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August 26th, 2012, 03:55 PM
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Madeline has been screaming day and night for the past week. Well, now she will stop crying when we pick her up...and she's screaming bc she wants to be held. We hold her a ton, but now we can't put her down without a HUGE meltdown. She's definitely caught on that if she screams, mommy and daddy will hold her.

So, how do we stop this from happening? If she's crying, I obviously want to comfort her, but I also am in need of desperate sleep. I've had maybe 3 hours of sleep the past 4 days. And, she's barely been sleeping, too....only when she's being held at this point. And, we do swaddle, too.

What do we do?
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August 26th, 2012, 04:52 PM
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Have you tried putting a t-shirt or something that smells like you with her when you put her down? And if the crib or bassinet is cold after she's gotten warm snuggling you that could be the reason also. You could try warming it with a heating pad on low before you put her in.
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August 26th, 2012, 04:56 PM
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A swing worked for us!!! Then again it became the only spot she'd sleep... we're now working on getting her used to the rock n play sleeper... seems to be going ok, we're taking baby steps in transitioning.
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August 26th, 2012, 04:57 PM
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Babies this young do not have the cognitive ability to manipulate yet. They won't have enough frontal lobe development to understand cause and effect the same way we do for quite a few months. If your baby is crying, it's not because a bad habit is formed (too early for that), they are just trying to tell you something the only way they know how.
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August 26th, 2012, 04:59 PM
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She's too young to be spoiled or know what she's doing really. She's been held, cradled and rocked for the past 10 months - It's all she knows right now and it's what she needs. Adalyn has nights where she'll only sleep in my arms/on my chest - So I roll with it. I park my butt in bed and enjoy it and sleep with her on me. I know that she'll only be this little once, and before I know it she'll be too busy to cuddle with her mommah. Right now, they need us.
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August 26th, 2012, 05:17 PM
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The swing works for a little bit, but not always. I'm just so sleep deprived...I'm scared of cosleeping. Her bassinet is right next to the bed, so i might trying putting that smells like me in it...but her swaddle should already from holding her.
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August 26th, 2012, 06:15 PM
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Are you not comfortable putting her in bed with you??
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August 26th, 2012, 06:34 PM
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No, I'm scared something would happen. I feel safer with her in her bassinet.
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August 26th, 2012, 06:42 PM
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For what it's worth... I'm nervous about her sleeping with me as well. I wish I could feel more comfortable with it...
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August 26th, 2012, 06:59 PM
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My lo likes to be held too. I have been using a k'tan because that's the only way I can have my hands free and keep her cozy.
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August 26th, 2012, 07:05 PM
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Co-sleeping is my only advice. Our babies are tiny and want to be held by us all the time. If you need a rest then maybe take turns with daddy?
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August 26th, 2012, 07:09 PM
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I think this is what they call the 4th trimester . Sounds exactly like all my kids have been. There will come a day when all this gets easier... hahwell, this part anyway and then it will be something else .

Is there any way you could find a position that will allow you to doze in between feeds? Vincent is being held all night pretty much too...either by me or dh. When its me, I prop pillows up behind me so that I am sitting up just enough to hold him while hes in my arms on the boppy. I nurse this way and he goes back to sleep This position has never made nervous but then, I have conditioned myself to i t after nursing 5 babies in the last 6+ years. When dh takes him, he lays on his back in the recliner or our bed with Vincent on his chest. Right now...we survive...thriving is for later .

Hope you can find a way to get some Zzzz!
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August 26th, 2012, 07:15 PM
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I think this is what they call the 4th trimester . Sounds exactly like all my kids have been. There will come a day when all this gets easier... hahwell, this part anyway and then it will be something else .

Is there any way you could find a position that will allow you to doze in between feeds? Vincent is being held all night pretty much too...either by me or dh. When its me, I prop pillows up behind me so that I am sitting up just enough to hold him while hes in my arms on the boppy. I nurse this way and he goes back to sleep This position has never made nervous but then, I have conditioned myself to i t after nursing 5 babies in the last 6+ years. When dh takes him, he lays on his back in the recliner or our bed with Vincent on his chest. Right now...we survive...thriving is for later .

Hope you can find a way to get some Zzzz!
That is exactly what we do too! I do co-sleep but at bedtime I like to nurse him to sleep and try to get him in the rock n play for a few hours if I can. I sit up in bed and nurse him to sleep, then hold him till he's in a deep sleep and transfer him. If he's wide awake and I need some rest DH will lay in the recliner and hold him.
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August 26th, 2012, 07:18 PM
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I agree that they're too young to be spoiled into being held still. I have this debate with both my mom and grandma constantly. I used to be scared of co-sleeping but it's really not that scary at all. They have special in bed co-sleepers for infants. Maybe you would feel more comfortable with that.

Some examples at BRU
Summer Infant Rest Assured Sleeper - Summer Infant - Babies "R" Us
Baby Delight Snuggle Nest Surround - Baby Delight - Babies "R" Us
Baby Delight Snuggle Nest - Green Leaves - Baby Delight - Babies "R" Us
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August 26th, 2012, 07:31 PM
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I plan on co-sleeping, I got a co-sleeper most like the last link here but a different brand.
I was really nervous about co-sleeping since I'm a FTM and have no idea what I'm doing, but my co-sleeper has been set up in my bed for a month now. I want to be used to sleeping with it before my boy got here, and honestly I can't wait for him to come so I can co-sleep!!!
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August 26th, 2012, 07:39 PM
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Emily sleeps in her bassinet during the day but won't go near it at night because she wants to be near us so we ended up getting the Snuggle Nest (like Liz mentioned) that goes between us in the bed. We didn't plan to use a co-sleeper but it's been really nice to have her close for breast feeding and sleeping at night. Even with that she'll sometimes get fussy and want to be held so I usually sleep with her on my chest for a little while and when she's content, I'll transition her back into the co-sleeper.
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August 26th, 2012, 07:42 PM
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The ends of our couch recline so I'm sleeping in one of those for now, with him on my chest. I don't feel comfortable having him in my bed only because the dog STILL jumps on the bed in the middle of the night...and she's 80lbs so I just feel better on the couch. Not to mention, its pretty darn comfy!

I really like the idea of warming the bassinet first Renee...I'm going to try that this week! I want him to sleep in his bassinet eventually, but I'm treasuring the time he sleeps contentedly on my chest.
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