feeling like I need to hurry back. My big fear is he will stop breathing. I've actually startled him in his sleep checking on him. Anyone have advice on how I can relax or will it eventually fade as he gets older?
I had this very problem with my son. But I was more so worried about myself than my son. I thought if I didn't get enough sleep, I'd just die lol. So when I'd try to sleep, my anxiety wouldn't let me rest and go to sleep. It was a nightmare and lasted weeks and eventually put me in a depression because of how sleep deprived I was. I eventually saw someone and was put on medication to help calm me down and think more rationally again, which helped soooooo much! So try to give it some time. Do what you need to do to help you relax, even if it's going "against the book". THe first few weeks are about survival, not parenting the right way. If in a week or so your nerves and anxieties don't calm down on their own, then seek some help. If it gets worse, get help sooner before it worsens too much like it did with me!
I had horrid anxiety with my 2nd, but not my first. I didn't sleep for a long while, not healthy. I wish I had consulted a professional and that is my suggestion. This can't be good for you or the baby. Good luck!
Thank you all for the advice, I've noticed it is getting better. Was able to sleep with him in his bassinet, only woke up twice except for when he was hungry. I'm still not 100% but I think it comes with the territory. I've talked to DH so he's aware of what I'm going through and I asked him to speak up if I don't.