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August 6th, 2012, 02:21 PM
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I knew it would hit. I've been waiting for DD1 to just snap.

She was soooo overbearing excited the first week. Just non-stop all about her sister. Lived and breathed taking care of sister with us. Well, she snapped last night. She broke down sobbing, hiding her head under her pillow and said, "I feel like you guys don't love me anymore and forgot all about me. Its always baby, baby, baby." Nothing I can do or say seems to comfort her right now. I know she just needs to work through her feelings. I've acknowledged her feelings and I can completely relate being the oldest child. Granted I was 2 and 4 when my siblings were born, not 6. I don't really remember life without them...but I can imagine.

She really wants to go out on a mommy-daughter date. I really want to do that with just her, but we are broke since I'm on maternity leave. My income is our "extra" money to do those sort of things. So, yeah. I'm feeling like the worst mommy in the world right now. I've been giving her lots of extra cuddles while the baby is napping or having DH take the baby so I can hang with her. But at the end of the day, I know she just is struggling getting used to sharing us.
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August 6th, 2012, 03:00 PM
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Awwwww *HUGS* Keep in mind that you don't need $$ to have a mommy daughter date. Wait till SO gets home and have a movie night with just you and her, paint nails, read a book or something she loves. She wants YOU time =)

I am planning on doing a date night with each of my girls once a month and then with Kenny when he gets older.

When incorporating her and baby, have her help as much as possible. Maybe she can read baby a book, or help you bathe baby. If you bottle feed, maybe she can help. Anytime she can be included and spend time with you is a plus.

My 3 year old is going through a whiney phase right now, she thinks if she whines, she will get something, because Kenny cries and mommy goes to him. good luck!!
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August 9th, 2012, 07:49 PM
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Hugs. This must be very hard for you and for her. I agree you dont need to have money to make her feel special. Paint her nails, do her make -up, let her help you in the kitchen or let her help you make her favorite cookies. If she goes to school, slip in a note in her lunch box saying ''mommy loves you''. Best of luck!
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August 10th, 2012, 09:59 AM
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We have been doing a lot of mommy-daughter time at home. I hand off the baby to daddy and do something with her. We've been doing workbooks together (odd, but she LOVES workbooks) and her school uses a website for reading we've been doing that. Of course, we include her in as much baby care as we can. She loves "babysitting" her sister so I can take a shower (most days...).

It has been helping to let her go with some friends also. Some time away from being a big sister. Get out of the house, etc. Baby is still too little to sit outside for any length of time! Gotta love the heat in the south!
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